Thrifty vs. Cheap when it comes to kids' stuff (clothes, school supplies, etc..)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe people making $200K a year really think it's OK to benefit from other people's charitable donations.

I would like you to call up any thrift store and ask if they have a general preference that only people of x-income level threshold shop there. I just went in one today wearing my expensive jewelry so the cashier had to know I wasn't poor. Oh - the horrors!

Tacky.

Wearing jewelry that costs a lot is tacky? You need a hobby.

It's pretty obvious that wasn't the PP's point.

Actually, I didn't get the point either. I'm following the thread and as I understood it the issue was that one with sufficient income should not shop at thrift stores and if one does, he/she should feel bad about it. Then the poster noted that she was clearly wearing jewelry enough to flag her to an employee of a thrift store who would otherwise not know she was well off. What is tacky about that? I tend to agree that anyone who wants can shop at a thrift shop and WHO CARES where someone else shops? I could care less if someone with a lot of money shops at a thrift shop and then gets in her Mercedes or if someone who is poor shops at Nieman's.

[Anonymous]

I hope everyone continues to buy new, even on sale. Then donate the items...for those that can use them (defined as you wish).

[Anonymous]

So many people here make me really LOL.....

I knew we lived surrounded by self important people who are egotistical and narcissistic, but I had no idea they could be so STUPID to boot! Someone said "I Consider those who shop at thrift stores, not thrifty but poor". and I had to really keep myself from falling out of my chair I was laughing so hard. Oh, we know people like you but still I find it amusing when I hear things like this...

My wife and I have 2 boys under 3 in VA -- we make ~$250,000 combined.....and drum rolllllllllllllll....We get almost ALL their clothes at thrift stores, minus special outfits we want to match etc. And I mean Goodwill, Salvation Army, etc, NOT some snobby Old Town store where u pay $20 for used shirts, etc.....And SURPRISE it is probably the Janie and Jack, Polo or other stuff you gave them with tags on our your snobby kid wore once. All high end clothing, like new and for 4T and smaller shorts/pants/shirts they are .98 cents and they have half off days!!

So think what you want --- when you are driving your fancy car, in your too big house, teaching your kids that poor people buy second hand....as you declare bankruptcy, we wil be retired at a young age enjoying life!

[Anonymous]

I know moms that work so they and their children can wear certain brands. Some people just are not that smart in general, so when it comes to money, forget it!

NP here.

[Anonymous]

My son is in Ralph Lauren today (actually second RL shirt...the first got stained which I've treated so it will look new by tomorrow). My daughter is in Justice today. Where I buy my clothes is no one else's business. What I spend on them is no one else's business. How many people have worn the clothes before - even if the answer is no one - is no one else's business. BUT I will say that getting hand me downs or something used is not cheap IMHO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: So many people here make me really LOL.....

I knew we lived surrounded by self important people who are egotistical and narcissistic, but I had no idea they could be so STUPID to boot! Someone said "I Consider those who shop at thrift stores, not thrifty but poor". and I had to really keep myself from falling out of my chair I was laughing so hard. Oh, we know people like you but still I find it amusing when I hear things like this...

My wife and I have 2 boys under 3 in VA -- we make ~$250,000 combined.....and drum rolllllllllllllll....We get almost ALL their clothes at thrift stores, minus special outfits we want to match etc. And I mean Goodwill, Salvation Army, etc, NOT some snobby Old Town store where u pay $20 for used shirts, etc.....And SURPRISE it is probably the Janie and Jack, Polo or other stuff you gave them with tags on our your snobby kid wore once. All high end clothing, like new and for 4T and smaller shorts/pants/shirts they are .98 cents and they have half off days!!

[/b]So think what you want --- when you are driving your fancy car, in your too big house, teaching your kids that poor people buy second hand....as you declare bankruptcy, we wil be retired at a young age enjoying life! [[b]/quote]

You really sound like a condescendin, egotistical jerk. YOU and your kids benefit from the generosity of others, then come on this forum, call them stupid and criticize them for donating nice (not awful) clothing to a charitable organization!!!! YOU are the egotistical and narcissistic one. By the way, how the heck do YOU know what "rich people" teach their kids???? Your salary would qualify you as rich in any normal part of the world. Warren Buffet lives in a modest home and has not promised his kids/grandkids any of his wealth...they have to make their own way in the world. Many rich people are like that...extremely generous with their time and money. You sound condescending and jealous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: So many people here make me really LOL.....

