DH yelling too much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any tips to curb dh's yelling? He is absolutely not the worst and our club is already very low key with that kind of unwanted participation (not how I grew up with parents yelling and roaring as a fun past time). He acknowledges that others yell too much and get into a coaching role when they shouldn't but sees himself as "rallying" the team and positively hyping them with a dash of directions...NO I just wish he would shut his mouth. I already keep the game time to myself until the last moment in hopes something else busies him but he asks repeatedly and clears his usually busy schedule to go. He is driving me so crazy!! Its unnecessary for him to do anything but his already ample clapping. Any tips on how to reach someone who sees the flaws in the other dads but not himself?

Sorry, OP. Has your kid's coach said anything? Ours has told parents in no uncertain terms to shut it down, and that seems to have worked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any tips to curb dh's yelling? He is absolutely not the worst and our club is already very low key with that kind of unwanted participation (not how I grew up with parents yelling and roaring as a fun past time). He acknowledges that others yell too much and get into a coaching role when they shouldn't but sees himself as "rallying" the team and positively hyping them with a dash of directions...NO I just wish he would shut his mouth. I already keep the game time to myself until the last moment in hopes something else busies him but he asks repeatedly and clears his usually busy schedule to go. He is driving me so crazy!! Its unnecessary for him to do anything but his already ample clapping. Any tips on how to reach someone who sees the flaws in the other dads but not himself?

Lol. I’m Hispanic and soccer is in our blood to the point where even my mother (ds’ grandma) is yelling from time to time. My son plays in a predominantly latinx club and we are “THAT” club lol. Just can’t help it. It’s really about the kids experience. Most kids hate parents yelling. But the kids on my ds’ current team seem to thrive off the pressure. They do very well in EDP division one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My favorite are the dads who pace up and down the sideline like another linesman yelling at their kid wherever they happen to be on the field.

From behind the goal even better.

[Anonymous]

Op here, I swear I talk to him about this before and after the game. I even threaten him during the game. He is probably the third most yelly of the team dads so he sees himself as above the frey. I have asked ds if it bothers him and he says he does not notice because he hears the other dads mostly. I guess I will fall on the humiliation sword and yell at him publicly to be quiet next time instead of whispering or making frowny faces. I don't care that others do it at all, just don't want "disruptive dad" associated with my own kid. I cannot stand conflicting orders from coach and parent, but that could also be me being overly sensitive and mortified easily.

I get the nervous energy too but its mostly in my body turning or kicking out in the direction I want the ball to go (involuntarily). I know soccer games are SO MUCH FUN but if the general demeanor is relaxed I want to fit in that vein.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I swear I talk to him about this before and after the game. I even threaten him during the game. He is probably the third most yelly of the team dads so he sees himself as above the frey. I have asked ds if it bothers him and he says he does not notice because he hears the other dads mostly. I guess I will fall on the humiliation sword and yell at him publicly to be quiet next time instead of whispering or making frowny faces. I don't care that others do it at all, just don't want "disruptive dad" associated with my own kid. I cannot stand conflicting orders from coach and parent, but that could also be me being overly sensitive and mortified easily.

I get the nervous energy too but its mostly in my body turning or kicking out in the direction I want the ball to go (involuntarily). I know soccer games are SO MUCH FUN but if the general demeanor is relaxed I want to fit in that vein.

On behalf of the other parents and likely many kids, thank you for trying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any tips to curb dh's yelling? He is absolutely not the worst and our club is already very low key with that kind of unwanted participation (not how I grew up with parents yelling and roaring as a fun past time). He acknowledges that others yell too much and get into a coaching role when they shouldn't but sees himself as "rallying" the team and positively hyping them with a dash of directions...NO I just wish he would shut his mouth. I already keep the game time to myself until the last moment in hopes something else busies him but he asks repeatedly and clears his usually busy schedule to go. He is driving me so crazy!! Its unnecessary for him to do anything but his already ample clapping. Any tips on how to reach someone who sees the flaws in the other dads but not himself?

