has your kid every been strongly advised to leave a school

[Anonymous]

OP, do you have to leave now? Or can you finish out the year?

[Anonymous]

This is your wakeup call that your child has special needs of some sort. A learning disability. An emotional issue. Something.

Focus on getting that figured out. You may well be headed to public school because they have to meet your child where they are at whereas privates really, truly may not be able to meet your child's needs.

I'm sorry they didn't tell you before. I suspect they think they had hinted at it.

[Anonymous]

I'm an adult, but I was gently kicked out of my high school. I guess the school district is required by law to provide schooling for all kids living in the district so they paid for me to go to a private school 20 minutes away.

[Anonymous]

They should have told you, OP, before it was time to apply to other schools. That's awful.

[Anonymous]

Not a school, but a classroom. DD moved from a small in-home daycare to a daycare Kindergarten (more kids, more space, more toys) and after one week the teacher told me she’d be better off with younger kids, couldn’t handle the structure, refused to follow directions, etc. I talked to the director and the teacher left, not my child. School was great after that and DD settled in and thrived.

[Anonymous]

Op, I understand your frustration with the school. Its mind-boggling what the schools do or don't do with challenging kids. My DS has special needs that were impacting his ability to learn to a great degree before we figured some things out and got him some help. When I first engaged with the school, I knew that there were issues in school because there were issues at home. That's the part of your story that makes me contemplate what you are saying about minimal comms and minor issues. But, they did contact you and more than once. If they were minor, would they have contacted you multiple times? Just trying to help with perspective. This story reminds of a friend of mine. She was raving mad when she found out that the school was going to hold her son back in 3rd grade. She complained that the school never told her that her son was struggling "that bad". I tried to be understanding, but I didn't really understand because I knew how my kid did on every single test. I knew what areas he struggled in, whether it was behaviorally or academically. I couldn't understand why she was/is in denial about the issues that her son has. I can say this because we openly talk about how similar our boys are behaviorally and the similar academic struggles they have. Its obvious that her son needs supports and possibly a diagnosis, but she refuses. It was too late in the year for her to do anything about her DS being held back, but the school had mentioned several times that he was having some issues. Eventually, they stopped mentioning it.

If the school (or you) suspects that something like ADHD or autism or whatever is the culprit, then they should be working with the county to offer testing/evaluation of some sorts to get your child the services (an Individual Education Plan or 504 Plan or some other interventions) that he needs and is entitled to in his home school. Not trying to kick him out. The school psychologist would be a good place to start.

[Anonymous]

Yes, two days ago in fact. A couple weeks before the end of the school year.

It was completely heartless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here - thanks for those sharing your stories. My kid is 6 and the story now is that he struggles with following directions. They claim they’ve tried everything yet never mentioned a thing of this to us. Yes of course I will pull him (who wants their kid to suffer someplace they’re not wanted) and get professional guidance…I’m just flabbergasted a school would do this at the very end of the year without tons of convos and collaboration in advance and far fast the opportunity to evaluate and apply for options that could be a better fit. I honestly believed a “good” school would be better partner than this

Ugh OP - definitely sucks.
When they sent the renewal contracts back in February is when they should have raised this. At this point they’ve put you in a really lousy situation for next year.
I had a dear friend who had a similar situation except it was for her 8th grader at a K-12 school. It’s unacceptable to spring that news in May.
This girl ended up thriving at her local public, so Ibhope your child lands somewhere perfect for them too.

[Anonymous]

I’m so nervous this is happening to us. We got an email from current teacher asking to meet with us along with the HOS and school counselor.

We know our current Pre-Ker needs help regulating emotions and transitioning between activities. We know and we’re working on it but I have a feeling the school doesn’t want to deal with it as she goes to K.

If they do counsel us out it’s going to be a very very emotional day in our home….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so nervous this is happening to us. We got an email from current teacher asking to meet with us along with the HOS and school counselor.

We know our current Pre-Ker needs help regulating emotions and transitioning between activities. We know and we’re working on it but I have a feeling the school doesn’t want to deal with it as she goes to K.

If they do counsel us out it’s going to be a very very emotional day in our home….

very similar situation here. filled with dread about the meeting. let me know what happens. why do schools think this is acceptable this late in the year?! why aren't they flagging months earlier "we'd love for larlo to be successful here, so lets all work together on XYZ progress over the next few months and you can also explore other options that may be a better fit just in case in parellel"

[Anonymous]

I know a kid in preschool who was kicked out of several programs. If you knew the kid, you'd get why. Mom blew off the issues but was getting some help, just not the right kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so nervous this is happening to us. We got an email from current teacher asking to meet with us along with the HOS and school counselor.

