How many men have you slept with?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I went through my wild, crazy, single, don't want to be tied down days...but some of these numbers are just mind boggling to me. Do you never see the same man twice? You think that's sexy? Really?

Sexy to who? Sexy to me? or sexy for future partners? Obviously, if I'm doing it, it's because I want to do it. My husband of 21 years doesn't have an issue with numbers, so it's obviously not a detriment to my long term numbers.

I'm not at 100, but 100 is not that high. If you are sexually active from age 18 to 28 and have one anonymous hook-up per month, you will end up with 120 partners over that period. That's one frat party or bar night a month.

I guess sexy in any way, shape or form..

I fooled around a lot in college...kissing on the dance floor, making out in cars, etc mainly because I was young, curious and really didn't know what I was looking for. But actually sleeping with scores of random men...no, I couldn't have done that even at my most jaded. I didn't necessarily want to be tied down at the stage in my life, but some amount of familiarity was a good thing - a really good thing actually. Much better than nameless, faceless...cold.

Not judging you at all, just surprised that you have no regrets from going that route.

[Anonymous]

Male here, 12 women, the last being DW. I kept a list.

I started late: my number was zero through college, although not for lack of interest or even opportunity, just terminal nerdness. After that I figured things out and rapidly caught up for lost time. I didn't exactly cut a wide swath but several of my relationships were very, very gratifying. I don't regret any of them, although in retrospect some were poor choices on my part. And in a couple of cases I do regret not having had the good sense to continue the relationship at the time. But when all is said and done, I learned something from each of them, so to that degree they were all worthwhile.

[Anonymous]

2, married both.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I went through my wild, crazy, single, don't want to be tied down days...but some of these numbers are just mind boggling to me. Do you never see the same man twice? You think that's sexy? Really?

Sexy to who? Sexy to me? or sexy for future partners? Obviously, if I'm doing it, it's because I want to do it. My husband of 21 years doesn't have an issue with numbers, so it's obviously not a detriment to my long term numbers.

I'm not at 100, but 100 is not that high. If you are sexually active from age 18 to 28 and have one anonymous hook-up per month, you will end up with 120 partners over that period. That's one frat party or bar night a month.

You will also end up with an STD, in all likelihood, whether you are male or female!

[Anonymous]

I'm 37, I've had sex somewhere around 25 men. I think that number is pretty high. I couldn't imagine getting near 100 as some of you have suggested!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One guy at a time is hardly a "multitude."

A skanky old ho who has had over 100 men inside her might have had them one at a time... but I certainly wouldn't bet any money that she'd never taken them two (or more) at a time.

LOL, are you trying to say she may have had 2 penises inside her vagina at the same time?

Most likely they went into different holes, but yeah it is possible to get two in one hole. And she sounds like just the person who could do that!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One guy at a time is hardly a "multitude."

A skanky old ho who has had over 100 men inside her might have had them one at a time... but I certainly wouldn't bet any money that she'd never taken them two (or more) at a time.

You're very uptight, aren't you? You might need to get laid.

Why do you care? If you don't want to have that much sex with that many people, then don't. If you don't want to sleep with someone who has had sex with that many people, then don't.

I don't need you to tell me to do as I like. And one of the things I like to do is call a ho a ho -- and in this case, that is just the right term.

[Anonymous]

3. Engaged to one, dated another for a year and married the last. DH has exactly the same number (3).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One guy at a time is hardly a "multitude."

A skanky old ho who has had over 100 men inside her might have had them one at a time... but I certainly wouldn't bet any money that she'd never taken them two (or more) at a time.

LOL, are you trying to say she may have had 2 penises inside her vagina at the same time?

Most likely they went into different holes, but yeah it is possible to get two in one hole. And she sounds like just the person who could do that!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One guy at a time is hardly a "multitude."

A skanky old ho who has had over 100 men inside her might have had them one at a time... but I certainly wouldn't bet any money that she'd never taken them two (or more) at a time.

You're very uptight, aren't you? You might need to get laid.

Why do you care? If you don't want to have that much sex with that many people, then don't. If you don't want to sleep with someone who has had sex with that many people, then don't.

I don't need you to tell me to do as I like. And one of the things I like to do is call a ho a ho -- and in this case, that is just the right term.

Wow. You sound like quite the prize yourself there buddy. It's fine to say that what she is doing is not for you. Quite another to be a judgmental azzhole about it. Leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went through my wild, crazy, single, don't want to be tied down days...but some of these numbers are just mind boggling to me. Do you never see the same man twice? You think that's sexy? Really?

Sexy to who? Sexy to me? or sexy for future partners? Obviously, if I'm doing it, it's because I want to do it. My husband of 21 years doesn't have an issue with numbers, so it's obviously not a detriment to my long term numbers.

I'm not at 100, but 100 is not that high. If you are sexually active from age 18 to 28 and have one anonymous hook-up per month, you will end up with 120 partners over that period. That's one frat party or bar night a month.

I guess sexy in any way, shape or form..

