Does it kind of suck to be an out of state student?

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Anonymous wrote:We are in MD. If my kid was going to Florida for college it would suck even more now. And no way to evacuate? Yikes.

My daughter is at University of Florida and loves the school. They didn’t loose power at all. This school is inland too. No way to evacuate? Are you kidding? UMD in Prince George’s County sucks. How old are you?

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Anonymous wrote:Unlike most DCUM posters, we don’t have piles of money to waste. We told our kiddos they can go anywhere - as long as it was in-state. Our neighbor let their son attend uni on the west coast — in a stunningly beautiful state. He transferred back to an instate school after a year.

I've seen this dozens of times as well. And why do they transfer back? Because they want to hang out with their high school friends again. Everyone in this thread pretending in-state universities aren't high school 2.0 -- and even more so in the last 10 years -- is lying.

I'm not lying. UVA has 16,000 undergrads, 27,000 counting grads. UCLA and Berkeley are monsters as are the other UC schools. There is no reason why any of these schools should be "high school 2.0" unless your own child wants to make it that way. My UVA DD never saw her public high school friends - especially those in different majors. Occasionally she might see one in the dining hall but that's it. I recently asked her what became of Larla, Larlo, Larlita and she didn't have a clue. Remember the college experience is what YOUR CHILD makes of it. They will either go out and join clubs and make friends or they will hovel in their room. They will go Greek if they want (mine did not) or they won't. They will pick a major and probably switch at least once. They will drink and get sick or they won't. This is a time of exploration for them. Most well-adjusted 18 year olds are not going to University for a "high school 2.0" experience. The only people who repeat that are those who didn't get into their choice flagships, William & Mary or Virginia Tech.

Seriously!
My kids lived in Northern VA Fairfax County suburban city for their whole life. Most of their friends went to UVA VT W&M.
If not for in-state tuition, would you still send your kids to those VA schools unless they have some physical or mental problem so they need to stay relatively close to home??

Time to get the F out already.

You just listed 3 highly regarded schools - of course I would still send my in-state kid there. It will leave money for grad school or helping with home purchase etc. People seem to think that if their kid doesn’t go out of state for college that they won’t sufficiently bloom and leave the nest. I think that’s ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Unlike most DCUM posters, we don’t have piles of money to waste. We told our kiddos they can go anywhere - as long as it was in-state. Our neighbor let their son attend uni on the west coast — in a stunningly beautiful state. He transferred back to an instate school after a year.

I've seen this dozens of times as well. And why do they transfer back? Because they want to hang out with their high school friends again. Everyone in this thread pretending in-state universities aren't high school 2.0 -- and even more so in the last 10 years -- is lying.

I'm not lying. UVA has 16,000 undergrads, 27,000 counting grads. UCLA and Berkeley are monsters as are the other UC schools. There is no reason why any of these schools should be "high school 2.0" unless your own child wants to make it that way. My UVA DD never saw her public high school friends - especially those in different majors. Occasionally she might see one in the dining hall but that's it. I recently asked her what became of Larla, Larlo, Larlita and she didn't have a clue. Remember the college experience is what YOUR CHILD makes of it. They will either go out and join clubs and make friends or they will hovel in their room. They will go Greek if they want (mine did not) or they won't. They will pick a major and probably switch at least once. They will drink and get sick or they won't. This is a time of exploration for them. Most well-adjusted 18 year olds are not going to University for a "high school 2.0" experience. The only people who repeat that are those who didn't get into their choice flagships, William & Mary or Virginia Tech.

Seriously!
My kids lived in Northern VA Fairfax County suburban city for their whole life. Most of their friends went to UVA VT W&M.
If not for in-state tuition, would you still send your kids to those VA schools unless they have some physical or mental problem so they need to stay relatively close to home??

Time to get the F out already.

No thanks, dude. Look, it’s clear your kid didn’t get into any of the schools you mentioned and now you have a huge chip on your shoulder. I would absolutely send my kids to any of those schools (especially the first two) and in fact, will be lucky if they are accepted. I’m so sorry your kids were shut out and you had to pay OOS prices for a middling school instead.
DP

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Anonymous wrote:We are in MD. If my kid was going to Florida for college it would suck even more now. And no way to evacuate? Yikes.

My daughter is at University of Florida and loves the school. They didn’t loose power at all. This school is inland too. No way to evacuate? Are you kidding? UMD in Prince George’s County sucks. How old are you?

I went to Florida and had a laugh at that comment. Anyone can get a flight out of Florida in a few days before a hurricane. It’s never going to be necessary if you live in Gainesville, though.

I was in state, but largely remember UF being very OOS-friendly. There are tons of kids from the northeast there.