What is overscheduled?

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Anonymous wrote:I think busyness and activities are over rated. Most parents have bought into this notion of kids needing to do more activities after school. More is better mentality is flawed. Most kids are unhappy having to go to an activity or 2 every single day of the week.

This has been brought on ny the notion that it's unsafe to let your kids have freedom. Also, it can tend to be "resume building" for a child.its a shame for the kids.

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Anonymous wrote:"Free unstructured childhood" doesn't work unless you have a strict nanny or live in a commute like cluster of likeminded people with similarly aged kids who aren't on screens and aren't signed up for activities.

Many introverted kids make good use of their unstructured time without a nanny or needing to live in a commune. It ain't rocket science to limit screen time. You simply take physical possession of the iPad and the game console controllers.

My kid doesn’t get screen time at home. He doesn’t have an iPad or video games. But unstructured time is literally just him playing or reading at home or else playing ball by himself outside. There are a few kids around but they are usually busy.

This is such a bummer. This is another reason that overschedule is such a big problem.

Overscheduling and activities are two different things.

We'll call it being busy then.

Being upset that the kids in your neighborhood are busy and unavailable to play with your kids is very different from concerns about a particular child being overscheduled.

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Anonymous wrote:Over scheduling is kid dependent.

I have one kid who can do back to back sports, can go to practice, skills training and hang out with friends on the same team and it will feel fine. Then we throw in math tutoring and all of a sudden, my kid feels overwhelmed and he has too many activities per day.

I don’t think the question is whether he can or wants to do that. The question is whether he SHOULD. People are saying no.

If your kid wants to compete in high school, that kid needs to play a lot in elementary. My oldest just started high school and many kids got cut from basketball, tennis, baseball, etc. many kids who play travel and club got cut. I doubt any kids who play just rec could make any team.

So highly sport and school dependent.

Example: at Hayfield SS enough girls tried out for softball that they could easily fill the varsity and JV teams and still make a few cuts. At Lewis HS not far away they only can field a varsity team that plays everyone else's JV teams because they are so new to the sport.

We live in McLean. Everything is competitive.

Not football and basketball

I have a kid who just started playing basketball and loves it. I hope basketball isn’t competitive and he can make it. I have heard of kids getting cut from basketball. I believe over 100 kids tried out for the freshman team. That sounds pretty competitive to me.

If he doesn’t make the high school team and still wants to play, look into recreational leagues or those for his age group at private gyms or facilities, even club teams if he wants the commitment. Don’t let making the team decide whether he continues if it’s something he is enjoying.

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What if they embarrass you with their money

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Anonymous wrote:"Free unstructured childhood" doesn't work unless you have a strict nanny or live in a commute like cluster of likeminded people with similarly aged kids who aren't on screens and aren't signed up for activities.

Many introverted kids make good use of their unstructured time without a nanny or needing to live in a commune. It ain't rocket science to limit screen time. You simply take physical possession of the iPad and the game console controllers.

My kid doesn’t get screen time at home. He doesn’t have an iPad or video games. But unstructured time is literally just him playing or reading at home or else playing ball by himself outside. There are a few kids around but they are usually busy.

This is such a bummer. This is another reason that overschedule is such a big problem.

Overscheduling and activities are two different things.

We'll call it being busy then.

Being upset that the kids in your neighborhood are busy and unavailable to play with your kids is very different from concerns about a particular child being overscheduled.

It is, but maybe it's not. I would assume if they weren't overscheduled they'd have some more time.

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Anonymous wrote:"Free unstructured childhood" doesn't work unless you have a strict nanny or live in a commute like cluster of likeminded people with similarly aged kids who aren't on screens and aren't signed up for activities.

Many introverted kids make good use of their unstructured time without a nanny or needing to live in a commune. It ain't rocket science to limit screen time. You simply take physical possession of the iPad and the game console controllers.

My kid doesn’t get screen time at home. He doesn’t have an iPad or video games. But unstructured time is literally just him playing or reading at home or else playing ball by himself outside. There are a few kids around but they are usually busy.

This is such a bummer. This is another reason that overschedule is such a big problem.

Overscheduling and activities are two different things.

We'll call it being busy then.

Being upset that the kids in your neighborhood are busy and unavailable to play with your kids is very different from concerns about a particular child being overscheduled.

It is, but maybe it's not. I would assume if they weren't overscheduled they'd have some more time.

