Ever meet a mom whos so smug about the stupidest things?

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Not the PP but if you don't own a TV, I think the chances that your kid won't recognize a TV character at a birthday party are pretty high. We don't have one because if we did, DH & I would never talk; once it's on, we just zone out of everything else, which clearly not everyone experiences but for those of us who do, it's not some mommy crusade, it's just a lifestyle choice. PP could very well raise her child without TV. It's not that crazy of an idea IMO.

No, the chances aren't pretty high. Characters are on clothing, toys, valentine day cards, birthday invitations, gift bags, books at the library, glittery tattoos, hair bows, lunch boxes....It takes one person, telling a child one time, that is Dora or Spiderman and they will know it. Doesn't mean they watch the shows but they will know it is a fictional character.

My DD knew who Elmo was before we ever let her watch TV. It's all over people shirts, all over books at the library, and she was drawn to him. It never bothered me, because I'm going to let her gravitate to whatever character she likes. If she likes Disney princesses, more power to her.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a single dad of a toddler, and there is a mother in my building that I try to avoid at all costs. Every single thing she says comes back around to my daughter not having a mother.

"Oh, look at your pretty yellow dress! Your daddy must not know all girls love pink." Then to me, "I know she doesn't have a mother so you have no way of knowing this, but pink is the way to go. Any time there's a pink option, pick that. And if a store doesn't have pink, ask."

She actually believes she's helping me. Never mind that my daughter picked out her own yellow dress when we were in the store.

The woman does this EVERY TIME we run into each other in the elevator. I have taken to giving my daughter piggy back rides and taking the stairs to avoid her.

I"m female, expecting a girl and hate fucking pink. Purple is a pretty close second. I was fortunate enough to receive about 1000 free pieces of girl-clothes from a few friends who were done with them so was able to almost, ALMOST avoid pink. However, the SAH in-laws have all given us brand-new pink crap for our girl. they all have eating/drinking disorders so worry about correlation.

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re: TV:

My child knew the entire "bob the builder" song before he ever saw it on TV. He was 2.5 and learned the song at preschool (which is TV free).

So there's that.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a single dad of a toddler, and there is a mother in my building that I try to avoid at all costs. Every single thing she says comes back around to my daughter not having a mother.

"Oh, look at your pretty yellow dress! Your daddy must not know all girls love pink." Then to me, "I know she doesn't have a mother so you have no way of knowing this, but pink is the way to go. Any time there's a pink option, pick that. And if a store doesn't have pink, ask."

She actually believes she's helping me. Never mind that my daughter picked out her own yellow dress when we were in the store.

The woman does this EVERY TIME we run into each other in the elevator. I have taken to giving my daughter piggy back rides and taking the stairs to avoid her.

I"m female, expecting a girl and hate fucking pink. Purple is a pretty close second. I was fortunate enough to receive about 1000 free pieces of girl-clothes from a few friends who were done with them so was able to almost, ALMOST avoid pink. However, the SAH in-laws have all given us brand-new pink crap for our girl. they all have eating/drinking disorders so worry about correlation.

Its easy to avoid pink when you have a baby. Wait until your kid is 4 or so - they will have a DEFINITE opinion on what color they want. My DD wanted pink and purple. I assume its a phase. but you may have to deal with it for a few years.

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Anonymous wrote:All. the. time.

My SIL has to detail how healthy her kids eat. She will tell you everything they ate the day before, meal-by-meal. It is smug and boring.

My SIL does the same and ALWAYS mentions that she is sooo glad that she is a SAHM. Turned into a drinking game for me and DH

This is an EXCELLENT idea! Our version will be: drink whenever SIL mentions how much money they spent on X. Guess we will need to stay over a ILs house though because we will be loaded!

+1 Great idea, I'm going to employ this technique for whenever my MIL mentions weight, food, her very low weight after DH was born, her exercise routine, or other random bystanders' weight problems. I will be smashed.

MY MIL does this too. I gained 6 pounds in 4 weeks during this pregnancy and she told me to "watch it"!!! (I'm at the low-end of normal weight gain and was normal to start with...she is going to infect my girl child with an eating disorder, I just know it.)
Meanwhile, she was hospitalized for anorexia during her pregnancy. She's not anorexic BTW...she just had a bad cold.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG yes! One takes great pride in personally preparing all of her kid's food - totally commendable but not that big a deal to those of us who use baby-led weaning. When hosting a playdate, I saw a toddler pack of Plum Organics and asked if it was hers because I was curious about the brand and wanted her feedback. She offered up a big eye roll, turned her head, then said "Oh no! My child has never eaten from a package!" and then went on to share for the 15th time how her child has had no sugar ever and won't until she's off in college.

Lol! I love the Plum Organics pouches!

I know a mom who boasts that her DD has no sweets of any kind, ever. Rolled her eyes when I gave my toddler an organic oatmeal cookie. Told me this an awful thing to do, because my kid will get addicted to it, and her DD never had a cookie, or chocolate milk, muffin, frozen yoghurt, you name it. Any sugary food is forbidden. (no health issues). She is 2. However, when she was an infant she ate entire sticks of those teething biscuits without expiration date and 35 ingredients, made in china, you know those that are sure to survive a nuclear blast.

