what is up with the trolls?

[Anonymous]

I swear, on every thread I read there is like 1-2 extreme posts by some **shole looking to make trouble. It is so old. Go away!

[Anonymous]

i KNOW! i swear, i think its the mean girl from my high school; now she's grown up and has to behave in public and can't walk around putting people down, so she gets on dcum at night and makes nasty comments to anonymous people... ruins the discussion.

[Anonymous]

Please use the "Report" button when you see egregious trolling. Jeff is really great at cleaning up insane troll posts. (But he won't take them down if you don't report them, because he can't read everything. And he won't take them down if they are just contradictory, etc).

[Anonymous]

I think sometimes differing opinions can be construed as being a troll. Op just because someone might not agree with you they are not being a troll

[Anonymous]

You don't have to agree, but you also don't have to be nasty. There are too many nasty posts on this board.

[Anonymous]

I think the OP is talking about some topics that turn into food fights with a couple posters telling people to F-Off or calling each other B---es, etc. The sensless name calling and foul language is uncalled for, even if you disagree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the OP is talking about some topics that turn into food fights with a couple posters telling people to F-Off or calling each other B---es, etc. The sensless name calling and foul language is uncalled for, even if you disagree.

Shit. Well sometimes I can't help myself. I will say one thing though... I don't ever outright attack people just to be mean. A lot of people on this board need support, and I try to be as understanding as possible. But sometimes a swear word pops out if I feel that somebody is just being down right mean. It may not be the best approach, and I'm trying to sensor myself more! Uh, oops. I said shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the OP is talking about some topics that turn into food fights with a couple posters telling people to F-Off or calling each other B---es, etc. The sensless name calling and foul language is uncalled for, even if you disagree.

Shit. Well sometimes I can't help myself. I will say one thing though... I don't ever outright attack people just to be mean. A lot of people on this board need support, and I try to be as understanding as possible. But sometimes a swear word pops out if I feel that somebody is just being down right mean. It may not be the best approach, and I'm trying to sensor myself more! Uh, oops. I said shit.

8:58 PP here. It's not the occasional swear. I doubt many of us have such sensitive ears that we scan't cope with cussing. But really, telling someone to F-off, bi--h because she called your kids rug rats is not called for. I'm not trying to pick a fight or be a snark, I'm trying to let you know how I feel. I don't like reading those posts, although at times I do find them entertaining.
I recently have read way too many F-off you f-ing b--ch, I'm going to shove a phone up your a--, go to hell, I better not see you and your f-ing snot nosed brat, etc.
Disagreement is fine. But that type of communication does not further any discussion. it just turns into a war between 2-4 anonymous posters and makes all of us look like snarky b--ches. Its why DCUM has a bad rap, and why I won't look at this site for a few weeks. I read and post at this site because I genuinely like to see if anyone else has the same issues as me and see what things work or don't work for them. I don't like seeing some innoculous question turn into a fight, or someone post a question because they are looking for a fight.

[Anonymous]

April fool?

[Anonymous]

Not always trolling, it's usually differing opinions. There are very few posts where people outright call someone an ahole, etc. Often, the differing opinions are made as tough love, or a reality check for someone who is complaining about something that they have total control over (or caused themself). Here are a few examples:

1. Complaining about DH for not helping out when you haven't firmly discussed it with him or attempted to get counseling. You knew who he was when you married him.
2. Complaining about DC not sleeping after 1 yr. when you insist on cosleeping and won't let him/her fuss for 5 minutes alone.
3. Complaining that DH doesn't do everything the way that you would, even though he provides his "share" of the parenting. If the kid is safe and healthy, who cares?
4. Complaining that being a parent is so hard and stressful when you refuse to compromise (or cut out) on the activities that you had pre-parenthood.
5. Insisting on bringing your child to places where they might be a distraction (some restaurants). Just do it, stop asking DCUM what they think about it.
6. Writing posts such as, "to the parent who (insert situation)....." Just have a backbone and address the situation when it happens.
7. Looking for DCUM approval on how long you breastfed. Usually cleverly inserted within a longer post. It's a very small factor in your child's lifelong development.

