Bedwetting and pull up concern

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with advice above but also: Have you tried a bedwetting alarm? I didn't think my 7- year-old was anywhere near nighttime dryness (woke every day with a sopping pullup, slept like the dead), which was fine with us (my father and brother were bedwetters until adolescence, so I wasn't unprepared for it). But it really bothered DS and he was embarrassed about wearing pullup. The pediatrician suggested we try an alarm. I was totally skeptical but within 2 weeks of starting the alarm he was reliably dry every night.

She sleeps like the dead too! We did try the alarm about 6 months ago and it woke up DH and I but not her. She slept right through it. A tornado can touch down outside her window and she would still now wake up. Her pull is also totally soaked in the morning as well. I never get mad over it. Yes its frustrating but I know its common. I just didn't know what to think when she peed herself when she was wide awake.

This is the PP above. Just wanted to say that my DS was never awakened by the alarm either. When it went off, I would go in, shake him and call his name to wake him up, and get him up to change his pullup. Then back to bed. After several nights of this... the alarm stopped going off. I have no idea why this worked, but it did. Just providing encouragement that at some point you might tryit again, and that it might work even if the alarm doesn't wake him.

Re sleeping through the alarm: I have never seen anything like it. Pinned to his jammie top right under his chin, screaming loud, vibrating hard enough to shake his bed. He slept right through. FWIW, I remember my mother saying that if we ever had a fire in the middle of the night, she didn't know how she'd get my brother out of the house.

Did you do the alarm with him still wearing a pull up? I did not have her wearing a pull up when I tried the alarm here. I should try that. It would still keep the sheets from getting wet and she wont complain about waking up wet every morning. I know I will have to start looking for better pull ups as the ones she wears now are starting to not last through the morning. There are more times than not that her sheets will still be wet from her pull up overflowing. I hate having to buy them as they are a little costly.

[Anonymous]

Both my kids were late to night train and did this at night and in the morning (ie peed in the pull-up while awake out of laziness). It may be that a simple reminder that that’s not what it’s for will suffice. But yes our routine also was to do a finally bathroom break right before tuckin (after stories, teeth brushing, etc ... the very last thing) the out the pull-up on. Encourage her to put underwear on and visit the bathroom as soon as she wakes up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both my kids were late to night train and did this at night and in the morning (ie peed in the pull-up while awake out of laziness). It may be that a simple reminder that that’s not what it’s for will suffice. But yes our routine also was to do a finally bathroom break right before tuckin (after stories, teeth brushing, etc ... the very last thing) the out the pull-up on. Encourage her to put underwear on and visit the bathroom as soon as she wakes up.

OP here - I am happy to know that my daughter isn't the only one that's done that. May I ask how old your kids were when they did that? My daughter is 8 and is way too old to pee in her pull up out of laziness. I don't mind if she is sleeping because she cant help it but not when she is fully awake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both my kids were late to night train and did this at night and in the morning (ie peed in the pull-up while awake out of laziness). It may be that a simple reminder that that’s not what it’s for will suffice. But yes our routine also was to do a finally bathroom break right before tuckin (after stories, teeth brushing, etc ... the very last thing) the out the pull-up on. Encourage her to put underwear on and visit the bathroom as soon as she wakes up.

OP here - I am happy to know that my daughter isn't the only one that's done that. May I ask how old your kids were when they did that? My daughter is 8 and is way too old to pee in her pull up out of laziness. I don't mind if she is sleeping because she cant help it but not when she is fully awake.

They were 7-8 so also too old, and I agree it’s annoying! They finally night trained before turning 9.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both my kids were late to night train and did this at night and in the morning (ie peed in the pull-up while awake out of laziness). It may be that a simple reminder that that’s not what it’s for will suffice. But yes our routine also was to do a finally bathroom break right before tuckin (after stories, teeth brushing, etc ... the very last thing) the out the pull-up on. Encourage her to put underwear on and visit the bathroom as soon as she wakes up.

OP here - I am happy to know that my daughter isn't the only one that's done that. May I ask how old your kids were when they did that? My daughter is 8 and is way too old to pee in her pull up out of laziness. I don't mind if she is sleeping because she cant help it but not when she is fully awake.

They were 7-8 so also too old, and I agree it’s annoying! They finally night trained before turning 9.

OP Here - I am so glad I am not the only one! I do have to get on her about changing after she gets out of bed in the morning because she has NO problem walking around in a soaking wet pull up because she "forgot" to change. Did yours also deny doing it? She will claim she is dry in the morning and I physically have to check her and make her go change! I have caught her very close to lunch time a couple of times still wearing her pull up!

