Would you be bothered if your spouse didn't reference you in their social media bio?

[Anonymous]

People are way too obsessed with social media.

[Anonymous]

We’re not even “friends” with dh on Facebook 🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re not even “friends” with dh on Facebook 🤣

Are you in a polyamorous relationship?

[Anonymous]

I’m happily married and I’ve actually never even looked at my spouse’s social media profile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Social media that says you love Jesus is so far into the “no” category that I don’t even know how to answer this. Why would you want to be included in this bio?

+1

OP, did your wife write that she's in a relationship...with Jesus? It sounds serious.

[Anonymous]

I just checked and i mention my kids but not my spouse. Quite faithful, though!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know but the question makes me glad I’m not married.

I’m married, but glad that neither of us is on social media!

[Anonymous]

OP here. DH's profile reads


Child of God. Father of 4. Dad dog to 1.


For the record, I don't regularly check social media mine or his, but just happened to check today, and noticed this.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would be upset.

Shouldn’t you be proud of your spouse??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. DH's profile reads


Child of God. Father of 4. Dad dog to 1.


For the record, I don't regularly check social media mine or his, but just happened to check today, and noticed this.

Blech

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. DH's profile reads


Child of God. Father of 4. Dad dog to 1.


For the record, I don't regularly check social media mine or his, but just happened to check today, and noticed this.

You're married to a nut.

[Anonymous]

I would be so turned off if DH ever put anything like that on his profile. What a weirdo.

[Anonymous]

I think the dad dog part is the worst of it. He prob feels like you’re included in the father of 4 part. I wouldn’t sweat it aside from the cheese factor which would not fly with me.

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[Anonymous]

Is there a gender issue at play here?

I don't mention my family in my social media bio at all (I can't even remember what they say, I think not much). But I feel like I've seen a lot of bios from women that highlight their kids (and sometimes, yes, their religious affiliation and pets) but don't necessarily mention their husbands. The mom thing in particular is big. A lot of women count motherhood as their central identity, so it wouldn't be that weird to me for them to mention their kids but not their spouse. And while I wouldn't do any of this, I kind of get it -- being a parent is all consuming in a way that being a spouse is not (and shouldn't be). I love my DH but I don't spend every day all day working for his benefit. But there are absolutely times in my life when I've done that for my kids (especially when they were babies/toddlers).

I don't know. I guess it would just depend on other factors. I don't think it's a big deal but I could also understand if it bothers you OP. Especially if it feels like he might neglect you in other ways. I probably prioritize my kids over my spouse, but I still prioritize my spouse. It's just the kids mostly need more of me whereas my spouse is more of a partner and friend and doesn't demand as much of me.