How fast is too fast?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Party 1 clearly has a pattern. Party 2 should NOT have children with party 1.

Also, is there a big age gap? Party 1 has grandchildren and Party 2 still wants their own children? So I assume of childbearing age? Do tell.

Yes, there is about a 21 year age gap. Party 1 is 56 and Party 2 is ~35.

I think it's nuts, personally. I am very close friends with Party 1 and he is not a bad person in relationships-- he can be very devoted and is a pleaser-- but his picker is definitely off. I'm close enough to tell him when I see red flags, like with his last long-term relationship...and while I don't see other red flags with Party 2, the fact that she wants to have kids with someone who will be pushing 60 is a red flag in itself. She has always dated older men, it's her thing, but still...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Party 1 clearly has a pattern. Party 2 should NOT have children with party 1.

Also, is there a big age gap? Party 1 has grandchildren and Party 2 still wants their own children? So I assume of childbearing age? Do tell.

Yes, there is about a 21 year age gap. Party 1 is 56 and Party 2 is ~35.

I think it's nuts, personally. I am very close friends with Party 1 and he is not a bad person in relationships-- he can be very devoted and is a pleaser-- but his picker is definitely off. I'm close enough to tell him when I see red flags, like with his last long-term relationship...and while I don't see other red flags with Party 2, the fact that she wants to have kids with someone who will be pushing 60 is a red flag in itself. She has always dated older men, it's her thing, but still...

There's something wrong with your friend. You don't just keep picking the wrong people 3 times and haven't learned anything by 56

[Anonymous]

Sounds hot. They should go for it.

::get popcorn ready::

[Anonymous]

This will end well.