Parents won't get vaccinated

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of ways to see them safely but it sounds like you don't want to even do that. Which is fine but don't blame it on them not wanting to get the vaccine.

+1. Who calls their parent stupid?

Someone with a stupid parent

[Anonymous]

OP Here.

I am much less concerned with my kids catching COVID from them. My main concern is with us getting them sick which is something my parents don't see as a risk. They see the rest of my unvaccinated/anti covid vax family all the time including my nieces and nephews who are all playing sports and going to school. My family would think we were insane if we stayed at a hotel and only saw them masked. We aren't crazy conservative with Covid, but still don't want the guilt of getting my parents sick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't even talk to my mother anymore.

My 75 year old mother has turned into an insane right wing conspiracy theorist. She just recites fox/news max to back up her insane "ideas". With that she refuses to get a COVID vaccine because she "just doesn't trust vaccines". She never had issues with vaccines in the past, but she fell for the "plandemic" video and now even refuses to get a flu vaccine; something she always made it a point to get. Also told me today "I just don't think what is in these vaccines is good. No one had autusim when you were kids." There is truly no reasoning with stupidity and ignorance.

It is what it is at this point. If she catches COVID on her own accord, I will only feel so bad. However, I don't want to be the one to give it to my parents. This summer it will be 2 years since I have seen my parents because due to COVID I didn't see them all of 2020. I will be fully vaccinated as will my husband. However, our kids will not be vaccinated. We obviously can't live the rest of our lives avoiding them.

Not sure this is really a question as I don't know what the question would be. I hate that they are putting us in this situation because of their ignorance.

1. They are completely ignorant and would never be allowed near my children period.
2. Repeat.
3. This is on their ignorance not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.

I am much less concerned with my kids catching COVID from them. My main concern is with us getting them sick which is something my parents don't see as a risk. They see the rest of my unvaccinated/anti covid vax family all the time including my nieces and nephews who are all playing sports and going to school. My family would think we were insane if we stayed at a hotel and only saw them masked. We aren't crazy conservative with Covid, but still don't want the guilt of getting my parents sick.

What?

OP your parents are ignorant and clearly uneducated. Why in the world would you want that around your children?

You don't care if your kids get covid from them, shame on you.

Your whole post is ridiculous at best. Anti vax sounds more like it.

Not only that "crazy conservative" give me a break...

[Anonymous]

I think people are just vaccine hesitant and thats ok. This is a new vaccine and your mother is not wrong in feeling unsure.

The 2009 swine flu vaccination Pandemrix was given to 60-90 million people and they withheld safety information that it was linked to narcolepsy in children. Dr Fauci was involved telling the public it was safe and for the greater good. It was later banned.

Thalidomide which was a morning sickness drug given to pregnant women was later discovered to cause miscarriage and birth defects.

I have had my first dose of the vaccination however even I am uneasy and unsure. I feel there have been enough doses given now to give fairly decent safety information but I really feel that those people that did the initial testing for the vaccines are heroes.

There are valid reasons why people are hesitant against new medications and vaccinations. Your mother may later be more comfortable with having it. I have friends who are refusing and that's their right. I am not anti-vax but I do have fears about this vaccination but I'll take it as I fear Covid more.

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I feel for you OP. My elder mother registered late because at first she wanted to wait for the J&J. Last week she finally got an email from the state that she can make an appointment, but apparently she couldn’t figure out to navigate the site pages to schedule it. She flew off the handle when I offered to help her make the appointment, saying she will just wait for it to be available to everyone. I told her it will be even harder to get an appointment if she waited. She then said it wouldn’t matter because everyone would be vaccinated so she won’t need it. I can’t take her screaming at me when I want to help. I’m so done with with her. She has always been difficult, but every year she is getting even more unreasonable. To boot, I can’t have any future family events because she refuses to get vaccinated. My in-laws were both fully vaccinated and are now traveling, etc. She is one of the very small percentage over 80 and smokes cigarettes that is not vaccinated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.

I am much less concerned with my kids catching COVID from them. My main concern is with us getting them sick which is something my parents don't see as a risk. They see the rest of my unvaccinated/anti covid vax family all the time including my nieces and nephews who are all playing sports and going to school. My family would think we were insane if we stayed at a hotel and only saw them masked. We aren't crazy conservative with Covid, but still don't want the guilt of getting my parents sick.