I knew we lived surrounded by self important people who are egotistical and narcissistic, but I had no idea they could be so STUPID to boot! Someone said "I Consider those who shop at thrift stores, not thrifty but poor". and I had to really keep myself from falling out of my chair I was laughing so hard. Oh, we know people like you but still I find it amusing when I hear things like this...

My wife and I have 2 boys under 3 in VA -- we make ~$250,000 combined.....and drum rolllllllllllllll....We get almost ALL their clothes at thrift stores, minus special outfits we want to match etc. And I mean Goodwill, Salvation Army, etc, NOT some snobby Old Town store where u pay $20 for used shirts, etc.....And SURPRISE it is probably the Janie and Jack, Polo or other stuff you gave them with tags on our your snobby kid wore once. All high end clothing, like new and for 4T and smaller shorts/pants/shirts they are .98 cents and they have half off days!!

[/b]So think what you want --- when you are driving your fancy car, in your too big house, teaching your kids that poor people buy second hand....as you declare bankruptcy, we wil be retired at a young age enjoying life! [[b]/quote]

You really sound like a condescendin, egotistical jerk. YOU and your kids benefit from the generosity of others, then come on this forum, call them stupid and criticize them for donating nice (not awful) clothing to a charitable organization!!!! YOU are the egotistical and narcissistic one. By the way, how the heck do YOU know what "rich people" teach their kids???? Your salary would qualify you as rich in any normal part of the world. Warren Buffet lives in a modest home and has not promised his kids/grandkids any of his wealth...they have to make their own way in the world. Many rich people are like that...extremely generous with their time and money. You sound condescending and jealous.

People are NOT donating items (used clothing) to charitable organizations to be charitable. (What else are they going to do with used clothing without putting themselves out). They do it for the same reasons I do it: to get things out of the house - PURGING. They are outgrown and of no use. Selling the items would bring nothing in (pretty much) and would be a pain far more than any value they would bring. I don't donate stained items (they are trashed or rags). I donate nice useable items as most people do...to get them out of my house because I have no further use for them. If you're saying otherwise, you're lying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kind of interesting that the two sides are judging each other. For those that buy new and spend more than $1,000/year on clothes for their kids, I'm curious if you are debt free, have retirement savings (significant), and have college savings (significant). I just want to know if you are making choices today that will have repercussions in the future...

I spend $1-2000 a year and yes we have significant cash saved up. With two of us working to earn over 400hhi we don't have the time to thrift. I don't have any problems with it and used to when I had less money but now I have more money than time.

Debt free?

College savings?

Debt free and soon to be a milloinaire.

Damn I'm never donating again after reading this thread. I have no interest in helping out 200k HHI SAHMs who have time to thrift and look down on me for buying new clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kind of interesting that the two sides are judging each other. For those that buy new and spend more than $1,000/year on clothes for their kids, I'm curious if you are debt free, have retirement savings (significant), and have college savings (significant). I just want to know if you are making choices today that will have repercussions in the future...

I spend $1-2000 a year and yes we have significant cash saved up. With two of us working to earn over 400hhi we don't have the time to thrift. I don't have any problems with it and used to when I had less money but now I have more money than time.

Debt free?

College savings?

Debt free and soon to be a milloinaire.

Damn I'm never donating again after reading this thread. I have no interest in helping out 200k HHI SAHMs who have time to thrift and look down on me for buying new clothes.

Some of these people on DCUM are seriously ridiculous. Just because we did well financially and prefer to buy new clothes for our kids does not deserve these negative attacks.

I admit that I like to dress nicely. My kids are also well dressed. I don't buy second hand for myself and I don't buy second hand for my children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kind of interesting that the two sides are judging each other. For those that buy new and spend more than $1,000/year on clothes for their kids, I'm curious if you are debt free, have retirement savings (significant), and have college savings (significant). I just want to know if you are making choices today that will have repercussions in the future...

I spend $1-2000 a year and yes we have significant cash saved up. With two of us working to earn over 400hhi we don't have the time to thrift. I don't have any problems with it and used to when I had less money but now I have more money than time.

Debt free?

College savings?

Debt free and soon to be a milloinaire.

Damn I'm never donating again after reading this thread. I have no interest in helping out 200k HHI SAHMs who have time to thrift and look down on me for buying new clothes.