I fooled around a lot in college...kissing on the dance floor, making out in cars, etc mainly because I was young, curious and really didn't know what I was looking for. But actually sleeping with scores of random men...no, I couldn't have done that even at my most jaded. I didn't necessarily want to be tied down at the stage in my life, but some amount of familiarity was a good thing - a really good thing actually. Much better than nameless, faceless...cold.

Not judging you at all, just surprised that you have no regrets from going that route.

I think your "nameless, faceless, cold" is pretty judgy, but whatever. I would bet that I'm more adventurous than you are in general, and that I score a lot higher on indexes of "openness to new experience." Sexual adventuring isn't for everyone, though, so I don't judge you for being a boring, unadventurous, vanilla good girl.

I don't regret any of my hook-ups. They were fun or not. (Mostly fun, though.) I regret a few boyfriends, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One guy at a time is hardly a "multitude."

A skanky old ho who has had over 100 men inside her might have had them one at a time... but I certainly wouldn't bet any money that she'd never taken them two (or more) at a time.

LOL, are you trying to say she may have had 2 penises inside her vagina at the same time?

Most likely they went into different holes, but yeah it is possible to get two in one hole. And she sounds like just the person who could do that!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One guy at a time is hardly a "multitude."

A skanky old ho who has had over 100 men inside her might have had them one at a time... but I certainly wouldn't bet any money that she'd never taken them two (or more) at a time.

You're very uptight, aren't you? You might need to get laid.

Why do you care? If you don't want to have that much sex with that many people, then don't. If you don't want to sleep with someone who has had sex with that many people, then don't.

I don't need you to tell me to do as I like. And one of the things I like to do is call a ho a ho -- and in this case, that is just the right term.

You sound like one of the uptight frat boys that I wouldn't fuck in college. They were always pissed that I wouldn't do them. They were universally bad in bed. Not worth the time it takes to remove their pants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went through my wild, crazy, single, don't want to be tied down days...but some of these numbers are just mind boggling to me. Do you never see the same man twice? You think that's sexy? Really?

Sexy to who? Sexy to me? or sexy for future partners? Obviously, if I'm doing it, it's because I want to do it. My husband of 21 years doesn't have an issue with numbers, so it's obviously not a detriment to my long term numbers.

I'm not at 100, but 100 is not that high. If you are sexually active from age 18 to 28 and have one anonymous hook-up per month, you will end up with 120 partners over that period. That's one frat party or bar night a month.

You will also end up with an STD, in all likelihood, whether you are male or female!

Your risk of most STDs, except HPV, is pretty low if you are sleeping with people who are college educated and if you use condoms. STDs are caused by viruses and bacteria, not the number of miles you put on your vagina.

Exposure to HPV is pretty much universal, regardless of number of partners, unless you and your partner are virgins.

Thanks for playing, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went through my wild, crazy, single, don't want to be tied down days...but some of these numbers are just mind boggling to me. Do you never see the same man twice? You think that's sexy? Really?

Sexy to who? Sexy to me? or sexy for future partners? Obviously, if I'm doing it, it's because I want to do it. My husband of 21 years doesn't have an issue with numbers, so it's obviously not a detriment to my long term numbers.

I'm not at 100, but 100 is not that high. If you are sexually active from age 18 to 28 and have one anonymous hook-up per month, you will end up with 120 partners over that period. That's one frat party or bar night a month.

I guess sexy in any way, shape or form..

I fooled around a lot in college...kissing on the dance floor, making out in cars, etc mainly because I was young, curious and really didn't know what I was looking for. But actually sleeping with scores of random men...no, I couldn't have done that even at my most jaded. I didn't necessarily want to be tied down at the stage in my life, but some amount of familiarity was a good thing - a really good thing actually. Much better than nameless, faceless...cold.

Not judging you at all, just surprised that you have no regrets from going that route.

I think your "nameless, faceless, cold" is pretty judgy, but whatever. I would bet that I'm more adventurous than you are in general, and that I score a lot higher on indexes of "openness to new experience." Sexual adventuring isn't for everyone, though, so I don't judge you for being a boring, unadventurous, vanilla good girl.

I don't regret any of my hook-ups. They were fun or not. (Mostly fun, though.) I regret a few boyfriends, though.

Lol. I'm beginning to think that you're full of it. How long (on average) were you with these fellas?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went through my wild, crazy, single, don't want to be tied down days...but some of these numbers are just mind boggling to me. Do you never see the same man twice? You think that's sexy? Really?

Sexy to who? Sexy to me? or sexy for future partners? Obviously, if I'm doing it, it's because I want to do it. My husband of 21 years doesn't have an issue with numbers, so it's obviously not a detriment to my long term numbers.

I'm not at 100, but 100 is not that high. If you are sexually active from age 18 to 28 and have one anonymous hook-up per month, you will end up with 120 partners over that period. That's one frat party or bar night a month.

I guess sexy in any way, shape or form..

I fooled around a lot in college...kissing on the dance floor, making out in cars, etc mainly because I was young, curious and really didn't know what I was looking for. But actually sleeping with scores of random men...no, I couldn't have done that even at my most jaded. I didn't necessarily want to be tied down at the stage in my life, but some amount of familiarity was a good thing - a really good thing actually. Much better than nameless, faceless...cold.

