Left Out/Childhood Baggage. Help!

[Anonymous]

What you’re feeling is perfectly normal and something every single person feels from time to time. Seven people surrounded by many friends and seem to get invited to most things. If you have more than one friend, at some point you’re going to encounter this. Let yourself be sad. Pour a glass of wine and read a good book or movie and know these feelings shall pass. It sucks in the moment but I guarantee it’s a short period of time where you won’t even think about it again.

[Anonymous]

I’d like to add that you have described this person who hurt you as a nice person. And, your friends aren’t acting squirrelly or weird about declining your invite. I think you seem like a very likable person! I think this may be a one off situation, not a beginning of a trend.

[Anonymous]

Were you going to invite her to your get together? Doesn't sound like it. So why are you so bothered she didn't invite you to hers?

[Anonymous]

To your invited friends: "What's a better night for you?"

To this neighbour: over time get to know her as the opportunity arises.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sorry! What if your invites went out before the other ones did? Would the shoe be on the other foot, with the nice and popular girl getting responses of can’t make it, I’ve got a conflict?

+1

I had a similar thing happen and my invitees turned around and unaccepted the acceptance they'd given me to my event.

[Anonymous]

I went through exactly this a few years back. I'm sorry - it sucks, but the feeling does pass. Some people just gravitate toward each other more socially, and while people are genuinely fond of me, I am not on anyone's A list for these kinds of events.

BTW, I found out about the thing I was left out of on Facebook. I took a SM break for several weeks after that while I nursed my wounds. That helped too.