How do you know a man is attracted to you or interested in you romantically?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Invitation for after hours coffee or a drink.

The female should do the inviting if this is at the workplace. A lot of men are timid due to sexual harrassment claims.

I won't be inviting him anywhere. If and it's a big if he's interested and would like to get to know me he can figure his ish out and find a way to talk to me so that a progression to hang out for drinks would not be weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m no relationship expert, but sounds like he’s into you…

+1 I would say definitely attracted but not willing to make a move yet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Invitation for after hours coffee or a drink.

The female should do the inviting if this is at the workplace. A lot of men are timid due to sexual harrassment claims.

+1 DH and I worked together and I had a pretty good feel that he liked me but he was higher up (not a direct report). I eventually asked him to have lunch with me and that got things started.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Invitation for after hours coffee or a drink.

The female should do the inviting if this is at the workplace. A lot of men are timid due to sexual harrassment claims.

+1 DH and I worked together and I had a pretty good feel that he liked me but he was higher up (not a direct report). I eventually asked him to have lunch with me and that got things started.

And get charged with sexual harassment herself? There's nothing bon op's posts to indicate she should invite him anywhere. I mean all it sounds like is the guy stares at her all day , which is creepy in imo. But he could at least say hello. I guess op could try that next time and go from there. Then if they are talking regularly and she senses he's into her invite him out for something generic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d say lots of looking is good sign, but not enough to know for sure.

2 examples of the looking:

Instance 1 : Another woman was talking to/flirting with him, I;m behind her and can see he's looking at me.

Instance 2: He's talking to someone else I walk by and I can see him following me out of the corner of my eye, also the person he's talking to turns to look to see who/what he's looking at.


Not looking for examples but other things, Walking towards each other, he has a big smile on his face until he realizes I'm kinda grumpy and then he stops smiling. Another day I'm kinda grumpy /busy I breeze into a room, he moves over to make room for me, goes back to his conversation, but not before the other person glances between us like trying to figure out what's up,

Finally, he constantly seems to be in my area not talking to me , but just there. Like he'll walk by maybe 5 + times a day when he doesn't need to be.

I say these 2:are pretty good indicators he's into you. In the first he'd checking your reaction to another woman showing interest in him. And even though he's flirting he only has eyes for you . In the second he's happy to see you and intune to your emotions. He tries to be helpful by making room for you.

It's also noteworthy that in 2 of your examples other people have noticed his reaction to you it's not all in your head

So definitely attracted not sure why he hasn't made a move yet maybe it's as someone said earlier he already has a girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Basically any guy who doesn’t mind his own business around you probably likes you. Anything that breaks social conventions a little bit. That’s an oversimplification but guys are pretty simple.

[Anonymous]

The absolute state of Gen Z men and women. You used to learn this stuff in middle and high school. Most people perfected it in college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Invitation for after hours coffee or a drink.

The female should do the inviting if this is at the workplace. A lot of men are timid due to sexual harrassment claims.

There is some of that but it’s more an awareness that many women do not want to be approached at work by coworkers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Invitation for after hours coffee or a drink.

The female should do the inviting if this is at the workplace. A lot of men are timid due to sexual harrassment claims.

Firstly, don't sh!t where you eat so you shouldn't be dating at work anyway.
Secondly, any man who will not under any circumstances as you out because he's worried about harassment is a creeper with zero social skills who you do not want to date anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Invitation for after hours coffee or a drink.

The female should do the inviting if this is at the workplace. A lot of men are timid due to sexual harrassment claims.

There is some of that but it’s more an awareness that many women do not want to be approached at work by coworkers.

All the more that it's now up to the woman. Guys have been caged in corporate environments and are scared to give off wrong or bad impression.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Invitation for after hours coffee or a drink.

The female should do the inviting if this is at the workplace. A lot of men are timid due to sexual harrassment claims.

There is some of that but it’s more an awareness that many women do not want to be approached at work by coworkers.

Many, many women have experienced hostility from men they turned down.

[Anonymous]

You just know. If OP is being honest with herself, she already knows- she’s looking for validation. And it feels good to let those feelings out somewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Invitation for after hours coffee or a drink.

The female should do the inviting if this is at the workplace. A lot of men are timid due to sexual harrassment claims.

There is some of that but it’s more an awareness that many women do not want to be approached at work by coworkers.

Many, many women have experienced hostility from men they turned down.

This is why men should not be engaging women like that in the office. HER CHOICE. If she likes you she engages you. Otherwise men need to stay in their cubicles and keep conversation professional/neutral.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Invitation for after hours coffee or a drink.

The female should do the inviting if this is at the workplace. A lot of men are timid due to sexual harrassment claims.

There is some of that but it’s more an awareness that many women do not want to be approached at work by coworkers.

Many, many women have experienced hostility from men they turned down.

This is why men should not be engaging women like that in the office. HER CHOICE. If she likes you she engages you. Otherwise men need to stay in their cubicles and keep conversation professional/neutral.

How about you make a separate thread for this topic and stop derailing this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d say lots of looking is good sign, but not enough to know for sure.

2 examples of the looking:

Instance 1 : Another woman was talking to/flirting with him, I;m behind her and can see he's looking at me.

Instance 2: He's talking to someone else I walk by and I can see him following me out of the corner of my eye, also the person he's talking to turns to look to see who/what he's looking at.


Not looking for examples but other things, Walking towards each other, he has a big smile on his face until he realizes I'm kinda grumpy and then he stops smiling. Another day I'm kinda grumpy /busy I breeze into a room, he moves over to make room for me, goes back to his conversation, but not before the other person glances between us like trying to figure out what's up,

Finally, he constantly seems to be in my area not talking to me , but just there. Like he'll walk by maybe 5 + times a day when he doesn't need to be.

I remember every instance you mentioned happening to me and I am realizing how much I miss it. The moment your eyes lock ...

Anonymous wrote:You just know. If OP is being honest with herself, she already knows- she’s looking for validation. And it feels good to let those feelings out somewhere.

Agree with these 2 posters. Op knows he's into her. She just wants a place to gush about it. I get it. Especially when it's a work place thing you can't really gush about it in real life.
The early stages are the best! The glances. The longing. The butterflies everytime you see them. ...also maddening when the other person doesn't make a move. I hope it works out for you. Even if it doesn't enjoy the fact that someone thinks you're a hottie!