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Anonymous
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While working moms may smugly talk about their relative financial security as compared to non-working moms (true) and how "boring" SAHMs are (also true), I'm going to talk about how no one seems to care what the HELL your daycare kids are doing while you're at the Palm or the plenary session and frankly, I've had it trying to deal with YOUR kids.
Now that summer is here, it is more apparent when the daycare kids are set loose a la Lord of the Flies on our local parks and attractions. My 2-year-old and I were chased out of a local park by a roving band of preschool thugs just today where my son was reduced to hyperventilating tears by a group of boys who threw mulch in his face, kicked his sand castle over and later proceeded to rifle through my purse (!) on a bench when they were told repeatedly they could not have my son's special toy. These boys were cherubic looking five year olds but behaved like seasoned criminals while their disinterested bovine daycare "teachers" (?) sat far away at a picnic pavillion, looking on as these angry kids threw each other to the ground and taunted other children. Who cares? They are getting a paycheck! Sadly, I've seen this WAY too often. My friends and I groan whenever we see the daycares coming. It's always the same. These kids have no one to wipe their gross little noses. No one to care that they have no sand toys at the park. No one to care that they are behaving poorly. Sometimes I'm shocked at the lack of supervision. I was at an area mall when a group descended and these kids were outside/inside. My mother and I were like, "there are NO teachers with these kids." They were over eating pizza in a corner out of sight of these small kids. A recent trip to Chuck E. Cheese was akin to stepping over the border into Tijuana with the little urchins BEGGING for tokens from moms there with their kids. My daughter had emptied her cup of tokens doling them out to the kids in daycare shirts when finally I had to say, enough! Sure, I feel badly but I wonder does your mother -- who probably earns more taking a poo at work than I do all year with my little freelance stuff -- know? Does she know you are out here during the day begging. Well I'm telling you. They are! So flame me all you want. Tell me I'm just JEALOUS. But I've had it and I wanted you to know. Call it public service. |
Anonymous
| Your child is weak - I can almost smell your fear. But you are right to be afraid - our rough little pack urchins are the future! |
Anonymous
| Just wait until your precious two year old has his 5th birthday party! All those terrible creatures will be in your house sans parents. Even worse, one of them will be yours! |
Anonymous
| Guess again. His fifth birthday will be in the municipal trash dump, his toys, whatever he can scavenge from the refuse or steal from weaker, better behaved children. |
Anonymous
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Truth is, most of us don't like other people's children - especially in groups. We just blame it on their upbringing.
I could change ten words in the initial post and I would have seen it before about indulgent SAHMs, nannies, martians.... |
Anonymous
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Daycare is more peer to peer influence, than adult to child. Sad, but this does make for some unruly children, especially when at a daycare that doesn't have proper supervision.
Thank God my children go to a wonderful daycare/preschool. The teachers are always interacting with the children, and often playing games with them. How nice it is to go and pick up the children, and see that they are all out on the daycare's playground, and some teachers are playing tag, another is playing catch, another is cheering the tricycle race, and yet another is just hanging back, sitting with a group of children, and watching to make sure everything is alright. This summer when my oldest does the summer camp program, I know she will be safe, and supervised. There are 20 children in my eldest's class, and they will be going out with at least two teachers and two aids. That's a pretty good ratio, and I feel confident in their ability to keep the children under control. I love that with my daycare, I can just drop in and see how the kids are doing. They have a CCTV in the front office, where I am able to watch them, with out disturbing them. I can also just drop by on my lunch hour and take one, or both, out to lunch. I love that my children are socializing with other children their age. Something they didn't do as often, during the four years, I was home with them. They now have best friends, and less than best friends, and they love every minute of it. OP, I am not saying that your points are not valid, but it also goes without saying, not all daycares are created equal. Same goes with SAHMs. Sure your child may be in a loving, stable home, but there are many children who are not. Many mothers are not equipped to stay at home, as not every woman is born with the skill to mother, nor the patience it takes. Read A Boy Called IT and tell me what a wonderful SAHM the mom (in that autobiography) was. I can tell you that from my experience with daycare, that my children are the happiest they have ever been. Their behavior has also improved. I see some real benefits to daycare. Oh, and it still breaks my heart that I had to go to work, and put them in care. What is one supposed to when times are tough, and my working is the only thing bringing in money. Should I have the house foreclosed upon, beg for food or money, or be grumpy and snap at my children, because there is only fear of what is coming next? |
Anonymous
| Sniff, Sniff. I'm feeling a little nauseous now. Too bad the forum doesn't have a musical option, we could start the violins for PP. |
Anonymous
Even by the standards of DC urban moms this seems unusually vitriolic and unpleasant. What is your problem? I hope you don't choke on your own bile. |
Anonymous
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To the OP...will you feel the same way when your child goes to Kindgergarten?????? I am sure your kid will be an angel all day in his class.
My child goes to a great daycare run by the US Govt and he is one of the best behaved kids you have ever seen at school and at home. What was your child doing at 3:30 pm while you were writing your nasty rant while I was working to support my family? Why were you not paying attention to your child in the middle of the day and were on the computer making blanket comments about all kids in daycare? Remember honey...you started this fight. Find another park to go to and mind your own business. |
Anonymous
| OP - Which park are you going to? I'm just curious what area of town this is happening. The daycares that I know have their own playground and their outings do not venture very far from the center. Maybe what you're witnessing is summer camp kids? |
Anonymous
| Calling the chikldren names is not necessary. All kids play/act rough I did, you did and your child will too |
Anonymous
This post was RUDE. Your poor children. |
Anonymous
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Get over yourself OP. Those aren't daycare children-those are camp kids. Daycares and preschools have their own playgrounds! I'm sure your son will one day want to go to camp-and will just as rambunctious as the other children. They're children! So your son just sits around, has no enthusiasm-at 2? My son is 17 months and we can't keep up with him! When he sees other children at the park-he makes damn sure he joins in on the fun.
BTW-my son isn't at daycare. I just think you're RUDE and INCONSIDERATE. |
Anonymous
| I agree with PP. Daycare kids don't go to public parks except maybe once in a while for a break in routine. If they are just showing up in summer and not during the rest of the year, they are probably summer camp kids. |
Anonymous
| Not sure about the parks thing (my child goes a daycare in DC that does frequent the neighborhood public park) - but I note from the OP that she seems to see evil daycare children whereever she goes - the park, the mall, Chuck E Cheese. I've never heard of a daycare frequenting either of the latter two venues - our daycare field trips involve the zoo or museums, as I suspect do most. However it sounds like a nefarious coincidence to me. Perhaps the OP and her perfect child are being stalked by the terrorist offspring of negligent working parents and/or the ruffian spawn of the unwashed working class. That -- or she is delusional, defense, and downright offensive. Perhaps a gated community with strict rules on the class composition and lifestyle choices of its residents would be worth considering. Alternatively, try upping your medication. |