Unpopular relationship opinions

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is between one man and one woman until death of one party. (Very unpopular, no one in this thread believes this)

Finances should be totally joint and undisentangleable. (See above)

More people should choose celibacy. Marriage is definitely hard but there is at least a point to it; sleeping with people as a single person sounds a lot more fun than it actually ends up being. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze, as they say.

You have to be a very special person to enjoy monogamy. Sleeping with single people is very very fun if you're single.

Can someone please explain it to me how it’s very very fun? Dating scene sex is very limited in terms of not having oral on multiple partners, changing partners before I can even get into his rhythm, using protection and scare of infections. It takes couple months for me just to adjust my pelvic floor to a new partner, learn to trust them allow certain things etc.

Are you a man who just like PIV in condom with many different women ? Because to me as a woman it’s not nearly as fun as marital unprotected sex of greater variety

I’m a woman and I think it’s fun! I’m attractive and find it easy to match. I don’t fall into partners randomly - I’m dating for sex and fun as I won’t marry again. I also don’t take months to “warm up” or “adjust” to a partner!?!?

I think you need to relax a little.

I don’t get it: do they all perform oral on you during “dating” sex? Do you like oral on multiple men ? How do you avoid STDs?

How did you avoid it before you were married? Fact: most people don’t have an STI.

I only had 3 partners including my exH before getting married. With each we took STD tests, only used protection for the first few times until both were certain we don’t date others. They pulled out and I was on birth control after. Has oral and anal very early soon after STD test. Sex happened after 1-2 months of dating and introducing BFs to my family and getting my family approval. It was in Eastern Europe 25 years ago. Met my exH at 24 after two other long term relationships. But here in the US men expect sex after 3 dates, use condoms (which don’t even protect against all STDs). They want oral of course but I can’t force myself to enjoy it this way.

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People have oral just fine before they’re married. Problem is you.

Did you read what I wrote? I had oral before getting married, too! It’s more of me wondering whether women have oral with all the randos they meet on OLD nowadays and how they manage to stay protected. I would totally feel like my body is trash can if I wasn’t doing it in a loving relationship

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is between one man and one woman until death of one party. (Very unpopular, no one in this thread believes this)

Finances should be totally joint and undisentangleable. (See above)

More people should choose celibacy. Marriage is definitely hard but there is at least a point to it; sleeping with people as a single person sounds a lot more fun than it actually ends up being. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze, as they say.

You have to be a very special person to enjoy monogamy. Sleeping with single people is very very fun if you're single.

Can someone please explain it to me how it’s very very fun? Dating scene sex is very limited in terms of not having oral on multiple partners, changing partners before I can even get into his rhythm, using protection and scare of infections. It takes couple months for me just to adjust my pelvic floor to a new partner, learn to trust them allow certain things etc.

Are you a man who just like PIV in condom with many different women ? Because to me as a woman it’s not nearly as fun as marital unprotected sex of greater variety

I’m a woman and I think it’s fun! I’m attractive and find it easy to match. I don’t fall into partners randomly - I’m dating for sex and fun as I won’t marry again. I also don’t take months to “warm up” or “adjust” to a partner!?!?

I think you need to relax a little.

I don’t get it: do they all perform oral on you during “dating” sex? Do you like oral on multiple men ? How do you avoid STDs?

How did you avoid it before you were married? Fact: most people don’t have an STI.

I only had 3 partners including my exH before getting married. With each we took STD tests, only used protection for the first few times until both were certain we don’t date others. They pulled out and I was on birth control after. Has oral and anal very early soon after STD test. Sex happened after 1-2 months of dating and introducing BFs to my family and getting my family approval. It was in Eastern Europe 25 years ago. Met my exH at 24 after two other long term relationships. But here in the US men expect sex after 3 dates, use condoms (which don’t even protect against all STDs). They want oral of course but I can’t force myself to enjoy it this way.

You again.

People have oral just fine before they’re married. Problem is you.

Did you read what I wrote? I had oral before getting married, too! It’s more of me wondering whether women have oral with all the randos they meet on OLD nowadays and how they manage to stay protected. I would totally feel like my body is trash can if I wasn’t doing it in a loving relationship

You’re missing the point you don’t need to be in a loving relationship to have oral and no women don’t necessarily have sex with everybody. They need an online dating what people do do oral without being in love first, even if they need online if that makes sense to you which it probably doesn’t.

[Anonymous]

Typos due to voice, recognition above where it says need, it’s supposed to say “meet”

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Mothers are the ferocious protectors of their children. That instinct has been socialized out of us.

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Marriage is an outdated institution
Monogamy is boring and unnatural

[Anonymous]

Getting married under the age of 25 in this day and age is a stupid choice

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Women should be able to enjoy sex and (safely) sleep with as many men as they want.

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Anonymous wrote:Women should be able to enjoy sex and (safely) sleep with as many men as they want.

Women sleep with whomever they want. Men sleep with whomever they can. You go girl!

[Anonymous]

You can talk about not playing games as much as you want, but in any relationship, the person who appears to care the least has the most power.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women should be able to enjoy sex and (safely) sleep with as many men as they want.

Women sleep with whomever they want. Men sleep with whomever they can. You go girl!

I did this decades ago and was harshly judged. Always thought this was some BS and I ignored all of the conventions anyway. Women are sexual beings too and they deserve fulfillment. They should not be expected to be pure virginal maidens locked in a tower eschewing all desire and pleasure while waiting for marriage and for some man to control them. I’m glad that times have changed even a little.

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ENM/poly people are into the whole thing to cover up insecurities, low self-esteem, trauma, etc

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Women who are highly sexually experienced make the best marriage partners. The guy gets someone who will probably try anything along with she probably showed her wild oats.

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Anonymous wrote:ENM/poly people are into the whole thing to cover up insecurities, low self-esteem, trauma, etc

Totally agree. Easy way out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people in late 20s/early 30s in long term relationships get married thinking it’s just the next step in the relationship without honestly evaluating whether that person is really the best partner for a successful, lasting marriage.

Mousy as many wind up alone or unhappy w who they settled for later

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mothers are the ferocious protectors of their children. That instinct has been socialized out of us.

Speak for yourself