If you look good in a bikini

[Anonymous]

Do you have friends that also look good in a bikini? If not, are they jealous? Catty? Nasty? Should I cover up head to toe instead? Not a bad problem to have, but I'm wondering how you deal.

[Anonymous]

I don't look good in a bikini, but I have a friend who does and we hang out together all the time at the pool in the summer. I'm jealous, but in a fun way, and I'm genuinely happy for her.

[Anonymous]

Sure I look good....it's all a matter of opinion. I can tell sometimes that I have friends who are self conscious, but I think that overall they are much prettier than I am anyways. They are not catty or nasty because I don't pick my friends because of looks, and I would never be friends with people who do the same. They do make nice comments like 'how do you stay so skinny?' (if a size 6-8 is 'skinny'), and I am sensitive to their insecurities and only give compliments because I wish I had half the fashion sense they do.

[Anonymous]

OP here. PP, are you saying I should pick prettier friends? JK.

[Anonymous]

I have one friend who looks great in a bikini and of course I'm totally jealous. But honestly, I've got a much better face. So it all evens out in the end.

[Anonymous]

My best friend is 70 pounds overweight. I work out 2 hours every day. I'll run around in a bikini without a thought, but she keeps a little dress on. If anything, I think she likes that I draw attention away from her.

[Anonymous]

I def have friends who are thinner than I am and they look great in a bikini. I also have friends who are bigger than I am and they shy away from bathing suits in general. None of us seem to care all that much.

[Anonymous]

I look great in a bikini normally (I'm 8 months pregnant right now ). I can't say my friends have ever mentioned anything about how good we look in bathing suits, though. Most of my friends are in pretty good shape, some not so great, but no one seems to care.

The one who always makes comments when I'm in a bikini is DH. And they are the good type of comments that usually lead to me not being in a bikini for long

[Anonymous]

I look so good in a bikini I scare myself. I feel so sorry for everyone else because I am so incredibly hot. It is really difficult.

[Anonymous]

If you have a particular friend who struggles with her weight and has issues with it, it would be sensitive of you to maybe dial it down just a bit and wear a one-piece or a coverup when you are with her. You certainly don't have to do that, but if your goal is to make a sensitive friend more comfortable it may help. Similarly, when I make plans with a friend who I know is struggling financially, I don't suggest shopping as an activity and I don't talk about planning a vacation or getting a new car. And when my other friend comes over who is still grieving for her mom, I don't show her the adorable sweater mine just knitted for my DD.

There are always going to be inequalities in friendships, especially long friendships, and both parties should try not to let these things come between them.

[Anonymous]

If you have a particular friend who struggles with her weight and has issues with it, it would be sensitive of you to maybe dial it down just a bit and wear a one-piece or a coverup when you are with her. You certainly don't have to do that, but if your goal is to make a sensitive friend more comfortable it may help. Similarly, when I make plans with a friend who I know is struggling financially, I don't suggest shopping as an activity and I don't talk about planning a vacation or getting a new car. And when my other friend comes over who is still grieving for her mom, I don't show her the adorable sweater mine just knitted for my DD.

This is a really great sentiment. You are a very sensitive (in a good way) friend, and I wish more humans in this city were like you.

I guarantee: one of those many humans who is decidedly not like you, and is tone deaf, is about to post and blather on about how "if you really are friends with someone it shouldn't matter, they should Be Happy For You At All Times." But you know what? It's just as easy to choose the 1-piece that morning, isn't it? Or slap the filter over your mouth for those 2 hours you are together.

[Anonymous]

My sister looks amazing in a bikini; me, not so much. And to make matters worse, we're twins. But she also works out a lot (though she IS naturally thin) so I enjoy it for her. She's earned it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have a particular friend who struggles with her weight and has issues with it, it would be sensitive of you to maybe dial it down just a bit and wear a one-piece or a coverup when you are with her. You certainly don't have to do that, but if your goal is to make a sensitive friend more comfortable it may help. Similarly, when I make plans with a friend who I know is struggling financially, I don't suggest shopping as an activity and I don't talk about planning a vacation or getting a new car. And when my other friend comes over who is still grieving for her mom, I don't show her the adorable sweater mine just knitted for my DD.

There are always going to be inequalities in friendships, especially long friendships, and both parties should try not to let these things come between them.

WOW! Someone on here who takes the high road!

Sending good wishes your way!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best friend is 70 pounds overweight. I work out 2 hours every day. I'll run around in a bikini without a thought, but she keeps a little dress on. If anything, I think she likes that I draw attention away from her.

Classic Simp and the Blimp couple.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My best friend is 70 pounds overweight. I work out 2 hours every day. I'll run around in a bikini without a thought, but she keeps a little dress on. If anything, I think she likes that I draw attention away from her.

Classic Simp and the Blimp couple.

Mary and Rhoda.