We know our current Pre-Ker needs help regulating emotions and transitioning between activities. We know and we’re working on it but I have a feeling the school doesn’t want to deal with it as she goes to K.

If they do counsel us out it’s going to be a very very emotional day in our home….

Are you freaking kidding me? Is this at a private school? What pre-Ker doesn't need help regulating emotions and transitioning between activities? I want to hug you PP and tell you to go to a good public school. 9-3 (or whatever it is) is a LONG time for a kid under 6 (and even then!!) to be in a rigid institutional setting. They need to run around, ideally outside, so they can develop physically, which also then allows for mental development. Ugh, this makes me so upset!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so nervous this is happening to us. We got an email from current teacher asking to meet with us along with the HOS and school counselor.

We know our current Pre-Ker needs help regulating emotions and transitioning between activities. We know and we’re working on it but I have a feeling the school doesn’t want to deal with it as she goes to K.

If they do counsel us out it’s going to be a very very emotional day in our home….

Are you freaking kidding me? Is this at a private school? What pre-Ker doesn't need help regulating emotions and transitioning between activities? I want to hug you PP and tell you to go to a good public school. 9-3 (or whatever it is) is a LONG time for a kid under 6 (and even then!!) to be in a rigid institutional setting. They need to run around, ideally outside, so they can develop physically, which also then allows for mental development. Ugh, this makes me so upset!

I think parents tend to play down issues. My bestie would say her kindergarten has trouble regulating emotions and transitioning with out explanation. He is autistic and becomes very violent. He's punched kids and teachers. Flipped desks in classrooms. In my friends case his mom's description is way off from reality. She always gets sympathy from people but I feel bad for her kids teachers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so nervous this is happening to us. We got an email from current teacher asking to meet with us along with the HOS and school counselor.

We know our current Pre-Ker needs help regulating emotions and transitioning between activities. We know and we’re working on it but I have a feeling the school doesn’t want to deal with it as she goes to K.

If they do counsel us out it’s going to be a very very emotional day in our home….

Are you freaking kidding me? Is this at a private school? What pre-Ker doesn't need help regulating emotions and transitioning between activities? I want to hug you PP and tell you to go to a good public school. 9-3 (or whatever it is) is a LONG time for a kid under 6 (and even then!!) to be in a rigid institutional setting. They need to run around, ideally outside, so they can develop physically, which also then allows for mental development. Ugh, this makes me so upset!

I think parents tend to play down issues. My bestie would say her kindergarten has trouble regulating emotions and transitioning with out explanation. He is autistic and becomes very violent. He's punched kids and teachers. Flipped desks in classrooms. In my friends case his mom's description is way off from reality. She always gets sympathy from people but I feel bad for her kids teachers.

I’m the DP who posted the first quoted post… my DD is not violent in any way. But she does throw tantrums and that’s the issue we need to work on. Like, if we show up 2 minutes early and she hasn’t been prepared it’s an immediate break down. As I said we’re working on it, but I suspect school has had enough. Sigh.

We just gave the school a big donation, too. Really really not happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so nervous this is happening to us. We got an email from current teacher asking to meet with us along with the HOS and school counselor.

We know our current Pre-Ker needs help regulating emotions and transitioning between activities. We know and we’re working on it but I have a feeling the school doesn’t want to deal with it as she goes to K.

If they do counsel us out it’s going to be a very very emotional day in our home….

Are you freaking kidding me? Is this at a private school? What pre-Ker doesn't need help regulating emotions and transitioning between activities? I want to hug you PP and tell you to go to a good public school. 9-3 (or whatever it is) is a LONG time for a kid under 6 (and even then!!) to be in a rigid institutional setting. They need to run around, ideally outside, so they can develop physically, which also then allows for mental development. Ugh, this makes me so upset!

I think parents tend to play down issues. My bestie would say her kindergarten has trouble regulating emotions and transitioning with out explanation. He is autistic and becomes very violent. He's punched kids and teachers. Flipped desks in classrooms. In my friends case his mom's description is way off from reality. She always gets sympathy from people but I feel bad for her kids teachers.

I’m the DP who posted the first quoted post… my DD is not violent in any way. But she does throw tantrums and that’s the issue we need to work on. Like, if we show up 2 minutes early and she hasn’t been prepared it’s an immediate break down. As I said we’re working on it, but I suspect school has had enough. Sigh.

We just gave the school a big donation, too. Really really not happy.

It really doesn’t any ok that they waited till the end of school for this! Good luck!