13 yo and laser hair removal
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Anonymous
| Jesus. It’s one thing if it’s a mustache and she’s getting teased. Shaving armpit hair is a fad less than 100 years old that is on its way out anyway. It’s more and more mainstream to not shave your pits. |
Anonymous
OP here. This is actually how I feel about it. But Im not sure how much better it is to tell her she can’t get laser hair removal than it is to tell her to get it. I’m still telling her what she can and can’t do. I know that it’s not exactly the same because shaving is sort of contributing to the way our society shames women’s hair for zero reason but is that reason enough to tell her no? I mean, I don’t want armpit hair either. Plus she shaves anyway. |
Anonymous
OP here again. To clarify, I know I’m the mom and my job in many ways is to tell her what she can and can’t do, but I like to limit that to telling her she has to do chores and homework and that she can’t be disrespectful or rude to anybody. I would rather not tell her what she can and can’t do with her body if I can avoid it. |
Anonymous
| You can absolutely tell her that you won’t pay for it until X years old. Or until you’ve saved Y$. You’re not controlling her body, you’re controlling your finances, which you 100% have a right to do. |
Anonymous
No it isn’t. Arm pit hair takes a couple swipes and a less than a minute to shave. It isn’t much of an inconvenience. Op not opposed to getting laser but best to wait at least a couple yrs past period onset . Also, I did my underarms, upper lip, legs and bikini area. The underarm hurt the worst and was very painful. She needs to be old enough to understand it WILL hurt, possibly a lot, and be able to endure it. |
White girl comment! Tone deaf and stupid as usual.
Anonymous
| Just let her do it OP. As someone with thick, black, coarse hair it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. And I have a DD who is 13 and will let her do it as soon as she asks! |
Anonymous
What does this mean in this context? I’m serious, I have no idea what race could possibly do with this. |
Anonymous
| It will take about 6 months to remove most of the hair, with a treatment per month to allow the hair cycle to happen so the technician gets new hair every time. I had arm pits, bikini and lower legs done and it is amazing. I didn’t have very much hair but it was black and I’m fair so it worked well. I say do it, but knowing she’ll still be hairy for camp and that since she’s still developing that you’ll probably have to repeat the procedure when she’s older. |
Anonymous
| OP at that age I would definitely get a consult at a dermatologist. And like PPs said it takes a while so won’t solve this summer’s problem. But I absolutely support you doing this! |
Anonymous
| I was a teenage girl with thick dark hair and would have loved a little help from a laser. I always felt like an ape next to girl with thin blonde hair on their legs. My legs had a 5:00 PM shadow even right after shaving -- pale translucent skin + dark hair. Lasers are perfectly safe, not a new technology, and an easy way to make her feel more free and less self-conscious. |
Anonymous
| Not OP, but can anyone recommend a place? |
Anonymous
I am white, but my understanding is that people with curlier, coarser hair are far more likely to get ingrown hairs, which are painful and exacerbated by shaving. |
Anonymous
My dermatologist does it, which I think is pretty common. I’m sure I’m paying more than I would at a medi-spa, but I’m more comfortable going to her. |
Anonymous
I'm black, so I'll chime in. Yes, coarse hair is substantially harder to manage. It's why a lot of black men use electric clippers instead of razors. Razors cause irritation, ingrown hairs, and bumps. It's definitely not something you can do daily. |
Anonymous
This. Yes get the hair laser done but start next Sept. |