When To Start Trying For Second Baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

OP here. I’m about to turn 37.

I would start trying as soon as the idea doesn't make you feel terrible. Personally I agree with your husband's thoughts and though it was hard on me physically, having two close together was amazing for me. They are still super close and are on the same reline for friends, skirts, development for the most part.

[Anonymous]

I was younger, but I wanted to wait until my first was 17-18 months because that’s what doctors say it’s best for you and unborn baby. I got pregnant on the first try and my daughters are 26 months apart. It was hard at the beginning, but it is much easier when they are older. My girls are best friends, play at the same level, can be in the same activities, etc. They are 7 and 5. I also have a 2 year old and the 3+ difference is much harder in my opinion. It might even out eventually, but at 5+ and 2 my youngest are in such different places. They don’t really play together, one naps, one goes to school, one has activities, etc.

Larger age difference in my opinion is good at the ve try beginning (maybe first 6 months- 1 year). After that, a smaller age gap is preferable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are exactly two years apart and the first two years were SO HARD. I barely remember my second child as a baby. I was still nursing my older child twice a day when I got pregnant with my second so my body never got a break.

Now the kids, boy and girl, are 4 and 6 and they’re best friends. Then run off and play together for hours. They go to the same school and know each other’s friends and both get invited to the same parties. It’s been pretty great since they were 2 and 4. Pre-covid, when we used to travel, they’re close enough in age to enjoy the same things.

If you can handle the first year or two - it’s great having them close in age.

Almost exactly the same here (except I was done breastfeeding by my oldest's first birthday). First couple years were hard. Quarantine last year was so much easier because they could do the same things and enjoyed playing together. Boy and girl.

[Anonymous]

OP here. This thread doesn’t need to continue. Turns out I’m already pregnant. I’m excited but very nervous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand you are late 30s, but if you don’t feel ready, don’t start now. The two under two crowd always seem to hate their lives, so I wouldn’t take that on while not feeling ready.

+1

I had my first at 36 and second at 40 because I just wasn't ready to try earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread doesn’t need to continue. Turns out I’m already pregnant. I’m excited but very nervous.

Congrats! Line up childcare now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread doesn’t need to continue. Turns out I’m already pregnant. I’m excited but very nervous.

Congrats! Everyone I know with this spacing ends up loving it.