You have an only. That's the problem. Kids with siblings don't need to wait around outside for someone to be available to play. They have built in playmates.

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Anonymous wrote:"Free unstructured childhood" doesn't work unless you have a strict nanny or live in a commute like cluster of likeminded people with similarly aged kids who aren't on screens and aren't signed up for activities.

Many introverted kids make good use of their unstructured time without a nanny or needing to live in a commune. It ain't rocket science to limit screen time. You simply take physical possession of the iPad and the game console controllers.

My kid doesn’t get screen time at home. He doesn’t have an iPad or video games. But unstructured time is literally just him playing or reading at home or else playing ball by himself outside. There are a few kids around but they are usually busy.

This is such a bummer. This is another reason that overschedule is such a big problem.

Overscheduling and activities are two different things.

We'll call it being busy then.

Being upset that the kids in your neighborhood are busy and unavailable to play with your kids is very different from concerns about a particular child being overscheduled.

It is, but maybe it's not. I would assume if they weren't overscheduled they'd have some more time.

You have an only. That's the problem. Kids with siblings don't need to wait around outside for someone to be available to play. They have built in playmates.

No I dont have an only. Playing with siblings is great, but it's better to also play with other kids.

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Anonymous wrote:"Free unstructured childhood" doesn't work unless you have a strict nanny or live in a commute like cluster of likeminded people with similarly aged kids who aren't on screens and aren't signed up for activities.

Many introverted kids make good use of their unstructured time without a nanny or needing to live in a commune. It ain't rocket science to limit screen time. You simply take physical possession of the iPad and the game console controllers.

My kid doesn’t get screen time at home. He doesn’t have an iPad or video games. But unstructured time is literally just him playing or reading at home or else playing ball by himself outside. There are a few kids around but they are usually busy.

This is such a bummer. This is another reason that overschedule is such a big problem.

Overscheduling and activities are two different things.

We'll call it being busy then.

Being upset that the kids in your neighborhood are busy and unavailable to play with your kids is very different from concerns about a particular child being overscheduled.

It is, but maybe it's not. I would assume if they weren't overscheduled they'd have some more time.

You know what they say about assumptions .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think busyness and activities are over rated. Most parents have bought into this notion of kids needing to do more activities after school. More is better mentality is flawed. Most kids are unhappy having to go to an activity or 2 every single day of the week.

Let me know when you can back up your last sentence with any evidence.

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Anonymous wrote:I think busyness and activities are over rated. Most parents have bought into this notion of kids needing to do more activities after school. More is better mentality is flawed. Most kids are unhappy having to go to an activity or 2 every single day of the week.

Let me know when you can back up your last sentence with any evidence

Not the poster you were responding to, but there doesn't need to be evidence, some kids might like being busy, some don't.

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Anonymous wrote:"Free unstructured childhood" doesn't work unless you have a strict nanny or live in a commute like cluster of likeminded people with similarly aged kids who aren't on screens and aren't signed up for activities.

Many introverted kids make good use of their unstructured time without a nanny or needing to live in a commune. It ain't rocket science to limit screen time. You simply take physical possession of the iPad and the game console controllers.

My kid doesn’t get screen time at home. He doesn’t have an iPad or video games. But unstructured time is literally just him playing or reading at home or else playing ball by himself outside. There are a few kids around but they are usually busy.

This is such a bummer. This is another reason that overschedule is such a big problem.

Overscheduling and activities are two different things.

We'll call it being busy then.

Being upset that the kids in your neighborhood are busy and unavailable to play with your kids is very different from concerns about a particular child being overscheduled.

It is, but maybe it's not. I would assume if they weren't overscheduled they'd have some more time.

You have an only. That's the problem. Kids with siblings don't need to wait around outside for someone to be available to play. They have built in playmates.

No I dont have an only. Playing with siblings is great, but it's better to also play with other kids.

Usually when you say my kid it means just 1.

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Anonymous wrote:"Free unstructured childhood" doesn't work unless you have a strict nanny or live in a commute like cluster of likeminded people with similarly aged kids who aren't on screens and aren't signed up for activities.

Many introverted kids make good use of their unstructured time without a nanny or needing to live in a commune. It ain't rocket science to limit screen time. You simply take physical possession of the iPad and the game console controllers.

My kid doesn’t get screen time at home. He doesn’t have an iPad or video games. But unstructured time is literally just him playing or reading at home or else playing ball by himself outside. There are a few kids around but they are usually busy.