[Anonymous]

My son wore a diaper to bed until he was nearly 8. As others have mentioned, it’s still common at their age. There were a few times where he would be too lazy to take it off when he got out of bed. I never “caught” him peeing in the diaper but I would ask him every time how walking around in a wet diaper doesn’t bother him. He never gave me a straight answer, he just shrugged his shoulders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with advice above but also: Have you tried a bedwetting alarm? I didn't think my 7- year-old was anywhere near nighttime dryness (woke every day with a sopping pullup, slept like the dead), which was fine with us (my father and brother were bedwetters until adolescence, so I wasn't unprepared for it). But it really bothered DS and he was embarrassed about wearing pullup. The pediatrician suggested we try an alarm. I was totally skeptical but within 2 weeks of starting the alarm he was reliably dry every night.

She sleeps like the dead too! We did try the alarm about 6 months ago and it woke up DH and I but not her. She slept right through it. A tornado can touch down outside her window and she would still now wake up. Her pull is also totally soaked in the morning as well. I never get mad over it. Yes its frustrating but I know its common. I just didn't know what to think when she peed herself when she was wide awake.

This is the PP above. Just wanted to say that my DS was never awakened by the alarm either. When it went off, I would go in, shake him and call his name to wake him up, and get him up to change his pullup. Then back to bed. After several nights of this... the alarm stopped going off. I have no idea why this worked, but it did. Just providing encouragement that at some point you might tryit again, and that it might work even if the alarm doesn't wake him.

Re sleeping through the alarm: I have never seen anything like it. Pinned to his jammie top right under his chin, screaming loud, vibrating hard enough to shake his bed. He slept right through. FWIW, I remember my mother saying that if we ever had a fire in the middle of the night, she didn't know how she'd get my brother out of the house.

Did you do the alarm with him still wearing a pull up? I did not have her wearing a pull up when I tried the alarm here. I should try that. It would still keep the sheets from getting wet and she wont complain about waking up wet every morning. I know I will have to start looking for better pull ups as the ones she wears now are starting to not last through the morning. There are more times than not that her sheets will still be wet from her pull up overflowing. I hate having to buy them as they are a little costly.

PP again-- yes, we did pullups with the alarm.

My DS is 17 now and appears to be dry all night lol. This too shall pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with advice above but also: Have you tried a bedwetting alarm? I didn't think my 7- year-old was anywhere near nighttime dryness (woke every day with a sopping pullup, slept like the dead), which was fine with us (my father and brother were bedwetters until adolescence, so I wasn't unprepared for it). But it really bothered DS and he was embarrassed about wearing pullup. The pediatrician suggested we try an alarm. I was totally skeptical but within 2 weeks of starting the alarm he was reliably dry every night.

She sleeps like the dead too! We did try the alarm about 6 months ago and it woke up DH and I but not her. She slept right through it. A tornado can touch down outside her window and she would still now wake up. Her pull is also totally soaked in the morning as well. I never get mad over it. Yes its frustrating but I know its common. I just didn't know what to think when she peed herself when she was wide awake.

This is the PP above. Just wanted to say that my DS was never awakened by the alarm either. When it went off, I would go in, shake him and call his name to wake him up, and get him up to change his pullup. Then back to bed. After several nights of this... the alarm stopped going off. I have no idea why this worked, but it did. Just providing encouragement that at some point you might tryit again, and that it might work even if the alarm doesn't wake him.

Re sleeping through the alarm: I have never seen anything like it. Pinned to his jammie top right under his chin, screaming loud, vibrating hard enough to shake his bed. He slept right through. FWIW, I remember my mother saying that if we ever had a fire in the middle of the night, she didn't know how she'd get my brother out of the house.

Did you do the alarm with him still wearing a pull up? I did not have her wearing a pull up when I tried the alarm here. I should try that. It would still keep the sheets from getting wet and she wont complain about waking up wet every morning. I know I will have to start looking for better pull ups as the ones she wears now are starting to not last through the morning. There are more times than not that her sheets will still be wet from her pull up overflowing. I hate having to buy them as they are a little costly.

PP again-- yes, we did pullups with the alarm.

My DS is 17 now and appears to be dry all night lol. This too shall pass.

Thanks again, I am going to try that starting tonight. I didn't even think about trying the alarm with her still wearing a pull up. That will save on A LOT of laundry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t freak out. Anger and bathroom issues don’t go well with each other.

Maybe you should try a week with no pull up? Make sure the bed has sheet cover, sheet, sheet cover, sheet. Then if she does have an accident you just have to pull off the top sheet and sheet cover and there’s another set underneath. My kids both trained late, so I get it, but we tried here and there to give them a chance to challenge their bodies. Sounds like it’s a good time for your daughter!

