How to get friend's parent to MYOB?

[Anonymous]

Tell your kid to keep family matters private.

Tell the parents to stay out if your business.

Why do you refer to this kid as a friend?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are teens. Parents can only do so much to intervene in the relationship.

How do they know -- DC shares with Friend, Friend shares with their parent. That's how.

No need to be unkind here. I am asking for help amidst a struggle.

Order DC not to share privileged family info with the other child, and do not socialize with that child's parents. How is this complicated?

+1 If DC does not comply, loses time with friend.

Clearly not the parent of a teen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are teens. Parents can only do so much to intervene in the relationship.

How do they know -- DC shares with Friend, Friend shares with their parent. That's how.

No need to be unkind here. I am asking for help amidst a struggle.

Order DC not to share privileged family info with the other child, and do not socialize with that child's parents. How is this complicated?

+1 If DC does not comply, loses time with friend.

Clearly not the parent of a teen.

Yes, I do have a teen, one who really really does not want to lose privileges like internet access and phone.

[Anonymous]

I say DC can talk to his friend about whatever they wish be it family matters or what not, that's what friends are for, and punishing them for doing so is in my opinion abusive.


You tell the mother to myob, and you are not discussing it with her. The end. They are teens no need for you to have contact with the mother anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends. Are the other parents telling you they are concerned about your child's mental health or safety because of things she is telling their child. Or are they concerned her second ear piercing makes her look cheap and will be shunned by the proper kids.

This all the people knee-jerking to banning the teen from talking to his friend must not live in the real world.

[Anonymous]

You've begged off and been polite. Time to be blunt: "Thanks for your concern, but this isn't your business."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are teens. Parents can only do so much to intervene in the relationship.

How do they know -- DC shares with Friend, Friend shares with their parent. That's how.

No need to be unkind here. I am asking for help amidst a struggle.

Order DC not to share privileged family info with the other child, and do not socialize with that child's parents. How is this complicated?

+1 If DC does not comply, loses time with friend.

Clearly not the parent of a teen.

Yes, I do have a teen, one who really really does not want to lose privileges like internet access and phone.

Controlling and abusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are teens. Parents can only do so much to intervene in the relationship.

How do they know -- DC shares with Friend, Friend shares with their parent. That's how.

No need to be unkind here. I am asking for help amidst a struggle.

Order DC not to share privileged family info with the other child, and do not socialize with that child's parents. How is this complicated?

+1 If DC does not comply, loses time with friend.

Clearly not the parent of a teen.

Yes, I do have a teen, one who really really does not want to lose privileges like internet access and phone.

Controlling and abusive.

Omfg thinking that limiting your kids access to phone an internet is ABUSIVE is everything that's wrong with modern parenting. Get a clue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are teens. Parents can only do so much to intervene in the relationship.

How do they know -- DC shares with Friend, Friend shares with their parent. That's how.

No need to be unkind here. I am asking for help amidst a struggle.

Order DC not to share privileged family info with the other child, and do not socialize with that child's parents. How is this complicated?

+1 If DC does not comply, loses time with friend.

Clearly not the parent of a teen.

Yes, I do have a teen, one who really really does not want to lose privileges like internet access and phone.

Controlling and abusive.

Omfg thinking that limiting your kids access to phone an internet is ABUSIVE is everything that's wrong with modern parenting. Get a clue.

Thinking you can and should control your teenage child's conversations with their friend is controlling and something that generally happens in abusive families so the abuse stays secret. Is that clear enough for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are teens. Parents can only do so much to intervene in the relationship.

How do they know -- DC shares with Friend, Friend shares with their parent. That's how.

No need to be unkind here. I am asking for help amidst a struggle.

Order DC not to share privileged family info with the other child, and do not socialize with that child's parents. How is this complicated?

+1 If DC does not comply, loses time with friend.

Clearly not the parent of a teen.

Yes, I do have a teen, one who really really does not want to lose privileges like internet access and phone.

Controlling and abusive.

Omfg thinking that limiting your kids access to phone an internet is ABUSIVE is everything that's wrong with modern parenting. Get a clue.

Thinking you can and should control your teenage child's conversations with their friend is controlling and something that generally happens in abusive families so the abuse stays secret. Is that clear enough for you?

Telling your teen to keep certain things private is controlling and abusive?? That is the most ridiculous thing I've read on here in awhile.

I guess if your teen saw your banking information it is OK to tell anyone/everyone how much money you have? If your teen overhears you discussing medical information on the phone that's OK to share? Your spouse goes to AA and that's OK to bring up with all their classmates? Or maybe you have mental health issues and they tell all their friends you are a judgmental control freak and your therapy meds need to be increased.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are teens. Parents can only do so much to intervene in the relationship.

How do they know -- DC shares with Friend, Friend shares with their parent. That's how.

No need to be unkind here. I am asking for help amidst a struggle.

Order DC not to share privileged family info with the other child, and do not socialize with that child's parents. How is this complicated?

+1 If DC does not comply, loses time with friend.

Clearly not the parent of a teen.

Yes, I do have a teen, one who really really does not want to lose privileges like internet access and phone.

Controlling and abusive.

Omfg thinking that limiting your kids access to phone an internet is ABUSIVE is everything that's wrong with modern parenting. Get a clue.

