Do you teach your kids to stay out of primary bedroom during a play date?

[Anonymous]

Do most people have locks on their bedroom doors that can be locked from the outside?

DH and I can lock the kids out, when we are in the bedroom. It's a useful feature. But we don't have a way to lock the door when we aren't in there.

I mean, I guess I could lock the door and climb out the window, but I really don't like any of my kids' friends that much.

[Anonymous]

You can get one of those hook-and-eye locks, assuming the kid is not tall enough to reach the top of the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can call it a master bedroom. The term was coined by Sears in the 1930s.

+1

[Anonymous]

You lock the doo, and place the key on top of the door surround.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do most people have locks on their bedroom doors that can be locked from the outside?

DH and I can lock the kids out, when we are in the bedroom. It's a useful feature. But we don't have a way to lock the door when we aren't in there.

I mean, I guess I could lock the door and climb out the window, but I really don't like any of my kids' friends that much.

Most of those locks have simple little keys to unlock them, that you can place above the woodwork so that you can unlock from outside. Google and watch a YouTube video.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is one of my daughter’s friends who always goes into the primary bedroom during play dates, despite us repeatedly telling her not to. Should I say something to the parents?

I personally have taught my daughters not to go in the parents’ bedrooms or other private areas of the home during a play date. Am I the only one who cares about this?

Stop inviting her over.

My own kids aren't allowed in the master without permission. I'm certainly not allowing random kids in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You lock the doo, and place the key on top of the door surround.

Do most people have key locks on their master bedroom?

I have something that lets me unlock the door from the outside but it doesn’t let me lock the door from the outside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can call it a master bedroom. The term was coined by Sears in the 1930s.

I can call it whatever I please. How’s that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there something in the room that is a big draw? They are doing fashion shows in the closet with a huge mirror? They are playing with nail polish in yh bathroom? They listen to music and you have the only Alexa?

They should listen regardless but it would be worth trouble shooting why they are in there -- something is fun in there versus they are just being sneaky. If it is interesting in there, maybe you can move that think to a public space for the playdate

Oh, I was assuming that this kid was wandering off. If "they" are doing it, like my kid is going into my bedroom with a friend and playing, regardless of whose idea it is?

Then my kid would be done playing for the day. The playdate would be over, and my kid would be alone in their room. Other kid could watch TV until their parents come, or get picked up early, and I'd explain that my kid was the one did not follow my rules. I wouldn't complain about other people's kids not following rules I couldn't get my own kid to follow.

OP here. No, it is not “they,” it is only the visiting child.

[Anonymous]

We don't have locks on our bedroom doors, because everyone in our family respects a closed door. When kids come over for the first time, we (either the parent or the kid they have come to play with) tell them "The bathroom is right there, you kids can play on this floor, and I'll be here if you need me."

My kids know they are in charge of their friends, and if they can't control their friend, they are to come get me or DH to help them. DD came to get me when a friend wouldn't stop jumping off a bookcase onto the couch, for example.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just lock the door. But in general, if a kid repeatedly doesn’t listen they aren’t invited back.

Our doors don’t lock, but I too don’t invite non-listeners back.

[Anonymous]

How old are the kids? Where is your child when the visiting child is going into your bedroom? What does your child do when this happens?

[Anonymous]

How old is the kid and why does she want to go in your bedroom? Is it curiosity? It seems odd that she would want to go off without your daughter/her friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is the kid and why does she want to go in your bedroom? Is it curiosity? It seems odd that she would want to go off without your daughter/her friend.

but to answer OPs question; no I don’t allow the kids to play in any of our bedrooms. I just tell them not to go upstairs and they generally listen. We have a playroom on the first floor and a backyard so that’s where the kids play.

[Anonymous]

Nope. If I want them out of our bedroom, I lock the door, but otherwise I let the kids go wherever. Our master bedroom isn't that interesting for a kid (no toys), so I don't find this to be a problem.