Thanks for the tip. We have her go without pull ups every now then. She is the one that begs to go back to pull ups because she absolutely hates waking up in a wet bed in the morning. I don't have a problem if its when she is sleeping because I know its very common her age. I am at a loss for words as to why she would pee in her pull up when she was fully awake.

The fact that she went in it while awake would make me wonder if she’s just being lazy. I’d ask the ped, but I’d take the pull ups away for a week and do a ton of waterproof pads on the bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t freak out. Anger and bathroom issues don’t go well with each other.

Maybe you should try a week with no pull up? Make sure the bed has sheet cover, sheet, sheet cover, sheet. Then if she does have an accident you just have to pull off the top sheet and sheet cover and there’s another set underneath. My kids both trained late, so I get it, but we tried here and there to give them a chance to challenge their bodies. Sounds like it’s a good time for your daughter!

Thanks for the tip. We have her go without pull ups every now then. She is the one that begs to go back to pull ups because she absolutely hates waking up in a wet bed in the morning. I don't have a problem if its when she is sleeping because I know its very common her age. I am at a loss for words as to why she would pee in her pull up when she was fully awake.

The fact that she went in it while awake would make me wonder if she’s just being lazy. I’d ask the ped, but I’d take the pull ups away for a week and do a ton of waterproof pads on the bed.

OP here - I agree it was laziness. I don't know if she has done this before. My gut says she has and I didn't notice. I asked her why she did it and she just shrugged her shoulders and denied doing it previously. As I said, I am shocked that she would wet herself while fully awake. I have taken the pull up away but after a few months of washing sheets and her hating waking up in a wet bed in the morning, they went back on. She isn't embarrassed about the pull ups. She thinks of them as special underwear because she can manage them herself and not diapers like a baby.

[Anonymous]

I can see you’re still shocked and upset about this. I truly suggest you let it go. Kids are weird and annoying and make choices that appall us. It’s not helpful to hold onto it. Now you know no pull up until right before bed. And how about she shows you underwear on her before she gets to watch tv or eat breakfast or whatever else happens in the morning. Make it routine and part of “getting out of the night pull-up” because sooner than later there will be sleepovers and maybe camp and she’s not going to want to deal with pull-ups then.

[Anonymous]

That a tough situation your in. She needs one at night so if you take it away, your stuck washing sheets. Other than making her put in right at bedtime, I don’t know what the consequence would be if she wet her pull up if she was still awake in bed. If she were my child, I would be asking myself umm your how old? And your wetting yourself when your awake? I hope it gets easier for you. Does she know the difference between pull ups and diapers? I don’t know what other moms here would think but what if you tried cloth diapers so she feels being wet but still keeps everything else dry. Just a suggestion, she won’t like having to wear a diaper AND feel uncomfortable and wet.

[Anonymous]

One of my twins is still wearing diapers at night at and will be 6 in May. I'm certain he does still genuinely pee in the middle of the night (extremely deep sleeper) and he has some SN going on (on the spectrum and a few sensory things). We have caught him doing the SAME thing however, particularly if we've had a busy/long night. His brother will also infrequently let us know that DS "peed in his diaper while he was awake last night."

I used to rip out my hair worried about this, but--truthfully with covid and the past year, we've kind of started to just shrug it off. He's not ready to stay dry all night, whether it be accidents in his sleep, or because he's not mentally to the point where he's bothered by having a wet diaper in the evening.

So, for the time being...I'm simply not too bothered. He's 100% PT in the daytime, so we simply take things easy with nighttime. He won't still be in diapers at night when he goes off to college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my twins is still wearing diapers at night at and will be 6 in May. I'm certain he does still genuinely pee in the middle of the night (extremely deep sleeper) and he has some SN going on (on the spectrum and a few sensory things). We have caught him doing the SAME thing however, particularly if we've had a busy/long night. His brother will also infrequently let us know that DS "peed in his diaper while he was awake last night."

I used to rip out my hair worried about this, but--truthfully with covid and the past year, we've kind of started to just shrug it off. He's not ready to stay dry all night, whether it be accidents in his sleep, or because he's not mentally to the point where he's bothered by having a wet diaper in the evening.

So, for the time being...I'm simply not too bothered. He's 100% PT in the daytime, so we simply take things easy with nighttime. He won't still be in diapers at night when he goes off to college.

OP here - Does his brother look after him and know that he has some SN?. I cant say for sure if DD has wet her pull up when in bed but I am just going to let it be as I have not caught her doing it again.

[Anonymous]

Stop the pull ups as they let her be comfortable. Limit fluids 90 minutes before bed. Have her go to the toliet every 30 minutes during those 90 minutes and then at bed time. Double/triple see the bed, have extra blankets ready to go, and let her have the accidents. Eventually she'll figure it out. And, get a medical evaluation, if you haven't (assuming you have which is why I put it last) to rule out medical issues.