Potty training too soon?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, if you look it up, the stats say some kids potty trained too soon will take longer to potty train. Now that has no accompanying evidence on methods of child readiness. You read some posts by parents where they're clearly pushing a kid who isn't ready, though. I think people get too rigid about it a lot. Most people I know did Oh Crap to get started but they still had to keep working at it for a while.

18 month old takes 6 months to be accident free = fully trained at 2 years and 0 months
3 year old takes 3 days to be accident free = fully trained at 3 years

Who took longer to train? Who was sitting in their own feces a year longer than necessary?

Not sure if you are aware, but normal parents change their child's diapers.

THere is a whole year and a half between 18 months and 3 years! Most kids will train just fine with that timeframe. But most won't train right at 18 months, and that is ok, because it is a RANGE of readiness. The child who isn't ready at 18 months will be ready at 20 months or 2 years or 2.5 years or maybe 3.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, if you look it up, the stats say some kids potty trained too soon will take longer to potty train. Now that has no accompanying evidence on methods of child readiness. You read some posts by parents where they're clearly pushing a kid who isn't ready, though. I think people get too rigid about it a lot. Most people I know did Oh Crap to get started but they still had to keep working at it for a while.

18 month old takes 6 months to be accident free = fully trained at 2 years and 0 months
3 year old takes 3 days to be accident free = fully trained at 3 years

Who took longer to train? Who was sitting in their own feces a year longer than necessary?

Not sure if you are aware, but normal parents change their child's diapers.

THere is a whole year and a half between 18 months and 3 years! Most kids will train just fine with that timeframe. But most won't train right at 18 months, and that is ok, because it is a RANGE of readiness. The child who isn't ready at 18 months will be ready at 20 months or 2 years or 2.5 years or maybe 3.

So if your kid craps his pants 10 min away from daycare, you pull over and change it? Or does he sit in his feces for 10 minutes at least?

[Anonymous]

I didn't have a choice until my kid was moved to the 2s.room

[Anonymous]

I lived in Western China for a couple months in college and out there people "potty trained" their infants by opening their diapers when they peed. However, it was, you know, outside. Like you'd be waiting for the train and a couple feet away someone's infant would be held over the sidewalk pooing.

Anyway the whole "leaving them in soggy diapers" longer just doesn't get me worked up, because hey compared to those babies in China we leave kids in diapers way longer, but I don't think I'd recommend it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lived in Western China for a couple months in college and out there people "potty trained" their infants by opening their diapers when they peed. However, it was, you know, outside. Like you'd be waiting for the train and a couple feet away someone's infant would be held over the sidewalk pooing.

Anyway the whole "leaving them in soggy diapers" longer just doesn't get me worked up, because hey compared to those babies in China we leave kids in diapers way longer, but I don't think I'd recommend it.

Umm...I am not having my infant pee and poo all over public sidewalks.

[Anonymous]

You should poop train. I feel like that alone makes life so much easier. It’s all or nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should poop train. I feel like that alone makes life so much easier. It’s all or nothing.

it’s NOT all or nothing!!!

Typo. Sorry

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is potty training too soon a thing? If your kid is ready at 18 months should you still wait and hold off until 2?

Preschool teacher here. 22 months seems to be the “sweet spot” for easier potty training with fewer accidents but 18 to 24 months is fine. There is no need to wait at 18 months if you and your child’s caregivers are ready. I’ve had a few kids who poop-trained as young as 14 months.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like you need to choose between the hassle of diapers or the hassle of helping a 1 year old go to the bathroom. For me, diapers seemed easier. With a really young kid, you're dealing with (like pp said), helping them pull up and down pants, wiping, and also more accidents for a longer period of time (they take longer to train).

Wiping is 100x easier if they didn't sit in their poo and smear it all over their bottom (and it is 100x more sanitary).

Even cleaning a turd off the floor is easier than cleaning an adult texture turd off a squirming 3 year old.

Yep! I trained my 2 at 20 months. They only had accidents that first month and no more. Which was the same as friends who trained at 2.5. Train when the kid is agreeable.

[Anonymous]

DS potty trained at exactly 22 months and it was a hard week for the adults (me, DH, and nanny) but it’s been truly glorious ever since!!! He completely self-initiated and poops in the actual toilet which is fantastic (no little potty to clean out except for pee on occasion).

I highly recommend potty training before two. Sitting to poop also cured his poop-withholding and constipation - straightened out his decending colon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is potty training too soon a thing? If your kid is ready at 18 months should you still wait and hold off until 2?

Preschool teacher here. 22 months seems to be the “sweet spot” for easier potty training with fewer accidents but 18 to 24 months is fine. There is no need to wait at 18 months if you and your child’s caregivers are ready. I’ve had a few kids who poop-trained as young as 14 months.

This is what the Oh Crap book says too.

Readiness is not a thing-it’s something the diaper companies came up with to have us use their products longer.

I’m a bit of an “early” training fanatic after training DS1 at 22 months and DS2 (who has significant developmental delays) at 25 months. It’s hard work, but worth it. I’m not sure if it’s actually easier at 3 like all of DCurbanmom says, but even if it is, I don’t think it’s right to have your kid soiling himself for an extra year. Even if you change promptly they are still crapping on themselves unnecessarily.

I never understood people who talk about how smart their kids are, while said kid is still not potty trained at practically age 3.