What’s involved in moving to another with our nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The biggest questions to me are:

How long are you willing to commit to this set-up? In four years, when the little one is in preK, will you will want a live-in nanny or will she need to move with her HS junior to a place where they can afford to live?

This would be my concern. Your nanny is leaving a support system where she currently lives, right? She’s essentially signing on to be utterly dependent on a continued employment in your household. What happens if there’s a breakdown in the good relationship with you. What happens if you and your spouse divorce and the money for a nanny evaporates?

I can’t see any of that happening but nanny is leaving a lot of close friends and former charges. It’s a risk for her without doubt. We’ve talked about it. She wants her child in a better public school system more than anything.

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Anonymous wrote:This was an Adam Sandler movie that was not bad! I liked it.

Spanglish? Flora wasn’t a live in or a nanny. She was a housekeeper. The Flora and her daughter only stayed with them at their beach house.

[Anonymous]

For what it’s worth, we didn’t think we would need a nanny when our youngest went into k and it was a huge mistake to let her go (we found her a great new job). After 18 months of absolutely horrible part-time babysitters we went back to a professional nanny. Keep an open mind about keeping your nanny longer or at least until her daughter finishes high school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This was an Adam Sandler movie that was not bad! I liked it.

Spanglish? Flora wasn’t a live in or a nanny. She was a housekeeper. The Flora and her daughter only stayed with them at their beach house.

OP here. And the chances of anyone mistaking me for Tia Leone are non-existent!

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Anonymous wrote:For what it’s worth, we didn’t think we would need a nanny when our youngest went into k and it was a huge mistake to let her go (we found her a great new job). After 18 months of absolutely horrible part-time babysitters we went back to a professional nanny. Keep an open mind about keeping your nanny longer or at least until her daughter finishes high school.

Thanks! Yes, we’re keeping this in mind. I have two older sisters who experienced after-school hell with a rotating door of sitters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was an Adam Sandler movie that was not bad! I liked it.

Spanglish? Flora wasn’t a live in or a nanny. She was a housekeeper. The Flora and her daughter only stayed with them at their beach house.

OP here. And the chances of anyone mistaking me for Tia Leone are non-existent!

That’s just what the Tea Leoni character would say.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was an Adam Sandler movie that was not bad! I liked it.

Spanglish? Flora wasn’t a live in or a nanny. She was a housekeeper. The Flora and her daughter only stayed with them at their beach house.

OP here. And the chances of anyone mistaking me for Tia Leone are non-existent!

That’s just what the Tea Leoni character would say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thats a huge pay cut.

PP from earlier who thinks it’s not enough of a pay cut for being rentfree and not even paying for electricity or cable!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was an Adam Sandler movie that was not bad! I liked it.

Spanglish? Flora wasn’t a live in or a nanny. She was a housekeeper. The Flora and her daughter only stayed with them at their beach house.

And didn’t she hook up with Adam Sandler???

It was an odd movie but the blurring of boundaries was a constant theme. Though most of the problems came from each side overstepping in being too nice to the other’s child. The arrangement ended soon after the beach trip.

[Anonymous]

How far away is the new city?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For what it’s worth, we didn’t think we would need a nanny when our youngest went into k and it was a huge mistake to let her go (we found her a great new job). After 18 months of absolutely horrible part-time babysitters we went back to a professional nanny. Keep an open mind about keeping your nanny longer or at least until her daughter finishes high school.

Thanks! Yes, we’re keeping this in mind. I have two older sisters who experienced after-school hell with a rotating door of sitters.

I’m pp. it takes a change of mindset from needing childcare to needing a childcare insurance policy and ensuring stability for our children. It’s a complete luxury, but worth it for our kids to have stability. At the time, DH and I didn’t appreciate how disturbing the continually changing babysitter was for our kids. It is my biggest regret as a parent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For what it’s worth, we didn’t think we would need a nanny when our youngest went into k and it was a huge mistake to let her go (we found her a great new job). After 18 months of absolutely horrible part-time babysitters we went back to a professional nanny. Keep an open mind about keeping your nanny longer or at least until her daughter finishes high school.

Thanks! Yes, we’re keeping this in mind. I have two older sisters who experienced after-school hell with a rotating door of sitters.

I’m pp. it takes a change of mindset from needing childcare to needing a childcare insurance policy and ensuring stability for our children. It’s a complete luxury, but worth it for our kids to have stability. At the time, DH and I didn’t appreciate how disturbing the continually changing babysitter was for our kids. It is my biggest regret as a parent.

NP err. Well said. “It takes a change of mindset from needing childcare to needing childcare insurance policy and ensuring stability for our children”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How far away is the new city?

About a six and a half hour drive (425 miles).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How far away is the new city?

About a six and a half hour drive (425 miles).

One hour flight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How far away is the new city?

About a six and a half hour drive (425 miles).

One hour flight

Will this be enough income for Nanny to fly with her kid when she wants to see her old friends? Will she have a reliable car and enough time off to drive?