Nanny dilemma

[Anonymous]

Cash her out and say goodbye. She's done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. She was our nanny for a year and a half. If it matters, she started in November 2019 and then from mid April through September 2020 we paid her to stay home because of COVID (we are very cautious).

She has technically used all her sick and PTO days this year - we are generally flexible and usually pay for extra sick time, but since I am not sure if she is really sick I am not thrilled to do it.

Well, you could ask her for a doctor's note. It would be fair to pay her for sick time, but if you're feeling taken advantage of, obviously additional severance doesn't need to be paid.

[Anonymous]

Cut her early and cut the bonus. See if the nanny can come in early to train and hang out with you and the kids. I don’t think either side is wrong and I don’t think it matters if she is truly sick or not. Why have someone come in that clearly wants to be done? I wouldn’t want that around my kids.

[Anonymous]

Given your updated info, and how she hasn’t been a super long term nanny, I’d just cut your losses and let her go. Wish her well, and send her on her way. She got half of last year off, paid, (my work load increased substantially during COVID and I haven’t had a break in two years) so I wouldn’t worry about a bonus at this point. Wish her well, and let the new nanny figure it out. You don’t need to take a week off!! Maybe a couple hours on the first day, and that’s it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Require a doctor's note of she is sick for more than a day

She already quit. She doesn’t want to come back.

[Anonymous]

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She’s obviously taking the week off. She’s not sick. That sucks. I’m sorry. Just have the new nanny start and cut whatever bonus you were going to give her.

Just because you're a gold Bricker, stop judging other people by your lack of ethics.

Maybe she really is sick. She's been with you over a year. Has she always been truthful. If so, then I would take her at her word.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she's playing into your Covid sensitivity with the sickness excuses; she knows you paid her for half of last year to stay home and figures she can milk a couple more weeks out of it again.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here. I think she is reluctant to "train" the new nanny.
Honestly, it's not something we like to do.

It's not nice from her to have said yes and then to pretend she's sick though.

[Anonymous]

She’s not sick. She’s done. She doesn’t want to deal with the emotions of saying good-bye. She doesn’t want to train your new nanny. Let it go. A good nanny doesn’t require much training beyond a quick tour of the house so she knows where everything is. She is watching kids, not performing brain surgery. She’ll find her own way of doing things. She needs to set her own routine and get to know the kids on her own terms.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, for someone who has been wonderful to your kids I’d take the high road, give her the bonus and swallow your annoyance. Your kids may want to keep in touch and it would be crappy to not have a warm relationship moving forward.

Sounds like she felt boxed into lying this bc her request for leave was denied and while you may have been flexible with her as an employer overall, she clearly has a reason she needs to be out. Annoying but happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s not sick. She’s done. She doesn’t want to deal with the emotions of saying good-bye. She doesn’t want to train your new nanny. Let it go. A good nanny doesn’t require much training beyond a quick tour of the house so she knows where everything is. She is watching kids, not performing brain surgery. She’ll find her own way of doing things. She needs to set her own routine and get to know the kids on her own terms.

I agree