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Anonymous
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... really? What kind of example do you set for your children if you walk up to another child and snatch something out of their hands? And of course, it's not a good idea for you to be laying hands on someone else's child either, nevermind forcefully pulling something out of their grasp. If you have an issue with someone else's child, kindly say something to the child or to their parents, not bully them for your child. Plus, if your child was interested in playing with trains (she wasn't) you could have easily modeled how to ask for a turn. Since I make him share (and he had been sharing very well and handing out trains to other children as they approached) he would have given your daughter a train if you had waited 10 seconds or asked.
If the fact that he's Deaf scared you and caused the snatching vs. communicating I would have happily interpreted and helped mediate for you. Or, you could easily figure out how to communicate as he's pretty adept at reading body language and communicating. Not difficult - make eye contact, point to the train, then your daughter with a questioning facial expression and he would have figured it out. According to when he was last tested, his language/cognitive skills are a year ahead - He's Deaf, not dumb. This isn't the first time we've encountered this. Last year at the library a mother told her 5 or 6 year old son to take books from him (we had found 5 train books for him to read and then take home, so he was sitting with them on a mini couch and 'reading' them). I was with the baby, her son wanted a train book and she said "take it". So the boy walks over, rips through the books, and forcefully pries the book that he was looking at out of his hands and walks away. I was completely dumbfounded. I tried to say something to her and was ignored. Nice. We wonder where bullies and misbehaving children come from... |
Anonymous
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blech.
that's horrible behavior to model for a kid, sorry it happened to your little one... by the way, did you try to say and sign something like "harry will share with you if you ask him" - it might help your son learn how to handle meanies... |
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| Wow. Never encountered that - that stinks. Another opportunity to talk about morals, I guess. |
Anonymous
| I encounter this all the time. It's amazing, my assumption is that parents just arent realizing what they are doing. Last week we when we were leaving daycare a toy my DD brought from ho |
Anonymous
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I encounter this all the time. It's amazing, my assumption is that parents just arent realizing what they are doing. Last week we when we were leaving daycare a toy my DD brought from home was in another childs hands. I could have taken it from her, but shed cry and I'd be that mom. I told my DD (you'll get it tomorrow) and told the teacher to put it aside for us.
I don't want her to learn that's ok. |
Anonymous
| Wow! My kids are older (6 & 8) and I've never encountered that. Where do you live? Maybe it's the area or something. |
Anonymous
Don't want her to learn it is okay to ask for her toys back? If we are leaving and another child has my child's toy I will take it back, or if the parent is there, ask them to get it back....otherwise it gets lost. And if my child has someone else's toy when we are leaving I expect her to give it back, (I'll take it from her). However there are ways to get toys back without snatching. I think your scenario and the OP's are totally different. |
Anonymous
| I (think I) would have said something to the mother in the OP. If she truly just walked up out of nowhere and grabbed someone of out of child's hands I would ask her for it back. I've never had this happen or even seen it happen so I can't say for sure what I would do. |
Anonymous
| stand up for yourself and your child, not on DCUM, in real life - when these people are being rude. it doesn't model good behavior to pretend to be too nice to be assertive, then bitch about it later. |
Anonymous
She goes to daycare everyday. The toy will be waiting for her tomorrow. If we were never coming back, yes- she could "ask" for it back (these are 15month - 2 year old). But I wasn't going to snatch a toy from an 18 month old. Maybe you are that kind of parent, not me. |
Anonymous
Yes. OP, the other parent's and child's behavior was terrible, and not good modeling. However, what behavior are you modeling for your son? To be a doormat. People can only take advantage of you if you let them. |
Anonymous
| How was the other parent to know your son was deaf? Grabbing anything from anyone is rude. Also, libraries have librarians and when, or if, another incident occurs, speak to the librarian and she/he can take appropriate action. |
Anonymous
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She goes to daycare everyday. The toy will be waiting for her tomorrow. If we were never coming back, yes- she could "ask" for it back (these are 15month - 2 year old). But I wasn't going to snatch a toy from an 18 month old. Maybe you are that kind of parent, not me.
If you really think the two alternatives are "snatch it back" and "we'll get it tomorrow," you need to expand your parentign skills. A lot. |
Anonymous
| Am I the only naive enough to not be bothered enough by things that I need to post in incidents like this on dcum? Sure it is rude but we live in an imperfect world? Either speak up about it or mOve on. Life is too short to dwell on the small stuff |
Anonymous
That's why bullies stay bullies...b/c their parents dismiss their behaviors as "small stuff" and the fact that its an "imperfect world". What's wrong with you? |