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Anonymous wrote:Another Playseum story. We were at the one in Bethesda and this adorable little girl spoke to my daughter in French. The mother said quickly and smugly in English "oh, don't bother honey, they don't speak French." Later, I overheard her bragging to some other mom about how it was sooo hard to find appropriate playmates for her dd because she's in a French immersion program. Sure lady, THAT's exactly the problem.

meanwhile we were at a playground in Spain (the actual country) and my mono-lingual child tried to speak to the other children in English. At every playground one parent translated for my special snowflake. which I thought was super sweet.

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So when my 2.5 year old grabbed his Pooh doll this morning it occurred to me that Pooh was a good response for all those who encounter Smug Parents who avoid all Disney and licensed characters. Pooh is both.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a couple of boy moms who are ALWAYS bragging about how all the girl babies are so in love with their "little men." Maybe it makes them feel better to think their 11 month old is a ladykiller but I think sexualizing your baby's relationships even in a vague way is weird.

What?

You've never heard a woman say something like, "Oh, little Colton is just so popular with the ladies! All of the little girls come crawling when he arrives at playgroup! They just kiss him and can't keep their hands off of him! I swear, he just has to beat them off with a boppy! We're going to have a lot of trouble in a few years raising a little ladies' man like that!"

That. I think it's weird and kinda gross.

I feel the same way about the proud "he's all boy" moms (and their girl-mom counterparts, though it doesn't really happen as often with moms of girls, I've seen).

I often say my son is "all boy." Not because I am proud of it; more because I am amazed at how is that way even though I have made many attempts to be gender-neutral. But he loves dirt, cars and rough housing. It has actually been mind boggling to see how prewired he is to be like that.

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Yeah, to me it's really a "know your audience" issue. Everyone should have someone they can brag to about their superior child and superior parenting-I find grandmothers are good for this. But if you know that my child has hit absolutely every milestone late and receives multiple therapies, maybe I'm not the person who wants to hear about your how your amazing child sat up at 4m, walked at 7m, and was fully potty trained at one year, and how all of that was due to your super awesome and carefully researched parenting techniques. My motto: "Tell it to someone who cares (in a good way)."

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So, I'm loving this thread - especially hilarious are the smuggies trying to defend themselves!

Anyway, my smug mother is a woman in my group of friend with 2 boys. They didn't know either gender before birth, but to hear the mother talk, it's as if they had sex selection "I was such a tomboy growing up, I know all about football and I only wanted boys. I wouldn't know what to do with a girl. Boys are just so wonderful. I don't think I could live a girl." It's especially odd bc 2 of the women she tells this little story to have girls... And don't we all love the children we're given?

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Have heard a couple moms brag that they don't worry about things like bedtime schedules, or limiting tv time and candy/sweets. It's kind of a I'm too cool to sweat such stuff kind of thing. The brags are usually coupled with digs at people who do have bed skeds, tv, and candy/sweets rules as way too upright.

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Anonymous wrote:So, I'm loving this thread - especially hilarious are the smuggies trying to defend themselves!

Anyway, my smug mother is a woman in my group of friend with 2 boys. They didn't know either gender before birth, but to hear the mother talk, it's as if they had sex selection "I was such a tomboy growing up, I know all about football and I only wanted boys. I wouldn't know what to do with a girl. Boys are just so wonderful. I don't think I could live a girl." It's especially odd bc 2 of the women she tells this little story to have girls... And don't we all love the children we're given?

I wonder if she's saying this because deep down inside she's secretly hoping that dc#3 is a girl. Maybe tempering her expectations. I know a lady like this who loves her two boys but confessed she cried when she learned ds#2 was a boy. She's pregnant with a 3rd and it is a boy. She says things like the mom you mentioned above.

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Never can win, those women who make smug remarks are insecure. Next time tell them they are rude and remind them they are in the presence of mothers with girls and then walk away. Better yet laugh at her whole you say it just to give her an "eh!" That is what someone women need.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a single dad of a toddler, and there is a mother in my building that I try to avoid at all costs. Every single thing she says comes back around to my daughter not having a mother.

"Oh, look at your pretty yellow dress! Your daddy must not know all girls love pink." Then to me, "I know she doesn't have a mother so you have no way of knowing this, but pink is the way to go. Any time there's a pink option, pick that. And if a store doesn't have pink, ask."

She actually believes she's helping me. Never mind that my daughter picked out her own yellow dress when we were in the store.

The woman does this EVERY TIME we run into each other in the elevator. I have taken to giving my daughter piggy back rides and taking the stairs to avoid her.

I"m female, expecting a girl and hate fucking pink. Purple is a pretty close second. I was fortunate enough to receive about 1000 free pieces of girl-clothes from a few friends who were done with them so was able to almost, ALMOST avoid pink. However, the SAH in-laws have all given us brand-new pink crap for our girl. they all have eating/drinking disorders so worry about correlation.

Ohh! So THAT'S why my DD spit up so often the first few months. The pink and purple footie pajamas triggered Baby Bulimia!! Who knew??!