Any schools that put freshman in singles? DD won’t be able to handle sharing a bedroom

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. She is not HFA or SN. She gets annoyed easily at certain sounds & smells, however. She’s currently a junior in high school. She went to an 8 week sleep away camp in middle school and had a tough time living with others. She has former teammates who have complained about their college roommates when she’s seen them. She says that she absolutely could not handle sharing a room because her roommate might burn sage or incense, smoke pot, smoke cigarettes, leave the dorm room propped open to outside leaving the possibility of her stuff being stolen, be too loud at night or get mad at her for waking up really early as she prefers to do.

PP with the kid that I thought would not like a roommate, he also did not like the roommates at basketball camp in HS - but in college as others have noted, they pair you up based on personality assessments. He has had no issues with the roommate he got. They aren't super great friends (different interests) but they have no issues as roommates. They also recommend roommate contracts which spell out the rules for the room (mutually agreed) but my son did not do that.

What he did see were kids in singles felt isolated. When everyone else has a roomie to at least get through the awkward early weeks, the singlets dont have anyone to eat with or hang with. I think its a real negative unless there is a medical reason for it.

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Anonymous wrote:DD wasn't specifically seeking out a single, but got one her freshman year. No regrets. She loved her privacy, having a room to herself, and not having to worry about a roommate and their sleep schedule/class schedule/bringing people in/hygiene/etc. However she did share a bathroom with someone else in another single dorm, but that hadn't been an issue.

Y'all are so weird.

That's different than requesting one because you can't deal. Learning to deal is part of the growing up process.

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she handle it? We need more information. Sharing a room is great way to become more considerate, empathetic, kind, etc. Plus, it helps things go more smoothly when you get married or move in with your significant other.

Some kids grow up in small houses or apartments and have never had their own room. They’ve already learned how to share and be considerate because they didn’t have a single … ever.

Living with family members is different from living with literal strangers, but you knew that.

Ok. But what is the actual life benefit to sleeping 5 feet away from a “literal stranger”?

yea, I don't get this comments that it's a "life skill." I cannot thing of a single other time in life when you have to sleep 5 feet away from a stranger and share a room. What life skill, exactly, is being learned?

Coping. Negotiating. Dealing with discomfort.

Somehow most of the world/country is able to learn life skills without dorming...

“Dorming” is not a word!

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she handle it? We need more information. Sharing a room is great way to become more considerate, empathetic, kind, etc. Plus, it helps things go more smoothly when you get married or move in with your significant other.

Some kids grow up in small houses or apartments and have never had their own room. They’ve already learned how to share and be considerate because they didn’t have a single … ever.

Living with family members is different from living with literal strangers, but you knew that.

Ok. But what is the actual life benefit to sleeping 5 feet away from a “literal stranger”?

yea, I don't get this comments that it's a "life skill." I cannot thing of a single other time in life when you have to sleep 5 feet away from a stranger and share a room. What life skill, exactly, is being learned?

Coping. Negotiating. Dealing with discomfort.

Somehow most of the world/country is able to learn life skills without dorming...

“Dorming” is not a word!

I thought I was the only one who is driven crazy by this made up word. +1

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University of Victoria in British Columbia has mostly single rooms for first years.

Housing isn't guaranteed for sophomores or older, though. (Some do get dorm rooms; others rent apartments or houses off campus.)