These types of posts are troll-magnets.

[Anonymous]

I think there are two types of posters (well the main two). 1) A person just expressing themselves and thinking things (that are maybe stupid) but hey its a public forum and 2) the attackers. There is no need to jump down someones throat immediately for a post in an aggressive manner. I find that if I disagree with someone I state my own opinion, but what gets me livid is when someone counter posts to me with a vicious response. We all have different opinions and when it gets out of control is when someone through a post attacks you just because you have a different opinion that might not be the best argument, might not be PC, might not be fair but thats life. I think people forget it is in fact a public forum.

There was a post in the health and beauty section about wearing a dress with no stockings tonight and if that was ok...well it turned into some hag posting that people who did this were whores. There was NO need to take it there but she did and thats the case with probably 80% of posts...even the lighthearted ones.

[Anonymous]

And one more thing - I think people who feel the need to control others behavior (re: I'm going to follow you and your kid and take pictures of him peeing and turn it into the cops) very disturbing, and think they need some therapy about their controlling behavior. Seriously, calling Fairfax County to see what they do to if someone reported a 3 year peeing in a park behind a bush away from the play area because of a complete strangers question on DCUM on what others thought about it? That's taking these discussions to a level its not intended for.

And I find those that threaten violence (I'll shove that phone up your a--) need some anger management classes. If you have such a vitriol response to an anonymous post that from someone you'll likely never run into, you need help. A simple "I'd confiscate the phone and delete the photo because it's inappropriate to take photos of a child peeing" would be the appropriate response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And one more thing - I think people who feel the need to control others behavior (re: I'm going to follow you and your kid and take pictures of him peeing and turn it into the cops) very disturbing, and think they need some therapy about their controlling behavior. Seriously, calling Fairfax County to see what they do to if someone reported a 3 year peeing in a park behind a bush away from the play area because of a complete strangers question on DCUM on what others thought about it? That's taking these discussions to a level its not intended for.

And I find those that threaten violence (I'll shove that phone up your a--) need some anger management classes. If you have such a vitriol response to an anonymous post that from someone you'll likely never run into, you need help. A simple "I'd confiscate the phone and delete the photo because it's inappropriate to take photos of a child peeing" would be the appropriate response.

Ok honey I read that crazy thread and you need to take your hate back there. This thread is to express frustration with the exact thread you are commenting on. I fyou still have an issue with the mom you were arguing with take it back there.

[Anonymous]

Eh... I'd still shove the phone up her ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not always trolling, it's usually differing opinions. There are very few posts where people outright call someone an ahole, etc. Often, the differing opinions are made as tough love, or a reality check for someone who is complaining about something that they have total control over (or caused themself). Here are a few examples:

1. Complaining about DH for not helping out when you haven't firmly discussed it with him or attempted to get counseling. You knew who he was when you married him.
2. Complaining about DC not sleeping after 1 yr. when you insist on cosleeping and won't let him/her fuss for 5 minutes alone.
3. Complaining that DH doesn't do everything the way that you would, even though he provides his "share" of the parenting. If the kid is safe and healthy, who cares?
4. Complaining that being a parent is so hard and stressful when you refuse to compromise (or cut out) on the activities that you had pre-parenthood.
5. Insisting on bringing your child to places where they might be a distraction (some restaurants). Just do it, stop asking DCUM what they think about it.
6. Writing posts such as, "to the parent who (insert situation)....." Just have a backbone and address the situation when it happens.
7. Looking for DCUM approval on how long you breastfed. Usually cleverly inserted within a longer post. It's a very small factor in your child's lifelong development.

These types of posts are troll-magnets.

Seriously, check out "Peeing at neighborhood park question" (now up to 10 pages with a lot of personal attacks and downright vicious posts) and "Have You Let Yourself Go Since Becoming a Wife/Mom?" (now up to 18 pages with some real zingers).
The ones you list always attractsome snarky comments, which are uncalled for but not overall depressing. Then there's the ones I list, which led to very bizarre/vitriol exchanges between people.