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Anonymous
| I'm a SAHM. I frequently see daycare children (with attentive caregivers) in the public park in my neighborhood, behaving just as well as the children there with nannies or mothers. |
Anonymous
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To the 5/30 9:31 poster - in my neighborhood day cares and preschools frequent our local park as well as library story time. Yes, they have their own playground, but use the neighborhood one as well.
There are good childcare providers - and poor ones. I work from home and have the flexibility to stop in at story hour and the park every once in a while. I wish other parents did the same to observe how their child is being watched. Story time at our library is chaos as nannies sit and socialize as their charges run around thinking that the library is a playground. This is the same behavior that is at the playground. The challenge that the OP highlighted is that when there are multiple children watched by 1 individual it is more challenging to control. To the original poster: I would recommend the next time you are attacked by a pack of 5 year olds - find the adult in charge and make them aware of the situation. If the adult does not take any action, find out what pre-school / daycare they are associated with and make the director aware as well as post the situation with specifics here. I am sure the parents who are sending their children to that program would like to know. |
Anonymous
The OP sees evil daycare children everywhere she goes becasue that's what she chooses to see. I agree that even by the standards of DCUM, OP is a new breed of crazy. Referencing "little urchins" in Tijuana? These are poverty-stricken CHILDREN you are verbally spitting upon. Through no fault of their own. No one thinks you're jealous, but it is very clear that you are vicious, mean, mentally instable, and incapable of being a good mother. I will pray for your children. |
Anonymous
Classist, xenophobic, scatological....not to mention profoundly ignorant and unpleasant. Maybe you would earn more from your little freelance stuff if you weren't such a grotesque caricature? |
Anonymous
| Oh brother, OP... Get over yourself! |
Anonymous
| I pity her children. I'm sure her son is insecure. |
Anonymous
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Look at what time OP posted 3:30am, this is really bothering her. Such negative energy so early in the morning! A little unbalanced maybe? Wound a bit tight? Need a Prozac refill? Gosh, I hope she's napping right now, she must be tired. I could not imagine walking around feeling to upset all the time-icky. I feel sorry that her kid has to be home with that all day. I'm not sure if she needs a hobby or some meds, but whatever it is she needs help fast because if her kid grows up with such a nasty mom they'll surely grow up screwed up.
I'm a SAHM and unlike seemingly most people on DCUM my son has friends and I have friends both working and SAH and I not feel the need or desire to criticize their choice or financial need to work or not work. Many of my WM friends play hookey from work from time to time and we do things together with the kids during the week. I have NEVER EVER observed a noteworty difference between the two types of children and the way they are behaved or their intellectual abilities. I have only observed the fact that people have different temperaments, with some kids being easy and others off the wall. I've had a few "incidents" of aggression at playgrounds during the day, but as far as I can tell these are mostly kids with their SAHMs. Aggression and boundary tests are all part of the growth of the social animal. I hope the OP does not give birth to a "spirited" child, maybe she'll throw it in a cage and we'll hear about the shocking conditions and her arrest on the evening news. |
Anonymous
| OP, when the daycare kids bully other children in the park, disrupt story hour, or beg tokens at chuck e cheese, do you talk to the teachers? Do you march up to the "caregivers" and make it known that their charges are misbehaving? If so, what kind of a reaction do you get? If you just sit and stew, I don't have as much sympathy. I hope you're being pro-active about the situation, and let the teachers know that they're being observed. |
Anonymous
Actually, considering the stupidity of the OP's post, I thought the "sniff sniff" poster was remarkably gentle. |
Anonymous
Uh, the sniff-sniff post WAS the OP. I am fairly sure she gets the award for all-time nastiest most rabidly mean DCUMer. And that is QUITE the distinction. |
Anonymous
Whoops. My bad. |
Anonymous
I am the poster you are Sniffing at. I was sincere and honest. I had to put my children in care because of some financially difficult times. I think this shows my children that I will do what it takes to make sure that they are clothed, fed, and have a roof over their heads. They may be young, but they are not stupid, and they can learn from my example. I learned the same thing from my parents, when my dad went through two separate instances of long term unemployment. Neither time was he young, late 40s early 50s, and that man worked like a dog. He would pump gas, move furniture, mow lawns, paint houses, anything and everything he could do to pay the rent, put food on the table, and to make sure that all of us had something for Christmas. The first time, my mother had just returned to work. All the children were in school, and she started working part-time. When my dad lost his job, her part time job went to full time, plus overtime when she could get it. If, to you, that sounds corny, melodramatic, or you feel it calls for violins, that's your issue. I get the distinct impression you are a bit selfish, sheltered, and completely lacking in the empathy department. While I wouldn't go as far as people who said they feel sorry for your children, I will say that I feel sorry for you. Too bad you can't see beyond what effects you to see all the other wonderful people in this world. You are missing out on a beautiful thing. |
Anonymous
| I like the poo comment. That was funny. |
Anonymous
| I am a SAHM and go to the parks a handful of times during the week. During the summer there is a 'summer camp' at our playground. The last couple of times I was there last summer there were a group of girls that loved being around my little guy(1 yr. at the time). He had a BLAST! And the teenagers running the camp were actively playing with and supervising the other kids. I think it all depends on the supervision... these were teenagers running the show... but they were into it! I do think the OP has a right to be a bit pissed though... I would be upset if kids were throwing mulch in my kids face and going through my purse~! |
Anonymous
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Also, not all of us working moms are "at the Palm" or "in a plenary session." Some of us are sifting through impenetrable reports and making calls to ensure the safety of the water you drink. Some of us are working to get the funding for the very playground you are on. Some of us are cleaning the bathrooms and offices that your salary-earning spouse uses every day at the office. Some of us are driving the trucks and flying the airplanes that bring the food to the grocery store that ends up on your table. Some of us are changing the sheets of the bed of the child who is going through yet another round of chemotherapy and has thrown up yet again. Some of us are making sure that the grandmother suffering from Alzheimers doesn't wander down the street in her underwear. Some of us are sitting in a lab titrating, hoping against hope that we will play a small role in the cure for Parkinsons. Some of us are arranging the schedules of world-class violinists who will perform music for schoolkids who otherwise would never have been exposed to such beauty. Some of us are struggling child with a learning disability how to read. Some of us working to ensure that your retirement funds are secure. Some of us are training for our next tour of duty in Iraq.
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