What is the earliest age that you think “not unusual” when you hear someone is pregnant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you hear that a 20 year old is pregnant, you shriek, but when you hear a 30 year old is you of course don’t bat an eye. Assuming the couple is married and can afford to live in their community, what is the earliest age that someone can have a child and not be judged negatively. 26? 28?

No, I don't. I also don't shriek when unmarried people are pregnant, or when people who can't afford rent are pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you hear that a 20 year old is pregnant, you shriek, but when you hear a 30 year old is you of course don’t bat an eye. Assuming the couple is married and can afford to live in their community, what is the earliest age that someone can have a child and not be judged negatively. 26? 28?

No, I don't. I also don't shriek when unmarried people are pregnant, or when people who can't afford rent are pregnant.

You’re in the minority then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Younger than 26 and I assume it was unplanned.

I assume they are part of a strict religion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you hear that a 20 year old is pregnant, you shriek, but when you hear a 30 year old is you of course don’t bat an eye. Assuming the couple is married and can afford to live in their community, what is the earliest age that someone can have a child and not be judged negatively. 26? 28?

No, I don't. I also don't shriek when unmarried people are pregnant, or when people who can't afford rent are pregnant.

You’re in the minority then.

Hardly. 40% of births in the US are to unmarried women. Also, almost 1 in 6 children in the US live in poor households. If you shrieked about every unmarried pregnant women or poor pregnant woman, you'd spend a lot of time shrieking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you hear that a 20 year old is pregnant, you shriek, but when you hear a 30 year old is you of course don’t bat an eye. Assuming the couple is married and can afford to live in their community, what is the earliest age that someone can have a child and not be judged negatively. 26? 28?

No, I don't. I also don't shriek when unmarried people are pregnant, or when people who can't afford rent are pregnant.

You’re in the minority then.

Hardly. 40% of births in the US are to unmarried women. Also, almost 1 in 6 children in the US live in poor households. If you shrieked about every unmarried pregnant women or poor pregnant woman, you'd spend a lot of time shrieking.

I meant among DCUM types.

[Anonymous]

I’d say 25/26. 25 is considered young these days but just a generation ago this was normal if not a few years later than average.

I started TTC at 27 and it took me a year to get pregnant.so many people have fertility issues. Many won’t realize it until they start trying in their thirties, and others will have fertility issues, or won’t have as many kids as they planned, precisely because they waited too late into their 30s. It’s a small window these days where it’s acceptable to get married and realistically have 2-3 kids.

[Anonymous]

Before 27 I would suspect it was unplanned or they are very religious/conservative. To be clear, not judging anyone - just answering the question as asked.

Does anyone else get a ton of teen/young-mom-themed suggested videos on social media? I must have clicked on one once and now I get a ton. A lot of 35 year old moms smiling next to 17 year old daughters, or 19 year olds doing that question-answering thing, and tons of supportive comments. I don't really get it

[Anonymous]

20

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Nobody can ever do anything without being judged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Before 27 I would suspect it was unplanned or they are very religious/conservative. To be clear, not judging anyone - just answering the question as asked.

Does anyone else get a ton of teen/young-mom-themed suggested videos on social media? I must have clicked on one once and now I get a ton. A lot of 35 year old moms smiling next to 17 year old daughters, or 19 year olds doing that question-answering thing, and tons of supportive comments. I don't really get it

This isn’t new. Teen Mom premiered over a decade ago. To be clear I am NOT fond of underage children having children.

[Anonymous]

Maybe 28. I only know one person who was married at 27 or younger.

[Anonymous]

25

That would still be early-ish, but not unusual.

My grandmother asked if my 1st pregnancy, at 31, was planned

[Anonymous]

I come from a very pro-birth religion and I always cringed when somebody 19 or 20 got pregnant. Lots of them were college classmates and they had to juggle so much to get their degrees when I had an easy time studying and still having fun. Between a kid, living in a tiny house apartment, barely getting by in their classes to graduate, and cooking super shitty food because it’s all they could afford, while their husbands spent all their time away studying because the husband was to be the real earner, it seemed like such a crappy gig.

But now they don’t seem any less happy than any of my other friends (meaning it’s hit or miss). I was judgey, and for no reason. Im glad I didn’t do it but I guess it worked for some of them.

[Anonymous]

22. Not everyone is waiting. When I was in England all the parents looked so YOUNG.

[Anonymous]

On the other hand 43 is about the limit for older. So about 20+ years span.