Have you ever been with someone you’re 100% sexually compatible with?

[Anonymous]

Yes, with my DH.

I had been with my DH for 15 years and we had a good marriage and good sexlife. But, after my 2nd kids was born...I lost all sensations in my pelvic region. And even after healing, I was without any physical sensation, any desire, any orgasm. We were still having sex and I still wanted him mentally but I was getting zero pleasure out of it. One day, when I saw my DH trying really hard to get me off, I told him that he should not waste time trying to get me off because I don't feel anything anymore, and he should just get his pleasure and not worry about me.

My DH took it as a challenege and tried everything that he could to make us experiment more in the bedroom. Mainly because he wanted me to be happy about sex once again. So, we were into a lot of experimenting (by ourselves), but by that time, a year had passed after giving birth and little by little I was healing, my hormones were stabilizing, and I guess the nerves that were damaged had regenerated. The sensations were back, but both of us were so deeply into our new sexual selves and communication that we were 100% in synch with each other. It was also around the time that I entered the hyper-sexual hormonal decade (late 30s, early 40s) and so everything dovetailed beautifully with each other. I think since then we have been very vigilant about our health and desires because we want to continue enjoying fulfilling sex for as long as possible. We are in our 60s now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Great Question

As a man, I've only had (3) really compatible partners out of literally dozens. Finding a woman that actually isn't shy nude, passionately enjoys oral both ways, able to O without toys, and puts in as much effort as me, is truly hard to find. Sadly, most women are just lazy, period.

A good lover accepts that toys are the most reliable and sometimes the only way to O for many women. Savvy men aren’t intimidated by toys and enjoy the hot sex with a woman who feels her sexual needs are embraced. We don’t want the pressure of you trying so hard to please. Women fake it with men like you.

[Anonymous]

Men are entirely too obsessed with their penis size. Yes, it matters and equally yes, it does not.

For women, it’s a mental connection. And everything else physical touch.

Sounds like some of you haven’t made love or figured out how to have fun together… absent some large penis.

I’d take an attentive lover all day long over size.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, and the chemistry was wild. I would have done literally anything for him in bed and it hasn’t been like that with other partners. He had a gorgeous body. He was tall (like 6’3”), lean and muscular. The first time we were together he had gotten out of bed to take off his clothes. I was looking at the floor when he took off his pants and his penis literally cast a shadow. An enormous shadow. 🥵 He must’ve seen the look on my face because he was like “Don’t worry, we’ll go slow”.

Does it seem like these high chemistry guys have a way of making you do things you didn’t know you could do or would enjoy?

Wow! Shadow guy sounds great! 😂

What do you mean by doing things you wouldn’t normally do?

How big does he have to be to cast a shadow? Seriously, asking for a friend, and for science.

I never measured. Who would do that anyway? I remember that when he laid it on my stomach it was up past my belly button. It was up past his as well and really thick.

Only once was I ever with a guy so large it was scary. Let me just say that we weren’t compatible. It was fun to play with but not fun to be on the receiving end.

Just takes practice. Once you're ready for the big leagues nothing else does it.

Untrue. I’ve been with three 7 inches all gorgeous . They had great O I’m deep and tight . I couldn’t O.
My best experience was with medium size

Thank god women like you exist. I'm very attentive. I really enjoy touching women's bodies and getting to know how they react. Some women have called me a mind reader. Unfortunately I'm only average size. There were times when I could tell that a woman wanted more than I could give. Did I give them plenty of Os? Yes. Did we go for long time? Yes. Did we feel close to each other? Yes. Did things become extremely passionate? Yes. Unfortunately, that wasn't enough for a couple of them. They didn't tell me, but I just knew.

Clitoris is located closer to the entrance to V so most women only can O from oral and touching. Most don’t need a huge P to have a great O.
The handjob is very underrated imho- my best partners were those who were great with fingering or even knew fisting techniques… That’s crazy s..t

I agree with you, I don't need a big P to have a great O.
But there is something really awesome about a big D pounding your cervix. OMG !

I hate big D pounding my cervix. It’s painful. I prefer slow continuous pressure or slightly moving side to side on top. Big D is no use for that.

Women differ a lot in this regard. Some like my size, some don’t, some don’t care. It’s only a portion of sexual compatibility.

No it’s part of you being a stubborn, aloof lover if the woman tells you she hates pounding and you keep doing so or tell her you are not compatible. A lot of women prefer a multidimensional and varied approach with pressure, hands, toys, oral etc. If you think a big D and lots of “pounding” is great sex that’s very sad

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, and the chemistry was wild. I would have done literally anything for him in bed and it hasn’t been like that with other partners. He had a gorgeous body. He was tall (like 6’3”), lean and muscular. The first time we were together he had gotten out of bed to take off his clothes. I was looking at the floor when he took off his pants and his penis literally cast a shadow. An enormous shadow. 🥵 He must’ve seen the look on my face because he was like “Don’t worry, we’ll go slow”.

