Boyfriend Wants Kids

[Anonymous]

I was like you. With a man who desperately wanted to be a father and I just wasn’t sure. We split up and I married a man who was apathetic about kids. We decided together to have one and love him more than anything, but we’d never have another. Point being, you need to be on the same page with your life partner about any number of kids, zero, one, or twenty.

[Anonymous]

Parenting is a million times worse than what you see around you. I’m a parent I know (unless you have a magical child that’s always an angel and plays by themselves and eats and sleeps well ha!) then your life will be just caring for that child and taking care of that child. I wanted kids so badly and damn what a fukin wakeup call parenting is, throw in pandemic and I’m so so so so miserable.

Break up, you don’t want kids he does, move on.

[Anonymous]

I felt like I needed to have kids, never stopped to yhi k about whether I wanted them.

Take your time to make this decision..k ow a kid free life can be awesome. Having know D's can be awesome too, but greater chance of difficulty challenge, sacrifice. Don't do it unless you feel you really want to.

[Anonymous]

Have one child and have your BF and the default parent. That’s what a friend of mine did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was on the fence about kids for a long time too bc of what they do to your life. What I didn't appreciate was that kids change your life for the better. You cannot imagine until you have one how much love it brings to your life and what a delight and privilege it is.

I totally agree.

[Anonymous]

having a sweet baby-but not a colicky, screaming, snotfilled, one?

don’t want to lose him-obvi! He knows this. But if you love him, you'd want the best for him, which is for him to find someone who does. Male infertility is REAL and worsens with age-don't waste another moment of his life.

[Anonymous]

Be true to yourself OP. Tell him how you feel right at the moment, not sure you want kids. He may decide that is okay, and he still wants to go forward on your life journey with you, wherever that takes you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be true to yourself OP. Tell him how you feel right at the moment, not sure you want kids. He may decide that is okay, and he still wants to go forward on your life journey with you, wherever that takes you.

She should tell him exactly what she wrote in her fist post, not just that she is unsure. She should let him no that her unsure may very well be a no. She also really needs to be honest with herself on this .

It's okay to like kids and not want to be a parent.