Thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend-writing on the wall?

[Anonymous]

How old are you OP?

How old is she?

[Anonymous]

It’s not her, it’s you OP

[Anonymous]

How old is she? I've found lots of older women are flakes. They will do dumb impulsive things like say "I'm going to quit my job and move to California". Best to avoid women like that.

[Anonymous]

So what, you expect her to keep renting while you build equity and you aren't even proposing? Or even saying, move in right now? Why your house as opposed to both of you finding a house together?

She is probably thinking you are wasting her time.

If you want to be with her, propose and see what she says. If she says no, move on.

[Anonymous]

I think that you should think about what you want and then talk to her about the future. I think that her decision may be a sign that she wants out. Maybe she thinks you're not committed? Maybe she isn't feeling it anymore. But you guys have to talk to each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what, you expect her to keep renting while you build equity and you aren't even proposing? Or even saying, move in right now? Why your house as opposed to both of you finding a house together?

She is probably thinking you are wasting her time.

If you want to be with her, propose and see what she says. If she says no, move on.

Exactly this.

[Anonymous]

I think she's a smart woman. It's smart to buy a home and build equity. Who knows how serious you are or whether it will actually lead to marriage. Or maybe you'll get engaged but then end up breaking up after. You just never know. You can't expect her to just put her life on hold until you both decide if you want to spend the rest of your lives together.

[Anonymous]

You both suck at communicating. Ask her what her plan is, discuss what you want then think about what the next step is.

[Anonymous]

I find it bizarre that you would break up with her without actually talking to her about what she said. For all she knows, you are not interested in commitment and a future together and she wants some financial security of her own. Bring it up. "Hey, the other day when you talked about buying a place and then leaving DC, it made me wonder what you are thinking about in terms of us. Do you see me in your future? "

after all this time together you should not only have these conversations but should have them with her, not with DCUM, as an obvious first step.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she was looking for a proposal and not an offer to move into your house a year out from now. She may think you are not very serious, so she is starting to ponder other opportunities life has for her.

Years ago I told my BF that my lease was expiring in six months and I didn’t want to extend it but I wasn’t sure what to do. He then said maybe we should get married so we got married! He’s always been very good at solving problems.

[Anonymous]

If you’re limpdiykking around and not proposing, why would she make future plans with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what, you expect her to keep renting while you build equity and you aren't even proposing? Or even saying, move in right now? Why your house as opposed to both of you finding a house together?

She is probably thinking you are wasting her time.

If you want to be with her, propose and see what she says. If she says no, move on.

Exactly this.

This. And yet another example of how women stay financially reliant on men and it ends up biting them in the a$$ later. Quit being selfish and afraid of commitment and actually talk about these things. Your GF having financial security, too, is important.