Does it seem like these high chemistry guys have a way of making you do things you didn’t know you could do or would enjoy?

Wow! Shadow guy sounds great! 😂

What do you mean by doing things you wouldn’t normally do?

How big does he have to be to cast a shadow? Seriously, asking for a friend, and for science.

I never measured. Who would do that anyway? I remember that when he laid it on my stomach it was up past my belly button. It was up past his as well and really thick.

Only once was I ever with a guy so large it was scary. Let me just say that we weren’t compatible. It was fun to play with but not fun to be on the receiving end.

Just takes practice. Once you're ready for the big leagues nothing else does it.

Untrue. I’ve been with three 7 inches all gorgeous . They had great O I’m deep and tight . I couldn’t O.
My best experience was with medium size

Thank god women like you exist. I'm very attentive. I really enjoy touching women's bodies and getting to know how they react. Some women have called me a mind reader. Unfortunately I'm only average size. There were times when I could tell that a woman wanted more than I could give. Did I give them plenty of Os? Yes. Did we go for long time? Yes. Did we feel close to each other? Yes. Did things become extremely passionate? Yes. Unfortunately, that wasn't enough for a couple of them. They didn't tell me, but I just knew.

Clitoris is located closer to the entrance to V so most women only can O from oral and touching. Most don’t need a huge P to have a great O.
The handjob is very underrated imho- my best partners were those who were great with fingering or even knew fisting techniques… That’s crazy s..t

I agree with you, I don't need a big P to have a great O.
But there is something really awesome about a big D pounding your cervix. OMG !

I hate big D pounding my cervix. It’s painful. I prefer slow continuous pressure or slightly moving side to side on top. Big D is no use for that.

Women differ a lot in this regard. Some like my size, some don’t, some don’t care. It’s only a portion of sexual compatibility.

No it’s part of you being a stubborn, aloof lover if the woman tells you she hates pounding and you keep doing so or tell her you are not compatible. A lot of women prefer a multidimensional and varied approach with pressure, hands, toys, oral etc. If you think a big D and lots of “pounding” is great sex that’s very sad

Wow, that’s presumptuous. I think we’re on the same page though. With women who don’t like my size I have been very careful not to pound hard. I’ve even used silicone Ohnuts to prevent me from going too deep. I enjoy using my fingers, tongue, and toys as much as my penis, even more so. Hard pounding is something I’ve done only with partners who want that.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, and the chemistry was wild. I would have done literally anything for him in bed and it hasn’t been like that with other partners. He had a gorgeous body. He was tall (like 6’3”), lean and muscular. The first time we were together he had gotten out of bed to take off his clothes. I was looking at the floor when he took off his pants and his penis literally cast a shadow. An enormous shadow. 🥵 He must’ve seen the look on my face because he was like “Don’t worry, we’ll go slow”.

Does it seem like these high chemistry guys have a way of making you do things you didn’t know you could do or would enjoy?

Wow! Shadow guy sounds great! 😂

What do you mean by doing things you wouldn’t normally do?

How big does he have to be to cast a shadow? Seriously, asking for a friend, and for science.

I never measured. Who would do that anyway? I remember that when he laid it on my stomach it was up past my belly button. It was up past his as well and really thick.

Only once was I ever with a guy so large it was scary. Let me just say that we weren’t compatible. It was fun to play with but not fun to be on the receiving end.

Just takes practice. Once you're ready for the big leagues nothing else does it.

Untrue. I’ve been with three 7 inches all gorgeous . They had great O I’m deep and tight . I couldn’t O.
My best experience was with medium size

Thank god women like you exist. I'm very attentive. I really enjoy touching women's bodies and getting to know how they react. Some women have called me a mind reader. Unfortunately I'm only average size. There were times when I could tell that a woman wanted more than I could give. Did I give them plenty of Os? Yes. Did we go for long time? Yes. Did we feel close to each other? Yes. Did things become extremely passionate? Yes. Unfortunately, that wasn't enough for a couple of them. They didn't tell me, but I just knew.

Clitoris is located closer to the entrance to V so most women only can O from oral and touching. Most don’t need a huge P to have a great O.
The handjob is very underrated imho- my best partners were those who were great with fingering or even knew fisting techniques… That’s crazy s..t

I agree with you, I don't need a big P to have a great O.
But there is something really awesome about a big D pounding your cervix. OMG !

