Sister terrified of Covid

[Anonymous]

We have unvaccinated kids. We do not see family or eat out. They are living their lives as normal and don’t care about the risk to us. They would not see us when they were not vaccinated so same rules apply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP

Shut up and mind your own business.

If anything your sister is more compassionate than you are. Grow up.

She is not hurting anyone.

Well for starters, she's most likely hurting her parents, whom she refuses to visit for no good reason.

[Anonymous]

Why does this bother you? Your sister is entitled to feel however she wants to feel. If it bothers you, don’t hang out with her. I cannot understand why Covid has given people this window of deciding what is acceptable behavior or not. Don’t be a Karen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister is in her late thirties. She is completely terrified of getting Covid. She was vaccinated months ago but refuses to be around my elementary-school age children (she has no children) because they are unvaccinated. A couple of weeks ago I visited her and she insisted we all sit outside and she then eat at a different table from everyone, wearing a mask when not eating. She has no health conditions or co-morbidities and is a fit, healthy person. She won't visit our elderly parents (even though they live near her) from fear of Covid. I tried to tell her this is too much and she says I'm judging her and that she has her boundaries. It makes me feel sad that she is this way, but I don't feel there is anything I can/should do.

OP, I agree with the posters who say there is nothing you can really do about this. But I would be tempted to try one calm talk suggesting therapy. Her anxiety is taking over her life and that can be helped - if she will accept help. That part is up to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does this bother you? Your sister is entitled to feel however she wants to feel. If it bothers you, don’t hang out with her. I cannot understand why Covid has given people this window of deciding what is acceptable behavior or not. Don’t be a Karen.

NP and I'll bite.

Sounds like she got invited to her sister's home for lunch and then it was a bit odd and uncomfortable. Having your host eat at a different table and put a mask up between bites is not really normal or socially acceptable behavior. You can tell yourself it is, but it's really not.

I don't think you know the definition of a Karen either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP

Shut up and mind your own business.

If anything your sister is more compassionate than you are. Grow up.

She is not hurting anyone.

Explain very specifically how the sister's behavior is compassionate in this situation.

[Anonymous]

I’m vaccinated as are my grown children. We spend lots of time together, including with the unvaxed little grandkids. We go out to eat, go to parks and go swimming. Both families have taken a recent vacation. Life must go on at some point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have unvaccinated kids. We do not see family or eat out. They are living their lives as normal and don’t care about the risk to us. They would not see us when they were not vaccinated so same rules apply.

Life is passing you by.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to stop watching CNN.

Honestly.

[Anonymous]

Wow this thread really brought out the COVID crazies. Yes your sister is being irrational. I'm sorry for her, but I'm not sure what you can do about it. I wouldn't indulge her unless you want to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does this bother you? Your sister is entitled to feel however she wants to feel. If it bothers you, don’t hang out with her. I cannot understand why Covid has given people this window of deciding what is acceptable behavior or not. Don’t be a Karen.

What is this were something besides covid anxiety. Would you say the same thing if the sister was an alcoholic? I doubt you would say:

"Why does this bother you. Your sister is entitled to drink as much as she wants to if she feels like it. If it bothers you don't hang out with her. MYOB and don't be a Karen"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP

Shut up and mind your own business.

If anything your sister is more compassionate than you are. Grow up.

She is not hurting anyone.

Well for starters, she's most likely hurting her parents, whom she refuses to visit for no good reason.

Probably because her parents refuse to abide by basic Covid precautions. My dad has not met my brother’s newborn for this reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does this bother you? Your sister is entitled to feel however she wants to feel. If it bothers you, don’t hang out with her. I cannot understand why Covid has given people this window of deciding what is acceptable behavior or not. Don’t be a Karen.

What is this were something besides covid anxiety. Would you say the same thing if the sister was an alcoholic? I doubt you would say:

"Why does this bother you. Your sister is entitled to drink as much as she wants to if she feels like it. If it bothers you don't hang out with her. MYOB and don't be a Karen"

Are you really equating not wanting to be unmasked indoors with problem drinking? Listen to yourself —you sound insane.

[Anonymous]

Yikes. I get being cautious but at this point, I wouldn't even want to see my family member if they're still acting like we're in pre-vaccination times. You're living your lives. Let her be home and secluded and don't even bother with her.

[Anonymous]

It is likely that OP is exaggerating her sister's anxiety, or she has exhibited intense anxiety in other areas and this is her new focus (my guess). The sister probably has GAD or something similar.