Anyone else replay and over analyze social situations?

[Anonymous]

I have ASD and this is how I leveraged anxiety to teach myself how to speak NT.

[Anonymous]

I get to the point where I want to text people afterwards just to confirm that I didn't say or do anything stupid. But that would be insanely weird so I don't but these interactions really do way on me too.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is anxiety. Specifically, it's rumination. Therapy & meds help.

+1

You don’t all have to live like this.

+2. I did this so much and it made me miserable. Life is so much better without it.

[Anonymous]

Yes. The morning after a social event i have what i call a social hangover” where all the conversation i had.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I do this. And it has been INTENSE this year with Covid. Today I went in a shop I used to frequent before the pandemic but hadn't been in since, and the manager, who I recognized but I know did not recognize me, helped me find a gift. It was a totally normal interaction, she was nice and helpful as always, I wound up buying what I needed, no big deal.

I have been thinking about it for hours. Did she actually recognize me but pretend she didn't? Did I seem too demanding? Was she frustrated with how long she was helping me? All of this is insane. It is normal I would recognize her, it's her store. And it's normal she wouldn't recognize me among hundred or thousands of customers, especially after over a year and while we were in masks. I am sure she was fine helping me and it worked out.

And yet.

Every day is like this for me.

[Anonymous]

Yup, you’ve described me well, OP. I’m a people-pleaser to a fault and cannot bare the possibility that someone might not like me so I tend to innately shift a bit inside to please the person I’m talking to, and over-analyze our conversations afterward. This happens at work and in social situations. It enables me to get along with most people, which has benefited me in certain respects, but it’s exhausting and maddening too.

[Anonymous]

Bear, not bare! ^^

[Anonymous]

I think everyone does this to some degree - I am a social extrovert and I do this too!