Ouch

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Anonymous wrote:Great Question

As a man, I've only had (3) really compatible partners out of literally dozens. Finding a woman that actually isn't shy nude, passionately enjoys oral both ways, able to O without toys, and puts in as much effort as me, is truly hard to find. Sadly, most women are just lazy, period.

A good lover accepts that toys are the most reliable and sometimes the only way to O for many women. Savvy men aren’t intimidated by toys and enjoy the hot sex with a woman who feels her sexual needs are embraced. We don’t want the pressure of you trying so hard to please. Women fake it with men like you.

Yes this is so true! Toys have really been an amazing addition to our sex life.
Since turning 60 I've used toys and we have better and more frequent sex..
I get really strong Os with my toys then I climb on top or give him great oral.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It's rare. Marry if you can.

[Anonymous]

I can’t get over him. We broke up because of distance, not anything wrong with us. We were amazing. I have never met a man who set me on fire like that. And for years. I wanted to consume him and wanted him to consume me. Now I’ll never see him again and I’m getting old. It’s brutal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. It's rare. Marry if you can.

OP. I wish I could! Unfortunately marriage isn’t a possibility for us. So just trying to enjoy it while I can.

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Anonymous wrote:Read this.

https://open.substack.com/pub/saraszalmd/p/the-female-body-was-not-designed?r=73diqq&utm_medium=ios

Five facts about the clitoris that mainstream medicine buried

1. It is not small. It is enormous.

The external glans — the only part most people can identify — measures approximately 1 centimeter. The full internal structure, including the internal body, two crura (legs), and two vestibular bulbs, extends 9 to 11 centimeters and wraps around the vaginal canal on both sides. Most of it is invisible. All of it is functional.3

2. It contains more nerve endings than any structure in the human body.

The clitoris contains approximately 10,000 sensory nerve endings. The glans penis contains roughly 4,000. Nerve density per square centimeter in the clitoral glans is the highest recorded in human anatomy.3 The female body was not built for low sensitivity. It was built for high sensitivity that has been systematically understimulated.

3. It is the same organ developmentally as the penis but not an equivalent.

The clitoris and penis develop from identical embryological tissue — the genital tubercle — until approximately week 9 of fetal development. They are not analogous structures. They are the same structure, differentiated by hormonal environment. The clitoris is not the female equivalent of the penis. The penis is a clitoral variant. Language matters here because anatomy matters, and the language has been wrong.

4. It becomes erect and that process takes time.

The vestibular bulbs flanking the vaginal canal engorge with blood during arousal in the same way penile tissue engorges. Sexual arousal increases genital blood flow, produces vaginal lubrication that buffers acidity and raises oxygen tension.9 Full clitoral erection, which creates the internal pressure and sensitivity required for deep orgasm, requires sustained arousal — typically 15 to 30 minutes of direct and indirect stimulation. The female body is not slow to arouse. It is responding to a process that most encounters never complete.

5. The clitoris grows throughout life and is largest after menopause.

The clitoris grows measurably from adolescence through adulthood and continues to increase in size into the postmenopausal years, as confirmed by MRI studies. The clinical narrative that menopause diminishes sexual capacity is partially accurate and almost entirely incomplete. The primary organ of female pleasure does not atrophy with age. It matures.

From an evolutionary perspective, the female orgasm is understood to be homologous to the ancestral reflex that induced ovulation in species with induced ovulation — a function that became available for secondary physiological roles with the evolution of spontaneous ovulation in humans.10 The female orgasm is not an accident of anatomy. It is a system with deep biological origins that has been consistently misread by the medicine built to study it.

I have an induced ovulation! When I’m dating actively having sex with a partner (or even more so if it’s several partners), my periods resume. When I take a break dating I have no periods although I use electronic BF often. I’m in my late 40s

Anyone experienced the same??? Are we all just animals ?

You are behaving like one. Get some morals

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. It's rare. Marry if you can.

OP. I wish I could! Unfortunately marriage isn’t a possibility for us. So just trying to enjoy it while I can.

Marriage is the only correct way to do it. Every other way is a sin

[Anonymous]

Until I met my husband my sexual experiences were very unsatisfying. The few guys I had been with were simply into satisfying themselves so it was always just aggressive humping and then done. The first time with my husband was amazing as it was all about pleasing me. After a couple of Os I returned the favor and then it got so intense we ended up exhausted. The next day I called my sister and told her I had met the one.

[Anonymous]

Yes college boyfriend of two years. Broke up due to religious differences and a lot of pressure from his father.

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Yes, and we loved each other. Connection was out of this world.