Some of these people on DCUM are seriously ridiculous. Just because we did well financially and prefer to buy new clothes for our kids does not deserve these negative attacks.

I admit that I like to dress nicely. My kids are also well dressed. I don't buy second hand for myself and I don't buy second hand for my children.

Whoa...you think e majority of the posts on this topic on dissing the new-clothes buyers???

[Anonymous]

What's so hard to understand?

People donate mostly to clean their house.

People buy second-hand so as not to get ripped off.

I do both. I am not squeezing out poorer people than myself.
My children and I are dressed in good-quality, new or like-new clothes. My house is lovely.

Stop creating a war when there isn't one. (Oh, forgot this was DCUM.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: So many people here make me really LOL.....

I knew we lived surrounded by self important people who are egotistical and narcissistic, but I had no idea they could be so STUPID to boot! Someone said "I Consider those who shop at thrift stores, not thrifty but poor". and I had to really keep myself from falling out of my chair I was laughing so hard. Oh, we know people like you but still I find it amusing when I hear things like this...

My wife and I have 2 boys under 3 in VA -- we make ~$250,000 combined.....and drum rolllllllllllllll....We get almost ALL their clothes at thrift stores, minus special outfits we want to match etc. And I mean Goodwill, Salvation Army, etc, NOT some snobby Old Town store where u pay $20 for used shirts, etc.....And SURPRISE it is probably the Janie and Jack, Polo or other stuff you gave them with tags on our your snobby kid wore once. All high end clothing, like new and for 4T and smaller shorts/pants/shirts they are .98 cents and they have half off days!!

So think what you want --- when you are driving your fancy car, in your too big house, teaching your kids that poor people buy second hand....as you declare bankruptcy, we wil be retired at a young age enjoying life!

You really sound like a condescending, egotistical jerk. YOU and your kids benefit from the generosity of others, then come on this forum, call them stupid and criticize them for donating nice (not awful) clothing to a charitable organization!!!! YOU are the egotistical and narcissistic one. By the way, how the heck do YOU know what "rich people" teach their kids???? Your salary would qualify you as rich in any normal part of the world. Warren Buffet lives in a modest home and has not promised his kids/grandkids any of his wealth...they have to make their own way in the world. Many rich people are like that...extremely generous with their time and money. You sound condescending and jealous.

People are NOT donating items (used clothing) to charitable organizations to be charitable. (What else are they going to do with used clothing without putting themselves out). They do it for the same reasons I do it: to get things out of the house - PURGING. They are outgrown and of no use. Selling the items would bring nothing in (pretty much) and would be a pain far more than any value they would bring. I don't donate stained items (they are trashed or rags). I donate nice useable items as most people do...to get them out of my house because I have no further use for them. If you're saying otherwise, you're lying.

Speak for yourself. It would be *much* easier to just throw things away. We donate instead because I know there are people who could really use those things but, honestly, this thread is making me reconsider. I think I may start donating to this organization instead:

http://www.dressforsuccess.org

And I'm not the PP you quoted, by the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: So many people here make me really LOL.....

I knew we lived surrounded by self important people who are egotistical and narcissistic, but I had no idea they could be so STUPID to boot! Someone said "I Consider those who shop at thrift stores, not thrifty but poor". and I had to really keep myself from falling out of my chair I was laughing so hard. Oh, we know people like you but still I find it amusing when I hear things like this...

My wife and I have 2 boys under 3 in VA -- we make ~$250,000 combined.....and drum rolllllllllllllll....We get almost ALL their clothes at thrift stores, minus special outfits we want to match etc. And I mean Goodwill, Salvation Army, etc, NOT some snobby Old Town store where u pay $20 for used shirts, etc.....And SURPRISE it is probably the Janie and Jack, Polo or other stuff you gave them with tags on our your snobby kid wore once. All high end clothing, like new and for 4T and smaller shorts/pants/shirts they are .98 cents and they have half off days!!

So think what you want --- when you are driving your fancy car, in your too big house, teaching your kids that poor people buy second hand....as you declare bankruptcy, we wil be retired at a young age enjoying life!

