Would you be mad? Babysitter question

[Anonymous]

it’s possible the baby had just pooped.

[Anonymous]

Is the babysitter masked? The mask makes it harder to detect poop odours. If the toddler is in a onesie it also makes it more challenging to take a quick peek to check.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I come back, and the house is a toy mess, and my 1-year-old has a dirty diaper. The babysitter is a 24-year-old male.

What did you expect? Your 24 yr old son would have done the same thing. As another poster said, I would never hire a 24 yr old male. Also, maybe he was going to clean up all yoys just before leaving. Leaving a dirty diaper on, well, males don't smell $&it as well as women. Whatever, it is on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I come back, and the house is a toy mess, and my 1-year-old has a dirty diaper. The babysitter is a 24-year-old male.

What did you expect? Your 24 yr old son would have done the same thing. As another poster said, I would never hire a 24 yr old male. Also, maybe he was going to clean up all yoys just before leaving. Leaving a dirty diaper on, well, males don't smell $&it as well as women. Whatever, it is on you.

One of the finest nurses I’ve known was male and straight. One messy, inattentive male sitter does not represent the whole cohort. Shame on YOU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I come back, and the house is a toy mess, and my 1-year-old has a dirty diaper. The babysitter is a 24-year-old male.

What did you expect? Your 24 yr old son would have done the same thing. As another poster said, I would never hire a 24 yr old male. Also, maybe he was going to clean up all yoys just before leaving. Leaving a dirty diaper on, well, males don't smell $&it as well as women. Whatever, it is on you.

Excuse me what? Are you really trying to say there is a difference in olfactory function depending on your genitals? This a new one, even for DCUM

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I come back, and the house is a toy mess, and my 1-year-old has a dirty diaper. The babysitter is a 24-year-old male.

What did you expect? Your 24 yr old son would have done the same thing. As another poster said, I would never hire a 24 yr old male. Also, maybe he was going to clean up all yoys just before leaving. Leaving a dirty diaper on, well, males don't smell $&it as well as women. Whatever, it is on you.

Excuse me what? Are you really trying to say there is a difference in olfactory function depending on your genitals? This a new one, even for DCUM

uh...this is a well known fact. women smell better than men, and even more acutely at different phases of their cycle.

[Anonymous]

People have different standards for what constitutes a mess. I would let that go. How one had the kid had a poopy diaper? It may have just happened?

[Anonymous]

OP here. He clearly can't handle the job. My house is clean and organized when he arrives. I have babysat him. He can't remember where the house keys are stored. He thinks nothing about sending my child to interrupt my work. Today he asked I I wanted him to change the baby's diaper before he left. He comes late and expects to leave on time. My husband has been sending him home early just because but I am the one who has to take care of the kids when he's not here. I need to find another babysitter, but it's hard!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He clearly can't handle the job. My house is clean and organized when he arrives. I have babysat him. He can't remember where the house keys are stored. He thinks nothing about sending my child to interrupt my work. Today he asked I I wanted him to change the baby's diaper before he left. He comes late and expects to leave on time. My husband has been sending him home early just because but I am the one who has to take care of the kids when he's not here. I need to find another babysitter, but it's hard!

It's not hard, unless you're not guaranteeing hours, providing enough hours and/or paying a high enough hourly rate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People have different standards for what constitutes a mess. I would let that go. How one had the kid had a poopy diaper? It may have just happened?

OP here. I can't let that go. He's a grown-ass adult. I've explained that I want the toys and food messes picked up. I explained this in my emails before I initially met him. I explained this on the first day and two more times after that. There's no other job I can think of where it's okay to ignore job duties. I don't understand how a college graduate can't get to work on time and do the basic responsibilities of the job. My husband wants to let it all slide, but I'm afraid I have to disagree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the babysitter masked? The mask makes it harder to detect poop odours. If the toddler is in a onesie it also makes it more challenging to take a quick peek to check.

No he's not.

[Anonymous]

My kid is a stealth pooper. The diaper may have been clean 99% of the time except for those last 2 minutes which was right when you arrived back home.

Also, a toy tornado in your living room is a sign they had a good time.


Did you go over expectations? Were they too busy having fun to stop and have to neatly put away and organize everything?
Toys can wait. A lot of the times, toys aren't put away until the very end of tbe day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. I am not sure it’s so much the male part as the 24yo part. We have a sitter who is 26 and so amazing with my kids, but cleaning up is just not something she thinks about. When she feeds the kids, she puts the dishes in the sink if I am lucky, but most of the time just leaves them on the table. The toys are out and well played with too. I feel like that just what you get from a younger, very part time sitter.

You could absolutely tell him it would be great if he can help put some things away as they play but it may or may not happen.

24 is not a young sitter! 14 is a young sitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is a stealth pooper. The diaper may have been clean 99% of the time except for those last 2 minutes which was right when you arrived back home.

Also, a toy tornado in your living room is a sign they had a good time.


Did you go over expectations? Were they too busy having fun to stop and have to neatly put away and organize everything?
Toys can wait. A lot of the times, toys aren't put away until the very end of tbe day.

OP here. Yes, yes, yes. Too busy doesn't excuse ignoring basic job duties. The young babysitters these days are just plain l a z y.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I can't let that go. He's a grown-ass adult. I've explained that I want the toys and food messes picked up. I explained this in my emails before I initially met him. I explained this on the first day and two more times after that. There's no other job I can think of where it's okay to ignore job duties. I don't understand how a college graduate can't get to work on time and do the basic responsibilities of the job. My husband wants to let it all slide, but I'm afraid I have to disagree.

It's not working out, you need to move on. No need to expend more emotional energy dwelling on this. It isn't a fit, and you need to find someone else. You may need to pay more, if you are having trouble finding someone.