Thrifty vs. Cheap when it comes to kids' stuff (clothes, school supplies, etc..)

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Anonymous wrote:Children's Clothes are meant to be bought at thrift stores. Children grow so fast, they get dirty and are supposed to drag their clothes through the mud, climb on trees and whatnot - I would never buy my children new, expensive clothes...they will be used, worn out clothes after two weeks of wearing them anyway. And I will rather spend the money saved on more important things that NEED to be great quality like shoes, bicycles, things with safety involved like car seats, strollers...and save money for when the kids get older to be able to buy them more costly items.

If you are talking about car seats and strollers you are talking about babies. Nobody cares what they wear. But when your kids are in second grade, you better start buying them real clothes if you can afford to.

NP. Pre-worn clothes are "real clothes," too. I don't think anyone is advocating sending their children to school in stained and tattered rags, but buying high-quality clothes second-hand cuts down on waste and lowers consumption.

I have a friend who brags about only dressing her children in new J Crew and other brands of that quality and higher. She yells at them if they get their clothes the least bit dirty, even on the playground. She's complimented my DS's clothes several times, not knowing that they come from Target, Old Navy, and--gasp--our local thrift and resale shops.

I get a lot of my clothing from vintage shops, thrift shops, Facebook buy-sell-trade groups, and swaps with my friends. They're high-quality, barely-used, and clean. This is good for both my wallet and my wardrobe. I dress stylishly and you'd never know my clothes had been worn by someone else. But to most of you I'm probably one of the "popes," so maybe my experiences don't count.

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A couple of the best points in favor of people of any income shopping at thrift stores:

1) Would you pass on a great deal at the Gap or J&J clearance rack because someone with less money than you needs the bargain more? And don't tell me lower-income people don't shop J&J-- they're in the MALL. I haunted the mall when I was broke, just waiting for clearances. (Got my DH a $150 Gap winter coat-- that lasted for 7 years-- for $9.99!)

2) Seriously, they are CONSTANTLY putting new items out on the floor at places like Value Village. I don't shop at VV religiously, or right when it opens on sale days, etc.-- and I can still always find at least a few high-quality gems, and pretty easily. A lot of what they sell is just "okay" (relatively little is "junky" IMO), but even though it's only 5-10% of the total, there is really more than enough "great" stuff to go around for most people's personal needs.

And as mentioned earlier, most thrifts are all about VOLUME. They absolutely need to move the stuff out to make room for more. I believe part of why I can get great bargains on great stuff (without even really trying) is that lots of "nicer" stuff is just not everyone's taste, or exact size they're looking for, etc. I used to donate to my family's tiny charity clothing thrift in Appalachia and they would sometimes laugh at the "weird" clothes (higher-end, trendier-- I grew up in MoCo and upper-middle class) I donated as a kid. A few of those items appealed to 0% of their shoppers, and they would have been happy if someone with more money/brand savvy and "weirder" tastes had bought them. I feel like I see this at VV too-- lots of what is in carts of folks who appear to be lower-income is like, Elmo shirts from Target. I'm sure a few people try to Bogart all the Mini Boden stuff, but again, since employees put out new stuff all the time, they don't get it all.

3) I didn't see this phrased here exactly in this way, but if you are appalled at the ethics of wealthy people thrift shopping, consider that the alternative you are proposing is that they buy new (even on sale)-- which means you think it's MORE ethical for them to contribute money to companies which directly rely on slave/child labor than to keep those same clothes, when second-hand, out of landfills or mucking up the textile industries of developing countries. Obviously this doesn't apply if you only buy American Apparel (also problematic) or some other brand that sources totally ethically-- but a lot of people are talking about it buying new at Gap or Target or even J. Crew. I guess it's only an ethical concern if you feel you are hurting the poor in THIS country?


(I also "only" have a total HHI of $100k for a family of 3 in a moderately-expensive area of the DMV, so I guess I'm "allowed" to shop at VV anyway, but I digress...)

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Really, when it comes to #3, I think that's just a smokescreen for snobbery. Some people find thrift stores simply "dirty" or "tacky." They want to make poor people shopping in poor stores, and MC/rich people shopping in MC/rich stores an "ethics" issue, when it's really a "people should know their place" issue.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids wear a lot of target. They outgrow it before it's worn out.
Maybe as they get older that will change.

I have 2 boys in preschool. They love character t shirts. We buy mostly clothes from Target or similar. I also buy them sweats and t shirts from the Ralph Lauren and Nautica outlet. I would consider myself thrifty.

I would consider people who shop at thrift shops poor, not cheap.

If you could buy the chacter shirts for one dollar each, used at a thrift shop, would you?

For me, the risk of bring home life or bedbugs far outward the savings.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids wear a lot of target. They outgrow it before it's worn out.
Maybe as they get older that will change.

I have 2 boys in preschool. They love character t shirts. We buy mostly clothes from Target or similar. I also buy them sweats and t shirts from the Ralph Lauren and Nautica outlet. I would consider myself thrifty.

I would consider people who shop at thrift shops poor, not cheap.

If you could buy the chacter shirts for one dollar each, used at a thrift shop, would you?

For me, the risk of bring home life or bedbugs far outward the savings.

You know the old saying, being poor is expensive. : http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/9194906.html