Thinking you can and should control your teenage child's conversations with their friend is controlling and something that generally happens in abusive families so the abuse stays secret. Is that clear enough for you?

Telling your teen to keep certain things private is controlling and abusive?? That is the most ridiculous thing I've read on here in awhile.

I guess if your teen saw your banking information it is OK to tell anyone/everyone how much money you have? If your teen overhears you discussing medical information on the phone that's OK to share? Your spouse goes to AA and that's OK to bring up with all their classmates? Or maybe you have mental health issues and they tell all their friends you are a judgmental control freak and your therapy meds need to be increased.

+1 We have always shared a lot with our kids bc they are nosy and have really good hearing. But we have always prefaced certain conversations with this is X family business only and you do not share with anyone. Most recent is dh might be transferred (emphasis on might). Dh wanted to get their thoughts bc it is voluntary and they are in college so it affects them less (but still does affect them). Ds has adhd and is impulsive and wanted to know if he could tell people at his summer job he might be moving. We said no and told him we’d let him know when he could tell. Op, you need to make clear to your dd not to share certain things and you need to tell the other parent that you have everything under control. If getting it under control will take some time, keep your dd away from the other parent in the meantime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are teens. Parents can only do so much to intervene in the relationship.

How do they know -- DC shares with Friend, Friend shares with their parent. That's how.

No need to be unkind here. I am asking for help amidst a struggle.

Order DC not to share privileged family info with the other child, and do not socialize with that child's parents. How is this complicated?

+1 If DC does not comply, loses time with friend.

Clearly not the parent of a teen.

Yes, I do have a teen, one who really really does not want to lose privileges like internet access and phone.

Controlling and abusive.

Omfg thinking that limiting your kids access to phone an internet is ABUSIVE is everything that's wrong with modern parenting. Get a clue.

Thinking you can and should control your teenage child's conversations with their friend is controlling and something that generally happens in abusive families so the abuse stays secret. Is that clear enough for you?

Telling your teen to keep certain things private is controlling and abusive?? That is the most ridiculous thing I've read on here in awhile.

I guess if your teen saw your banking information it is OK to tell anyone/everyone how much money you have? If your teen overhears you discussing medical information on the phone that's OK to share? Your spouse goes to AA and that's OK to bring up with all their classmates? Or maybe you have mental health issues and they tell all their friends you are a judgmental control freak and your therapy meds need to be increased.

+1 We have always shared a lot with our kids bc they are nosy and have really good hearing. But we have always prefaced certain conversations with this is X family business only and you do not share with anyone. Most recent is dh might be transferred (emphasis on might). Dh wanted to get their thoughts bc it is voluntary and they are in college so it affects them less (but still does affect them). Ds has adhd and is impulsive and wanted to know if he could tell people at his summer job he might be moving. We said no and told him we’d let him know when he could tell. Op, you need to make clear to your dd not to share certain things and you need to tell the other parent that you have everything under control. If getting it under control will take some time, keep your dd away from the other parent in the meantime.

OK you two please stop. At this point your debate is not helping OP.

[Anonymous]

This thread is stupid. The OP is too vague for anyone to provide advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is stupid. The OP is too vague for anyone to provide advice.

Totally agree. Why are you still talking to the parents of the kid you don’t like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are teens. Parents can only do so much to intervene in the relationship.

How do they know -- DC shares with Friend, Friend shares with their parent. That's how.

No need to be unkind here. I am asking for help amidst a struggle.

Order DC not to share privileged family info with the other child, and do not socialize with that child's parents. How is this complicated?

+1 If DC does not comply, loses time with friend.

Clearly not the parent of a teen.

Yes, I do have a teen, one who really really does not want to lose privileges like internet access and phone.

Controlling and abusive.

Omfg thinking that limiting your kids access to phone an internet is ABUSIVE is everything that's wrong with modern parenting. Get a clue.

Thinking you can and should control your teenage child's conversations with their friend is controlling and something that generally happens in abusive families so the abuse stays secret. Is that clear enough for you?

Telling your teen to keep certain things private is controlling and abusive?? That is the most ridiculous thing I've read on here in awhile.

I guess if your teen saw your banking information it is OK to tell anyone/everyone how much money you have? If your teen overhears you discussing medical information on the phone that's OK to share? Your spouse goes to AA and that's OK to bring up with all their classmates? Or maybe you have mental health issues and they tell all their friends you are a judgmental control freak and your therapy meds need to be increased.

+1 We have always shared a lot with our kids bc they are nosy and have really good hearing. But we have always prefaced certain conversations with this is X family business only and you do not share with anyone. Most recent is dh might be transferred (emphasis on might). Dh wanted to get their thoughts bc it is voluntary and they are in college so it affects them less (but still does affect them). Ds has adhd and is impulsive and wanted to know if he could tell people at his summer job he might be moving. We said no and told him we’d let him know when he could tell. Op, you need to make clear to your dd not to share certain things and you need to tell the other parent that you have everything under control. If getting it under control will take some time, keep your dd away from the other parent in the meantime.

You can tell your kid what you want, but you do sound kind of nuts. Of course your college-aged kid can say he might be moving! Even if you tell him not to say anything.