What is reasonable contact with the other parent?

Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Really depends on so many factors, it is impossible to answer this question without more details. Ages of kids, custody schedule, their relationship with each parent, who is initiating the contact, how do kids respond, etc.

In general, though, I'm all for letting the kids contact the other parent whenever they want. But there are factors that could make this inappropriate, so we need more details.


My ex was/is very controlling and focused in his image/ego, and thus demanded a check-the-box call with the daughters every day. They did it and he and they barely said anything. It eventually petered out. He does his Disney dad stuff on his weekends and a dinner out with big desserts once a week. They have shallow, check the box “conversations.”


Sounds like you were the issue when you did not want phone calls and limited contact. I feel bad for your kids that they lost their dad due to your needs and not theirs.


No. His unmanaged mental disorders determine his level of interaction and conversation abilities. And energy and attention level.
Him demanding a daily phone call yet not knowing what to do or say was indeed sad.


What is sad is your unwillingness to help.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Really depends on so many factors, it is impossible to answer this question without more details. Ages of kids, custody schedule, their relationship with each parent, who is initiating the contact, how do kids respond, etc.

In general, though, I'm all for letting the kids contact the other parent whenever they want. But there are factors that could make this inappropriate, so we need more details.


My ex was/is very controlling and focused in his image/ego, and thus demanded a check-the-box call with the daughters every day. They did it and he and they barely said anything. It eventually petered out. He does his Disney dad stuff on his weekends and a dinner out with big desserts once a week. They have shallow, check the box “conversations.”


Sounds like you were the issue when you did not want phone calls and limited contact. I feel bad for your kids that they lost their dad due to your needs and not theirs.


No. His unmanaged mental disorders determine his level of interaction and conversation abilities. And energy and attention level.
Him demanding a daily phone call yet not knowing what to do or say was indeed sad.


What is sad is your unwillingness to help.


You can't force another person to be abetter parent when they do not have the skills or inclination.
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