OP, just go see your parents this summer. you and your DH will be be vaccinated, the vast majority of US adults will be vaccinated (we are already almost 100 million with at least one shot and is just mid March), so hopefully the virus will be much less prevalent in the community anyway.

you say you dont want the guilt of getting your parents sick. given their behavior, you will not have it. your parents sees regularly a bunch of unvaccinated people, including people who go to school, and I bet they go shopping and all that. the reality is that they are taking risks anyway and you will not be able to even say who infected them if they get sick because of their behavior. seeing your family is not going to really change their risk level so you might as well see them, especially if you have not seen them since 2019.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of ways to see them safely but it sounds like you don't want to even do that. Which is fine but don't blame it on them not wanting to get the vaccine.

Then you are as stupid as they are.

Anti vaxers go away, leave the US if you are not vaccinating and sign away your rights to any medical intervention. Fixed it for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think people are just vaccine hesitant and thats ok. This is a new vaccine and your mother is not wrong in feeling unsure.

The 2009 swine flu vaccination Pandemrix was given to 60-90 million people and they withheld safety information that it was linked to narcolepsy in children. Dr Fauci was involved telling the public it was safe and for the greater good. It was later banned.

Thalidomide which was a morning sickness drug given to pregnant women was later discovered to cause miscarriage and birth defects.

I have had my first dose of the vaccination however even I am uneasy and unsure. I feel there have been enough doses given now to give fairly decent safety information but I really feel that those people that did the initial testing for the vaccines are heroes.

There are valid reasons why people are hesitant against new medications and vaccinations. Your mother may later be more comfortable with having it. I have friends who are refusing and that's their right. I am not anti-vax but I do have fears about this vaccination but I'll take it as I fear Covid more.

where did you get this? it sounds like a pile of BS, especially the reference to Fauci lying and telling people to get the vaccine "for the greater good" Pandemrix apparently was never used in the US, including in 2009. https://www.cdc.gov/vaccinesafety/concerns/history/narcolepsy-flu.html maybe people are vaccine hesitant because they read and believe BS online

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of ways to see them safely but it sounds like you don't want to even do that. Which is fine but don't blame it on them not wanting to get the vaccine.

They live out of state so visiting is not as easy as just sitting in a park for the afternoon. If we visit we stay with them. They see my siblings and their families all the time indoors.

Now will we visit this summer and throw caution to the wind, most likely.

Is the bolded the law where you live? Because here in the US, people are welcome to stay in hotels/Airbnb etc. just admit you don’t like your parents and this is a great excuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think people are just vaccine hesitant and thats ok. This is a new vaccine and your mother is not wrong in feeling unsure.

The 2009 swine flu vaccination Pandemrix was given to 60-90 million people and they withheld safety information that it was linked to narcolepsy in children. Dr Fauci was involved telling the public it was safe and for the greater good. It was later banned.

Thalidomide which was a morning sickness drug given to pregnant women was later discovered to cause miscarriage and birth defects.

I have had my first dose of the vaccination however even I am uneasy and unsure. I feel there have been enough doses given now to give fairly decent safety information but I really feel that those people that did the initial testing for the vaccines are heroes.

There are valid reasons why people are hesitant against new medications and vaccinations. Your mother may later be more comfortable with having it. I have friends who are refusing and that's their right. I am not anti-vax but I do have fears about this vaccination but I'll take it as I fear Covid more.

You are absolutely an anti-vax troll.

Love the dig to Fauci. Might want to read up on this a little more. There is actually research to show it might have been the flu that caused the narcolepsy. And
that vaccine was found to have issues in these countries Sweden, Ireland, and the United Kingdom where 30 million doses were given out. 3000 approximately caused narcolepsy. Not the US. The Pandemrix H1N1 vaccine mixed portions of viral proteins with the AS03 adjuvant, designed to induce a stronger immune response.

That vaccine was never used in the United States and was withdrawn from use in Europe when links to narcolepsy emerged.

Try again. Stop pushing lies.

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My in laws are like this OP. It’s tough. My husband and I are vaccinated, so we can go see them (and did before being vaccinated by getting tested prior to visiting because they need help so we needed to go).

We’re currently figuring they’ve made their choice and we’re not going to worry too much about it.

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In your situation, I wouldn’t be nearly as worried about my children giving my parents covid as I would be about my parents or other relatives giving my kids covid. I’ll send my kid to school, where there are covid protocols in place, but I won’t surround her with people without any precautions.

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Op, you talk to your parents. You don't let their decision impact you communicating to your parents. Yes, their decisions have consequences. If you aren't going to let them see their grandchildren until they are vaccinated, that's your right. That doesn't mean you shouldn't see them. You should.

Don't get ugly with them

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I would not be open to letting people with antivaxx, Qanon-type ideas misinform and indoctrinate my children. Whatever you decide to do, don't leave them alone with the kids.