Anyone else with gift disappointment?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Every present I gave my husband had hours of thought behind it - he bought off my Amazon wish list, including the garbage bags I'd accidentally saved there instead of my shopping list.

So.

Yeah.

Did he wrap up the garbage bags!!??

He did.

I'm choosing to believe he thought he was being funny.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:An adult should not be disappointed in their gifts.

What a weird perspective.

NP It isn’t. Expecting to be wowed by gifts — heck, expecting *gifts* — is gauche.

So you’re teaching your children that moms shouldn’t mind being treated like doormats / invisible? Great parenting.

That's an interesting perspective.

My dad bought nothing for my mom, but bought himself a $500 gift. I could have smacked him today.

I have nothing to complain about, personally.

Women are taught from an early age gift price = worth of the woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am not normally this person but I really feel it this Christmas so:

If you woke up in a warm bed and spent the morning with a spouse and children, none of whom had to work or are battling illness, and everyone in your family will have plenty to eat today, then you are among the most fortunate people in the world today, and in the history of the world. If you had MORE than this -- a large and well-appointed house, extended family nearby, a mound of gifts to give and/or get, luxurious food and clothes, a fancy vacation to look forward to... then there are so few people in the world who would not envy you these riches that a random sample of the world's population might not turn up any at all.

Also, if you have a job, internet access, and don't have to work on Christmas Day, odds are fairly good that that you can afford to buy, or save up to buy with some small mount of diligence, whatever consumer good your heart desires.

Again, I'm not normally this person, but this thread was almost shocking to me -- be grateful, OP. You no doubt have so much to be grateful for. If you are disappointed in, of all things, the gifts you didn't receive this morning, please take a moment to count your other no doubt numerous assets and consider all the people who have so much less and yet have still found a way to be more content and gracious today than you.

I understand the temptation to be the perspective police, and everything you wrote is true. But people are still allowed to feel how they feel. It would be tough for the OP to share this with people in person and in some ways, that’s what this forum is for.

+1 The OP probably does feel lucky in this respect but often it is not about the actual gift it is the lack of thought from a spouse that can be hurtful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t get anything but I gave my car all new hubcaps and a Bumper Bully. It just hit 132K and I want to “ thank” it!

Yes, don't you just feel so grateful?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult should not be disappointed in their gifts.

What a weird perspective.

NP It isn’t. Expecting to be wowed by gifts — heck, expecting *gifts* — is gauche.

So you’re teaching your children that moms shouldn’t mind being treated like doormats / invisible? Great parenting.

That's an interesting perspective.

My dad bought nothing for my mom, but bought himself a $500 gift. I could have smacked him today.

I have nothing to complain about, personally.

Women are taught from an early age gift price = worth of the woman.

How about the total lack of respect from ZERO THOUGHT. None. Go buy something you want.

[Anonymous]

You are grown adults, start acting like it. If you have kids, it is not all about you anymore.

[Anonymous]

You are grown adults, start acting like it. If you have kids, it is not all about you anymore.

If you have kids, it's important to teach them to be considerate of their parents. And, no, that's not entirely mom's job (assuming a hetero couple here). If mom helps kids choose a gift for dad, dad should be doing the same and helping kids choose a gift for mom. It's not fair for everyone to have a gift under the tree except for one person in the family.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe you unwrapped a box of garbage bags. Omg.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe you unwrapped a box of garbage bags. Omg.

NP I can beat this. My mom is on the spectrum and spectacularly bad at gift giving. One year k told her "get me something I need" thinking like a scarf or something. She got me a new trash can, with trash in it.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I are both very hard to shop for because we both have everything we want and need. We are not rich but a comfortable income and simple tastes. So what we usually do is give each other things we would have bought anyway that just happen to be bought near the holidays. I got a new watch and he got a new pair of sneakers and some internet booster thing I don’t really even understand. But we wrapped them up under the tree so it seemed like we gave each other presents. Works for us. Our real gift to each other is the life we live every day and the freedom from financial worries. We also love travel and restaurants and spend what we want on those. But how would I even know what to buy him, or him me because we are already so blessed. It was different when we were your and poor.