Retirees buying 4,000 sq ft houses?

[Anonymous]

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I'd rather die in my house than die in overpriced assisted living or a nursing home. I think it's my choice where I die.

Your poor children

Huh?

You don’t know how long it’s gonna take you to die and you’re gonna ruin your children’s lives by forcing them to care for you, and change your diaper and lift you, even though they’re older, and that could injure their back.

Your decision to stay in your home and not go to a proper care facility is selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I'd rather die in my house than die in overpriced assisted living or a nursing home. I think it's my choice where I die.

Your poor children

Huh?

You don’t know how long it’s gonna take you to die and you’re gonna ruin your children’s lives by forcing them to care for you, and change your diaper and lift you, even though they’re older, and that could injure their back.

Your decision to stay in your home and not go to a proper care facility is selfish.

My aunt died last year at 104 and she got sick with RSV and it knocked her off in one week. She actually did a podcast a few weeks before she died and interviewed local paper and had no serious issues. Was she supposed to sell her house? Amazing part she lives in her primary home 75 years and her vacation home was her parents. She was going to it 104 years. Not everyone dies on your schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I'd rather die in my house than die in overpriced assisted living or a nursing home. I think it's my choice where I die.

Your poor children

Huh?

You don’t know how long it’s gonna take you to die and you’re gonna ruin your children’s lives by forcing them to care for you, and change your diaper and lift you, even though they’re older, and that could injure their back.

Your decision to stay in your home and not go to a proper care facility is selfish.

Ive been around a lot of old people and 90% just kicked it. Most people dont spend years as invalids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m just curious as to WHY someone in their 70s would need or want a 4000 sq ft, 4 bedroom, 3 level house.

I know there are outliers: grandkids live with them, frequent visitors, but why would anyone without kids want a house so large?

We have a huge home. If we stay in the DC area, there’s no point in downsizing. Our home is paid for and we would pay a fortune to downsize. Why bother? Put in an elevator and it’s done. If we leave this area (I want to, husband is rooted), sell and get out. Taxes are too high here now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I'd rather die in my house than die in overpriced assisted living or a nursing home. I think it's my choice where I die.

Your poor children

Huh?

You don’t know how long it’s gonna take you to die and you’re gonna ruin your children’s lives by forcing them to care for you, and change your diaper and lift you, even though they’re older, and that could injure their back.

Your decision to stay in your home and not go to a proper care facility is selfish.

Ive been around a lot of old people and 90% just kicked it. Most people dont spend years as invalids.

M
That’s completely untrue. The majority of people are dealing with the long goodbye..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I'd rather die in my house than die in overpriced assisted living or a nursing home. I think it's my choice where I die.

Your poor children

Huh?

You don’t know how long it’s gonna take you to die and you’re gonna ruin your children’s lives by forcing them to care for you, and change your diaper and lift you, even though they’re older, and that could injure their back.

Your decision to stay in your home and not go to a proper care facility is selfish.

My aunt died last year at 104 and she got sick with RSV and it knocked her off in one week. She actually did a podcast a few weeks before she died and interviewed local paper and had no serious issues. Was she supposed to sell her house? Amazing part she lives in her primary home 75 years and her vacation home was her parents. She was going to it 104 years. Not everyone dies on your schedule.

That’s an outlier. Just please realize at some point your kids are gonna want you to move into an over 55 community because it is not their job to care for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I'd rather die in my house than die in overpriced assisted living or a nursing home. I think it's my choice where I die.

Your poor children

Huh?

You don’t know how long it’s gonna take you to die and you’re gonna ruin your children’s lives by forcing them to care for you, and change your diaper and lift you, even though they’re older, and that could injure their back.

Your decision to stay in your home and not go to a proper care facility is selfish.

My aunt died last year at 104 and she got sick with RSV and it knocked her off in one week. She actually did a podcast a few weeks before she died and interviewed local paper and had no serious issues. Was she supposed to sell her house? Amazing part she lives in her primary home 75 years and her vacation home was her parents. She was going to it 104 years. Not everyone dies on your schedule.

That’s an outlier. Just please realize at some point your kids are gonna want you to move into an over 55 community because it is not their job to care for you.

Well I am 62 working full time with a 6,100 sf house and two kids still living at home and the oldest just moved out. They are all single. We do thanksgiving, Xmas, Easter all holidays my house. My kids don’t take care of the house we do it.

And I actually own a two bedroom condo we bought with plans to use as beach place or retire at. It drove my wife insane after a few days. There is nothing to do there. We did not sell but rented it out a decade ago. Yes no snow removal. No lawn mowing, no roof to maintain just like a prison cell

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I’m just curious as to WHY someone in their 70s would need or want a 4000 sq ft, 4 bedroom, 3 level house.

I know there are outliers: grandkids live with them, frequent visitors, but why would anyone without kids want a house so large?


Op, I feel you! We live in a beautiful suburban neighborhood with no real amenities or draw besides schools and the related activities and lifestyle and OMG how the neighbors all gnash their teeth when a nice older couple decides to move out…. We all expect a nice young family…. And one single old lady or a pair of already old people with no kids moves in. The pools sit empty. Backyards empty. Is it a status symbol?? Wtf!!! Meanwhile the old lady who bought one house has to plead on our list Serv for people to clear her driveway when it snows. My kids do mine before our snow guys show up! It just doesn’t make any sense. Its status and feeling like the house satisfies something in them. Ah well that will be us some day!

How old do you consider "old" to be? Lots of people in their 50's and 60's are empty nesters. They could live to their 90's. That's a lot of years to be in an expensive over 55 condo. Do you think that you should move as soon as you can't (or have the money not to) clear your driveway? Maybe your kids could go over there and earn a few bucks. Our neighbor kids have learned a lot about gardening from us. They come by and ask questions (one is actually going to study botany next year in college). We enjoy them and they enjoy us. We don't have a pool though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I'd rather die in my house than die in overpriced assisted living or a nursing home. I think it's my choice where I die.

Your poor children

Huh?

You don’t know how long it’s gonna take you to die and you’re gonna ruin your children’s lives by forcing them to care for you, and change your diaper and lift you, even though they’re older, and that could injure their back.

Your decision to stay in your home and not go to a proper care facility is selfish.

Ive been around a lot of old people and 90% just kicked it. Most people dont spend years as invalids.

M
That’s completely untrue. The majority of people are dealing with the long goodbye..

No. That isn’t true.

[Anonymous]

The average length of stay in a nursing home before death is 5 months. The majority of people stay less than a year. It's not a "long goodbye" for most people.

[Anonymous]

It seems like the conversation here has shifted to "old people that stay in the enormous home they bought decades ago when they were raising young children."
But the title is about retirees buying NEW (whether brand new or new to them) enormous houses.

There's a difference.

[Anonymous]

I’m only 46, but will be retiring in 9 years. we are looking to buy a house now that we will rent out a few years. What i’m finding is i don’t want to be in a condo and the neighborhoods we like don’t have nice , but small houses. The small houses are in the crappy neighborhoods. I’d love to find a smaller house in the type of neighborhood we want, but its doesn’t exist. The smaller homes seem to me in the trashy neighborhoods. Our criteria is golf course community, lots of walking trails, NOT a 55+ community, pool in backyard, screened in porch, main level master, 2 spare bedrooms, an office and an open floor plan.