I have seen it play out where a kid that was on the bubble to possibly move up to the top travel team did not because the teams coach did not want to deal with the father. He was a major pain on the sidelines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any tips to curb dh's yelling? He is absolutely not the worst and our club is already very low key with that kind of unwanted participation (not how I grew up with parents yelling and roaring as a fun past time). He acknowledges that others yell too much and get into a coaching role when they shouldn't but sees himself as "rallying" the team and positively hyping them with a dash of directions...NO I just wish he would shut his mouth. I already keep the game time to myself until the last moment in hopes something else busies him but he asks repeatedly and clears his usually busy schedule to go. He is driving me so crazy!! Its unnecessary for him to do anything but his already ample clapping. Any tips on how to reach someone who sees the flaws in the other dads but not himself?

Lol. I’m Hispanic and soccer is in our blood to the point where even my mother (ds’ grandma) is yelling from time to time. My son plays in a predominantly latinx club and we are “THAT” club lol. Just can’t help it. It’s really about the kids experience. Most kids hate parents yelling. But the kids on my ds’ current team seem to thrive off the pressure. They do very well in EDP division one.

My daughter’s team played against a Hispanic team in the championship game. All the parents were so loud, yelling, etc. It made the game so much more fun, exciting and enjoyable. My daughter really thrived off from it even though it came from the other team’s parents.

[Anonymous]

Give him a lollipop. Bring lots of them

[Anonymous]

A lot of times this is out of anxiety not out of actual need to be a spectator. The lollipop strategy works, I can attest to that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My favorite are the dads who pace up and down the sideline like another linesman yelling at their kid wherever they happen to be on the field.

Stick out your foot from your sports chair and trip home when he comes by

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure what will work but keep trying! I would be mortified if my husband did this and not be able to enjoy watching the kids play. Would it help if you asked him as a favor from him to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any tips to curb dh's yelling? He is absolutely not the worst and our club is already very low key with that kind of unwanted participation (not how I grew up with parents yelling and roaring as a fun past time). He acknowledges that others yell too much and get into a coaching role when they shouldn't but sees himself as "rallying" the team and positively hyping them with a dash of directions...NO I just wish he would shut his mouth. I already keep the game time to myself until the last moment in hopes something else busies him but he asks repeatedly and clears his usually busy schedule to go. He is driving me so crazy!! Its unnecessary for him to do anything but his already ample clapping. Any tips on how to reach someone who sees the flaws in the other dads but not himself?

Lol. I’m Hispanic and soccer is in our blood to the point where even my mother (ds’ grandma) is yelling from time to time. My son plays in a predominantly latinx club and we are “THAT” club lol. Just can’t help it. It’s really about the kids experience. Most kids hate parents yelling. But the kids on my ds’ current team seem to thrive off the pressure. They do very well in EDP division one.

My daughter’s team played against a Hispanic team in the championship game. All the parents were so loud, yelling, etc. It made the game so much more fun, exciting and enjoyable. My daughter really thrived off from it even though it came from the other team’s parents.

I have boys. These Clubs are the worst.

Physical fights on the field. Parents standing on the field. Death threat to the ref...followed him to the car.

My blonde gringo husband worked in Venezuela and Colombia and the profanity and insults they hurl at KIDS and the ref is awful.

This isn’t cute. It’s ridiculous.

Maybe they don’t end up in multiple red cards and serious injury and parents escorted off the field like with the boys.

And —this just happened again last weekend. It’s f@cking Covid —back the h@ll off the field.

[Anonymous]

We all hate your husband and feel sorry for your child.

Over the past 2 years we saw your very good, confident player question himself and panic on breakaways for fear of what dad will say. He is stripping love of the game right out of him.

His constant bellowing also upsets the other players on the field and sets a bad tone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have boys. These Clubs are the worst.

Physical fights on the field. Parents standing on the field. Death threat to the ref...followed him to the car.

My blonde gringo husband worked in Venezuela and Colombia and the profanity and insults they hurl at KIDS and the ref is awful.

This isn’t cute. It’s ridiculous.

I believe they call it "Samba" . . .

[Anonymous]

I know a woman like this and feel so terrible for her nice husband. Her stream of instructions is almost constant, interrupted only by arguing with the refs!