Only problem with preschool is that DC misses Nanny

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Anonymous wrote:Why is he in prek for 5 hrs?? Ours is 9-12 MWF which is the perfect combo.

Preschool not pre k and it just is. It’s a great school but I wish it were shorter too. All the good preschools in our area are four to five hours. But I’m a firm believer in five days a week.

^^ 5hrs/M-Fri is A LOT for a 3 yr old especially as a first timer.

Part of it is the sheer exhaustion of that long day and the other part is this very radical (at least to your 3 yrold) change in routine. Up until now, all she's ever known in her little universe is nanny. Now you've done a 180 on your 3 yr old and placed her in 5 hrs of preschool everyday.

OP here. Please stop. My son had a three week transition to his school (hardly a 180) and looks forward to going every day. He isn’t exhausted when he comes home - he simply wants time with his nanny.

Please try to stay on point. We aren’t switching preschools and we truly think it’s what in our child’s best interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is he in prek for 5 hrs?? Ours is 9-12 MWF which is the perfect combo.

Preschool not pre k and it just is. It’s a great school but I wish it were shorter too. All the good preschools in our area are four to five hours. But I’m a firm believer in five days a week.

^^ 5hrs/M-Fri is A LOT for a 3 yr old especially as a first timer.

Part of it is the sheer exhaustion of that long day and the other part is this very radical (at least to your 3 yrold) change in routine. Up until now, all she's ever known in her little universe is nanny. Now you've done a 180 on your 3 yr old and placed her in 5 hrs of preschool everyday.

OP here. Please stop. My son had a three week transition to his school (hardly a 180) and looks forward to going every day. He isn’t exhausted when he comes home - he simply wants time with his nanny.

Please try to stay on point. We aren’t switching preschools and we truly think it’s what in our child’s best interest.

OP, no worries -- the rest of us have your back. We wound up putting our 3 yo in a 5 day a week program that was closer to 7 hours and it was amazing for her. Some kids really thrive in that structure and need the classroom environment versus being at home with a SAHM or nanny. We had a great nanny, too, who did lots of wonderful projects and set up the day well. But our kid needed the socialization and, frankly, to be out of the house. Being in another environment all day was wonderful for her and she flourished.

All kids are different.

[Anonymous]

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How very sad that he misses the nanny and not his mom! I am so glad I stayed home with my kids and formed a close bond with them!

Jesus, this forum can be insane.

PP, I am home - I’ve always worked from home. My time with my son hasn’t changed since he started school. His time with his nanny has. That’s the point. Now go live your life and stop the transparent jealousy of mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is he in prek for 5 hrs?? Ours is 9-12 MWF which is the perfect combo.

Preschool not pre k and it just is. It’s a great school but I wish it were shorter too. All the good preschools in our area are four to five hours. But I’m a firm believer in five days a week.

^^ 5hrs/M-Fri is A LOT for a 3 yr old especially as a first timer.

Part of it is the sheer exhaustion of that long day and the other part is this very radical (at least to your 3 yrold) change in routine. Up until now, all she's ever known in her little universe is nanny. Now you've done a 180 on your 3 yr old and placed her in 5 hrs of preschool everyday.

I don't think this is that big of a deal. She will adjust to preschool and is at an age where that increased social exposure can have a wonderful impact on her. And I agree with OP that 5 days a week is best. Our 3 year old was in a MWF morning program, and we thought it was okay but hard. When we switched her to a 5 day a week program that extended into lunch and nap (kids could stay for nap time at school or parents could pick up at the end of lunch so kids could nap at home), she acclimated so much faster and we also saw so many other great benefits -- she got better at making friends, her social skills with both kids and adults really increased, she was much more consistent with using the potty and other self-care things because we had the same routine every day and she had lots of practice. She also started understanding time better and her thinking around days of the week and time of day got much more organized. It was hard at first but then she got used to it and it was MUCH better than the 3 days a week schedule.