Not judging you at all, just surprised that you have no regrets from going that route.

I think your "nameless, faceless, cold" is pretty judgy, but whatever. I would bet that I'm more adventurous than you are in general, and that I score a lot higher on indexes of "openness to new experience." Sexual adventuring isn't for everyone, though, so I don't judge you for being a boring, unadventurous, vanilla good girl.

I don't regret any of my hook-ups. They were fun or not. (Mostly fun, though.) I regret a few boyfriends, though.

Lol. I'm beginning to think that you're full of it. How long (on average) were you with these fellas?

Why do you care?

On average, in high school or college, about a semester. After about a semester, they got clingy and had to go. I dated one guy for 18 months and that was HUGE mistake. After him, I stuck to hook-ups and casual lays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went through my wild, crazy, single, don't want to be tied down days...but some of these numbers are just mind boggling to me. Do you never see the same man twice? You think that's sexy? Really?

Sexy to who? Sexy to me? or sexy for future partners? Obviously, if I'm doing it, it's because I want to do it. My husband of 21 years doesn't have an issue with numbers, so it's obviously not a detriment to my long term numbers.

I'm not at 100, but 100 is not that high. If you are sexually active from age 18 to 28 and have one anonymous hook-up per month, you will end up with 120 partners over that period. That's one frat party or bar night a month.

I guess sexy in any way, shape or form..

I fooled around a lot in college...kissing on the dance floor, making out in cars, etc mainly because I was young, curious and really didn't know what I was looking for. But actually sleeping with scores of random men...no, I couldn't have done that even at my most jaded. I didn't necessarily want to be tied down at the stage in my life, but some amount of familiarity was a good thing - a really good thing actually. Much better than nameless, faceless...cold.

Not judging you at all, just surprised that you have no regrets from going that route.

I think your "nameless, faceless, cold" is pretty judgy, but whatever. I would bet that I'm more adventurous than you are in general, and that I score a lot higher on indexes of "openness to new experience." Sexual adventuring isn't for everyone, though, so I don't judge you for being a boring, unadventurous, vanilla good girl.

I don't regret any of my hook-ups. They were fun or not. (Mostly fun, though.) I regret a few boyfriends, though.

Lol. I'm beginning to think that you're full of it. How long (on average) were you with these fellas?

Why do you care?

On average, in high school or college, about a semester. After about a semester, they got clingy and had to go. I dated one guy for 18 months and that was HUGE mistake. After him, I stuck to hook-ups and casual lays.

Oh, I forgot to count my husband. I've been married to my husband for 21 years. He was the one who stuck around and who I didn't mind sticking around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went through my wild, crazy, single, don't want to be tied down days...but some of these numbers are just mind boggling to me. Do you never see the same man twice? You think that's sexy? Really?

Sexy to who? Sexy to me? or sexy for future partners? Obviously, if I'm doing it, it's because I want to do it. My husband of 21 years doesn't have an issue with numbers, so it's obviously not a detriment to my long term numbers.

I'm not at 100, but 100 is not that high. If you are sexually active from age 18 to 28 and have one anonymous hook-up per month, you will end up with 120 partners over that period. That's one frat party or bar night a month.

I guess sexy in any way, shape or form..

I fooled around a lot in college...kissing on the dance floor, making out in cars, etc mainly because I was young, curious and really didn't know what I was looking for. But actually sleeping with scores of random men...no, I couldn't have done that even at my most jaded. I didn't necessarily want to be tied down at the stage in my life, but some amount of familiarity was a good thing - a really good thing actually. Much better than nameless, faceless...cold.

Not judging you at all, just surprised that you have no regrets from going that route.

I think your "nameless, faceless, cold" is pretty judgy, but whatever. I would bet that I'm more adventurous than you are in general, and that I score a lot higher on indexes of "openness to new experience." Sexual adventuring isn't for everyone, though, so I don't judge you for being a boring, unadventurous, vanilla good girl.

I don't regret any of my hook-ups. They were fun or not. (Mostly fun, though.) I regret a few boyfriends, though.

Lol. I'm beginning to think that you're full of it. How long (on average) were you with these fellas?

Why do you care?

On average, in high school or college, about a semester. After about a semester, they got clingy and had to go. I dated one guy for 18 months and that was HUGE mistake. After him, I stuck to hook-ups and casual lays.

Oh, I forgot to count my husband. I've been married to my husband for 21 years. He was the one who stuck around and who I didn't mind sticking around.

O.k. - it sounds as though you weren't ready for a committed relationship when you were in your teens/early 20's. I can relate to that and I don't think that is really all that unusual. Sometimes it's fun to just stick with being single and going out with the girls for a while. It's also fun to meet new guys and see what develops, understandable. It's this continuous, ongoing sexathon in which every one of these ONSs is doing something new, exciting that seems a bit questionable....

I can see having an extended break between LTRs and enjoying some flings (FWB) here and there. But I don't think that's what you're talking about. At any rate, the important thing is that it all led you to 21 years happiness with your dh. Glad it worked out for you.