You pick your kids up from a drop-off party ON TIME

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. It's the people saying "20 minutes is no big deal" who are always late themselves. Y'all are rude. We hate inviting your kids to things because of how poorly mannered you are. But we do it anyway (sometimes) because we feel sorry for them.

I’d rebut with, it is only parents of young kids who can get this worked up about 20 minutes.

I am never, ever late to anything. It’s an anxiety of mine and I’d rather waste 15 minutes of my own time being early than 15 min of someone else’s being late. My obsession with promptness is an unhealthy obsession.

And I still am in the camp of, another parent being 20 minutes late to pick up is not something to get worked up over.

My kids are in high school now. I remember being pulled in several directions for weekend birthday parties and getting twisted up over conflicting schedules. A little grace from a hosting parent would have been nice, when really everyone else is accommodating you by schleping out to the trampoline park bc that’s where little johnny wanted his bday party. Let’s be real, you aren’t doing the invited kids a favor by inviting them to a bday party - they are doing your family a favor by attending.

This is why we always did home parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. It's the people saying "20 minutes is no big deal" who are always late themselves. Y'all are rude. We hate inviting your kids to things because of how poorly mannered you are. But we do it anyway (sometimes) because we feel sorry for them.

I’d rebut with, it is only parents of young kids who can get this worked up about 20 minutes.

I am never, ever late to anything. It’s an anxiety of mine and I’d rather waste 15 minutes of my own time being early than 15 min of someone else’s being late. My obsession with promptness is an unhealthy obsession.

And I still am in the camp of, another parent being 20 minutes late to pick up is not something to get worked up over.

My kids are in high school now. I remember being pulled in several directions for weekend birthday parties and getting twisted up over conflicting schedules. A little grace from a hosting parent would have been nice, when really everyone else is accommodating you by schleping out to the trampoline park bc that’s where little johnny wanted his bday party. Let’s be real, you aren’t doing the invited kids a favor by inviting them to a bday party - they are doing your family a favor by attending.

This is why we always did home parties.

Then why did you ever attend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. It's the people saying "20 minutes is no big deal" who are always late themselves. Y'all are rude. We hate inviting your kids to things because of how poorly mannered you are. But we do it anyway (sometimes) because we feel sorry for them.

I’d rebut with, it is only parents of young kids who can get this worked up about 20 minutes.

I am never, ever late to anything. It’s an anxiety of mine and I’d rather waste 15 minutes of my own time being early than 15 min of someone else’s being late. My obsession with promptness is an unhealthy obsession.

And I still am in the camp of, another parent being 20 minutes late to pick up is not something to get worked up over.

My kids are in high school now. I remember being pulled in several directions for weekend birthday parties and getting twisted up over conflicting schedules. A little grace from a hosting parent would have been nice, when really everyone else is accommodating you by schleping out to the trampoline park bc that’s where little johnny wanted his bday party. Let’s be real, you aren’t doing the invited kids a favor by inviting them to a bday party - they are doing your family a favor by attending.

This is why we always did home parties.

An invitation is not a summons. If something was “twisting you up,” you can decline. It is that simple. No one needs to “accommodate” you; it is their kid’s birthday. If it is a “schlep” to get somewhere, decline. If attending is “doing someone a favor,” simply decline.

You trying to act like it’s wrong for “Little Johnny” to do something fun on his birthday is beyond. And guess what? The kids have an absolute fantastic time at those places.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a big difference between:

1) one-off, apologetic “I had a flat tire” type emergency parent (who likely also texted you to ask for some grace and let you know they’d be late)

2) 4 parents who strolled in late, offering no apologies and took no responsibility for being 20 minutes late to pick up.

Yes but what makes half of the families think that’s ok? That’s what’s weird here. I mean I don’t think it’s ok but apparently OP’s social circle does.

I mean, as evidenced by this very thread, many parents these days are entitled, selfish and rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gosh you're very unforgiving. People have so many things going on, And some people have truly very difficult things going on, and I can easily see how people could get there 15 minutes late.

You sound very highly strong to have found that to be a big deal. Seriously, in the grand scheme of things, this was 15 minutes for you to sit around on your kids birthday and let them frolic for a few more minutes with some other kids. Life is short, try not to be so miserable about it.

Horse manure! Stop mooching for free child care. I don't give a eff how busy you are. Pick up your kids on time or next time I call the cops to take care of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually that's when it's one parent dropping off and the other picking up.

I wouldn't mind at all, OP. Everyone is late once in their lives.

YOU will be late one day too.

If I am running late. I call. Punctuality is the politeness of kings was the motto in my family and I still live by that. There is never an excuse for picking your kids late .

[Anonymous]

Agree that this is only something overwhelmed parents of little kids get worked up over. Parents who are not used to spending time around other little kids (and maybe not even their own kids.)

This is such a nothing burger. (And no I'm never late.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree that this is only something overwhelmed parents of little kids get worked up over. Parents who are not used to spending time around other little kids (and maybe not even their own kids.)

This is such a nothing burger. (And no I'm never late.)

At a home play date, this is fine and 20 minutes would not phase me. In the designed-to-be-overstimulating environment of a trampoline park, where I’ve treated your kids to an expensive experience as well as food, pick your kids up on time, or at the very least, call or text. You seriously don’t call or text if you know you’re going to be late? That is so rude.

[Anonymous]

15 minutes is not late

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:15 minutes is not late

Try being that late to an interview.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:15 minutes is not late

It 100% is. This isn’t a dinner party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The parents who picked up 20 minutes late are clearly wrong. But OP sounds unhinged. Did you communicate with the parents who just left their kids?

She communicated pick up time on the invite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree that this is only something overwhelmed parents of little kids get worked up over. Parents who are not used to spending time around other little kids (and maybe not even their own kids.)

This is such a nothing burger. (And no I'm never late.)

At a home play date, this is fine and 20 minutes would not phase me. In the designed-to-be-overstimulating environment of a trampoline park, where I’ve treated your kids to an expensive experience as well as food, pick your kids up on time, or at the very least, call or text. You seriously don’t call or text if you know you’re going to be late? That is so rude.

Sounds like its too expensive and overstimulating for you, so maybe you shouldn't host there. For most kids in this area, 1 hour at a trampoline park is not a rare or special activity. Sorry to burst your bubble.

And again, I'm not a late person. I just think you are nuts. Or in way over your head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:15 minutes is not late

Yes, it is. Treat other parents with respect or you will be weeded out. Too bad for your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree that this is only something overwhelmed parents of little kids get worked up over. Parents who are not used to spending time around other little kids (and maybe not even their own kids.)

This is such a nothing burger. (And no I'm never late.)

At a home play date, this is fine and 20 minutes would not phase me. In the designed-to-be-overstimulating environment of a trampoline park, where I’ve treated your kids to an expensive experience as well as food, pick your kids up on time, or at the very least, call or text. You seriously don’t call or text if you know you’re going to be late? That is so rude.

Sounds like its too expensive and overstimulating for you, so maybe you shouldn't host there. For most kids in this area, 1 hour at a trampoline park is not a rare or special activity. Sorry to burst your bubble.

And again, I'm not a late person. I just think you are nuts. Or in way over your head.

I can’t believe you are defending those who are late without so much as a text. No manners.