I'm glad your kid adjusted but clearly it's not the case for Op. Her kid is visibly upset and to the point of begging to have more time with nanny (probably wanting his old routine back)

NO, my son loves his school and looks forward to it. He has adjusted beautifully and is doing well. He doesn’t want his old routine back especially since his old routine involved his baby sister. Let me say this again and loudly for the one idiot who can’t seem to understand: MY SON WANTS MORE TIME WITH NANNY. That’s it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is he in prek for 5 hrs?? Ours is 9-12 MWF which is the perfect combo.

Preschool not pre k and it just is. It’s a great school but I wish it were shorter too. All the good preschools in our area are four to five hours. But I’m a firm believer in five days a week.

^^ 5hrs/M-Fri is A LOT for a 3 yr old especially as a first timer.

Part of it is the sheer exhaustion of that long day and the other part is this very radical (at least to your 3 yrold) change in routine. Up until now, all she's ever known in her little universe is nanny. Now you've done a 180 on your 3 yr old and placed her in 5 hrs of preschool everyday.

OP here. Please stop. My son had a three week transition to his school (hardly a 180) and looks forward to going every day. He isn’t exhausted when he comes home - he simply wants time with his nanny.

Please try to stay on point. We aren’t switching preschools and we truly think it’s what in our child’s best interest.

OP, no worries -- the rest of us have your back. We wound up putting our 3 yo in a 5 day a week program that was closer to 7 hours and it was amazing for her. Some kids really thrive in that structure and need the classroom environment versus being at home with a SAHM or nanny. We had a great nanny, too, who did lots of wonderful projects and set up the day well. But our kid needed the socialization and, frankly, to be out of the house. Being in another environment all day was wonderful for her and she flourished.

All kids are different.

+1. The best preschools usually are four to five hours a day, five days a week. OP, ignore the one fool with her defensiveness.

And yes, an extra hour with nanny without his baby sister would be great. Maybe every Friday or every Monday. I know my kids would love that.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he is adjusting very well overall. I would try another few weeks of the same to see if he can adjust fully without additional hours for the nanny.

[Anonymous]

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How very sad that he misses the nanny and not his mom! I am so glad I stayed home with my kids and formed a close bond with them!

He has a strong bond with each of his parents and the nanny. He's crying for more time with the nanny because 1. he's adjusting to the new schedule that only changes hours with the nanny (does not effect the hours with the parents) and 2. he's also reacting to the 10mo clinging to the nanny in front of him.

[Anonymous]

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How very sad that he misses the nanny and not his mom! I am so glad I stayed home with my kids and formed a close bond with them!

Why would he miss his mom when his mom is right there and spending the same amount of time with him as she did before he started school?

Seriously, I never understand posts like yours. Why are you so insecure about your choices? It’s certainly okay that you stayed home with your kids and you think you have a strong bond with them but it isn’t the least bit applicable to OP’s situation with her child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How very sad that he misses the nanny and not his mom! I am so glad I stayed home with my kids and formed a close bond with them!

Jesus, this forum can be insane.

PP, I am home - I’ve always worked from home. My time with my son hasn’t changed since he started school. His time with his nanny has. That’s the point. Now go live your life and stop the transparent jealousy of mine.

Np here. Op, all your replies sound really defensive and hostile, and you’re clearly not open to anyone with a different POV or take on the situation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How very sad that he misses the nanny and not his mom! I am so glad I stayed home with my kids and formed a close bond with them!

Jesus, this forum can be insane.

PP, I am home - I’ve always worked from home. My time with my son hasn’t changed since he started school. His time with his nanny has. That’s the point. Now go live your life and stop the transparent jealousy of mine.

Np here. Op, all your replies sound really defensive and hostile, and you’re clearly not open to anyone with a different POV or take on the situation

I disagree. DCUM is maddening when posters can’t stay on point or simply move on when they have nothing relevant to add (like this poster) and the NP here and no one wants a SAHM vs Working Mom war. It’s boring.