Are you talking with your children about anti-Asian racism?

[Anonymous]

I am white and my child is black. We talk about race all time with all races covered.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a mom of Asian kids and most parents are horrified after they hear that their children pulled their eyelids or called my children racist names. You can never assume that your kid doesn’t do these things.

+1 another Asian American mom here. I’ve gently told a few parents that their children made “slanted eye” gestures to my children, and the parents were horrified. I assume that they had never actually talked with their children about the specifics of racist gesture and remarks.

My child's friends did this but I wouldn't dare talk to their parents about it. They are mostly white liberal people who have BLM signs on their lawn. I assume they are the same parents who are posting on this board about how their children would never say anything negative about Asians.

[Anonymous]

Oh, I don’t know. Lots of white people who supposedly get racism against Blacks don’t get racism against Asian Americans. It can be subtle, like raging against Tiger moms or implying that Asian Americans “only know how to study” and “have no personalities.”

When Blacks or Latinos are racist towards Asian Americans, white liberals get confused and paralyzed.

[Anonymous]

I have been talking with my kids about anti-Asian racism for years, including about stereotypes regarding academic achievement and "robots" and cheating. We also talk about anti-Black and anti-Latino racism, as well as misogyny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The references you made are things that were said in the 80's. "Chinese, japanese, look at those, dirty knees."

My kids are growing up in a very progressive city and have always had Asian friends. When trump started talking about the "chinese flu" we talked about WHY that was wrong to say and the effects it might have on people. I've checked in with my kids about checking in on their friends and their parents, and they've heard me asking their Asian friends "how are your grandparents doing? is somebody with them when they run errands?" and I make my kids walk their Asian friends home so they aren't walking alone.

Oh, please, I grew up in the Bay Area, which I love with all my heart, especially for the generally progressive political views of its residents. But, please, people who know my DD is Asian have said to my face "You know Cal (Berkeley) isn't anything like it used to be -- it's all gunner Asians now."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, I don’t know. Lots of white people who supposedly get racism against Blacks don’t get racism against Asian Americans. It can be subtle, like raging against Tiger moms or implying that Asian Americans “only know how to study” and “have no personalities.”

When Blacks or Latinos are racist towards Asian Americans, white liberals get confused and paralyzed.

That was exactly my point. I would never bring up their children's racist behavior against Asian Americans because there would be denial and confusion. They pride themselves on supporting Black and Hispanic groups and take pride in it but don't seem to get that they are racist when they say negative things about Asians. It's not they don't count so I wouldn't waste my time bringing it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The references you made are things that were said in the 80's. "Chinese, japanese, look at those, dirty knees."

My kids are growing up in a very progressive city and have always had Asian friends. When trump started talking about the "chinese flu" we talked about WHY that was wrong to say and the effects it might have on people. I've checked in with my kids about checking in on their friends and their parents, and they've heard me asking their Asian friends "how are your grandparents doing? is somebody with them when they run errands?" and I make my kids walk their Asian friends home so they aren't walking alone.

Oh, please, I grew up in the Bay Area, which I love with all my heart, especially for the generally progressive political views of its residents. But, please, people who know my DD is Asian have said to my face "You know Cal (Berkeley) isn't anything like it used to be -- it's all gunner Asians now."

I think it's time we all talk to our kids/families about bigotry. I was shocked when my black DD came home from her Asian best friend's house in tears because the friend's cousin said in front of my DD that he was surprised her BFF's parents allowed her to have a black best friend. I think we all need to figure out how to get past the bigotry and divisiveness in our society. Kids shouldn't have to face bigotry on play dates and elderly people should be able to go outside their home without being physically attacked. I'm dismayed by how divided we are.