This is such a bummer. This is another reason that overschedule is such a big problem.

Overscheduling and activities are two different things.

We'll call it being busy then.

Being upset that the kids in your neighborhood are busy and unavailable to play with your kids is very different from concerns about a particular child being overscheduled.

It is, but maybe it's not. I would assume if they weren't overscheduled they'd have some more time.

You have an only. That's the problem. Kids with siblings don't need to wait around outside for someone to be available to play. They have built in playmates.

No I dont have an only. Playing with siblings is great, but it's better to also play with other kids.

Usually when you say my kid it means just 1.

I must have made a typo

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Anonymous wrote:"Free unstructured childhood" doesn't work unless you have a strict nanny or live in a commute like cluster of likeminded people with similarly aged kids who aren't on screens and aren't signed up for activities.

Many introverted kids make good use of their unstructured time without a nanny or needing to live in a commune. It ain't rocket science to limit screen time. You simply take physical possession of the iPad and the game console controllers.

My kid doesn’t get screen time at home. He doesn’t have an iPad or video games. But unstructured time is literally just him playing or reading at home or else playing ball by himself outside. There are a few kids around but they are usually busy.

This is such a bummer. This is another reason that overschedule is such a big problem.

Overscheduling and activities are two different things.

We'll call it being busy then.

Being upset that the kids in your neighborhood are busy and unavailable to play with your kids is very different from concerns about a particular child being overscheduled.

It is, but maybe it's not. I would assume if they weren't overscheduled they'd have some more time.

You have an only. That's the problem. Kids with siblings don't need to wait around outside for someone to be available to play. They have built in playmates.

No I dont have an only. Playing with siblings is great, but it's better to also play with other kids.

Usually when you say my kid it means just 1.

I must have made a typo

You did it several times. Kid, he, him. You clearly have just 1. Why lie?

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Anonymous wrote:"Free unstructured childhood" doesn't work unless you have a strict nanny or live in a commute like cluster of likeminded people with similarly aged kids who aren't on screens and aren't signed up for activities.

Many introverted kids make good use of their unstructured time without a nanny or needing to live in a commune. It ain't rocket science to limit screen time. You simply take physical possession of the iPad and the game console controllers.

My kid doesn’t get screen time at home. He doesn’t have an iPad or video games. But unstructured time is literally just him playing or reading at home or else playing ball by himself outside. There are a few kids around but they are usually busy.

This is such a bummer. This is another reason that overschedule is such a big problem.

Overscheduling and activities are two different things.

We'll call it being busy then.

Being upset that the kids in your neighborhood are busy and unavailable to play with your kids is very different from concerns about a particular child being overscheduled.

It is, but maybe it's not. I would assume if they weren't overscheduled they'd have some more time.

You have an only. That's the problem. Kids with siblings don't need to wait around outside for someone to be available to play. They have built in playmates.

No I dont have an only. Playing with siblings is great, but it's better to also play with other kids.

Usually when you say my kid it means just 1.

I must have made a typo

You did it several times. Kid, he, him. You clearly have just 1. Why lie?

Never said he, him. Don't have a boy.

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Anonymous wrote:"Free unstructured childhood" doesn't work unless you have a strict nanny or live in a commute like cluster of likeminded people with similarly aged kids who aren't on screens and aren't signed up for activities.

Many introverted kids make good use of their unstructured time without a nanny or needing to live in a commune. It ain't rocket science to limit screen time. You simply take physical possession of the iPad and the game console controllers.

My kid doesn’t get screen time at home. He doesn’t have an iPad or video games. But unstructured time is literally just him playing or reading at home or else playing ball by himself outside. There are a few kids around but they are usually busy.

This is such a bummer. This is another reason that overschedule is such a big problem.

Overscheduling and activities are two different things.

We'll call it being busy then.

Being upset that the kids in your neighborhood are busy and unavailable to play with your kids is very different from concerns about a particular child being overscheduled.

It is, but maybe it's not. I would assume if they weren't overscheduled they'd have some more time.

You have an only. That's the problem. Kids with siblings don't need to wait around outside for someone to be available to play. They have built in playmates.

No I dont have an only. Playing with siblings is great, but it's better to also play with other kids.

Usually when you say my kid it means just 1.

I must have made a typo

You did it several times. Kid, he, him. You clearly have just 1. Why lie?

There are more than two people in this thread, man.