You really sound like a condescending, egotistical jerk. YOU and your kids benefit from the generosity of others, then come on this forum, call them stupid and criticize them for donating nice (not awful) clothing to a charitable organization!!!! YOU are the egotistical and narcissistic one. By the way, how the heck do YOU know what "rich people" teach their kids???? Your salary would qualify you as rich in any normal part of the world. Warren Buffet lives in a modest home and has not promised his kids/grandkids any of his wealth...they have to make their own way in the world. Many rich people are like that...extremely generous with their time and money. You sound condescending and jealous.

People are NOT donating items (used clothing) to charitable organizations to be charitable. (What else are they going to do with used clothing without putting themselves out). They do it for the same reasons I do it: to get things out of the house - PURGING. They are outgrown and of no use. Selling the items would bring nothing in (pretty much) and would be a pain far more than any value they would bring. I don't donate stained items (they are trashed or rags). I donate nice useable items as most people do...to get them out of my house because I have no further use for them. If you're saying otherwise, you're lying.

Speak for yourself. It would be *much* easier to just throw things away. We donate instead because I know there are people who could really use those things but, honestly, this thread is making me reconsider. I think I may start donating to this organization instead:

http://www.dressforsuccess.org

And I'm not the PP you quoted, by the way.

I'm a new poster but agree with the other poster. I post to purge. Throwing away would be harder for me. Places like Purple Heart or National Children's pick up right on my porch. I can purge my closets on a Tuesday and have the items picked up 2 days later. The trash would be at least week and I'd have to lug it down to the curb. What is dress for success going to do with your kids' clothes...which iswhat this thread is about,...

[Anonymous]

I love how the SAHM act as if saving a few grand a year makes them so much smarter than those of us who buy new. Well I contribute to my family by earning a real salary so when you net it out, we are way ahead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: So many people here make me really LOL.....

I knew we lived surrounded by self important people who are egotistical and narcissistic, but I had no idea they could be so STUPID to boot! Someone said "I Consider those who shop at thrift stores, not thrifty but poor". and I had to really keep myself from falling out of my chair I was laughing so hard. Oh, we know people like you but still I find it amusing when I hear things like this...

My wife and I have 2 boys under 3 in VA -- we make ~$250,000 combined.....and drum rolllllllllllllll....We get almost ALL their clothes at thrift stores, minus special outfits we want to match etc. And I mean Goodwill, Salvation Army, etc, NOT some snobby Old Town store where u pay $20 for used shirts, etc.....And SURPRISE it is probably the Janie and Jack, Polo or other stuff you gave them with tags on our your snobby kid wore once. All high end clothing, like new and for 4T and smaller shorts/pants/shirts they are .98 cents and they have half off days!!

So think what you want --- when you are driving your fancy car, in your too big house, teaching your kids that poor people buy second hand....as you declare bankruptcy, we wil be retired at a young age enjoying life!

You really sound like a condescending, egotistical jerk. YOU and your kids benefit from the generosity of others, then come on this forum, call them stupid and criticize them for donating nice (not awful) clothing to a charitable organization!!!! YOU are the egotistical and narcissistic one. By the way, how the heck do YOU know what "rich people" teach their kids???? Your salary would qualify you as rich in any normal part of the world. Warren Buffet lives in a modest home and has not promised his kids/grandkids any of his wealth...they have to make their own way in the world. Many rich people are like that...extremely generous with their time and money. You sound condescending and jealous.

People are NOT donating items (used clothing) to charitable organizations to be charitable. (What else are they going to do with used clothing without putting themselves out). They do it for the same reasons I do it: to get things out of the house - PURGING. They are outgrown and of no use. Selling the items would bring nothing in (pretty much) and would be a pain far more than any value they would bring. I don't donate stained items (they are trashed or rags). I donate nice useable items as most people do...to get them out of my house because I have no further use for them. If you're saying otherwise, you're lying.

Speak for yourself. It would be *much* easier to just throw things away. We donate instead because I know there are people who could really use those things but, honestly, this thread is making me reconsider. I think I may start donating to this organization instead:

http://www.dressforsuccess.org

And I'm not the PP you quoted, by the way.

I'm a new poster but agree with the other poster. I post to purge. Throwing away would be harder for me. Places like Purple Heart or National Children's pick up right on my porch. I can purge my closets on a Tuesday and have the items picked up 2 days later. The trash would be at least week and I'd have to lug it down to the curb. What is dress for success going to do with your kids' clothes...which iswhat this thread is about,...

Oh really? So let me get this straight. You make your kids dress from thrift stores but you neither purchase nor donate 2nd hand clothes for yourself? Wow.