I found out my crush is bisexual...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How to raise entitled men 101

+1

OP I think you need to at least find a way to figure out how to drive home the point that getting rejected is part of life and it is painful but they will live. If more parents had taught their sons this, we wouldn’t have nearly so much incel culture. It is a massive problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if she's too young to know if she likes boys or girls, how does your son know that he wants to date this girl, or girls in general? If you think kids his age shouldn't be or aren't attracted to people, why wouldn't you tell your son that he's too young to date?

He’s not interested in dating. So I don’t need to tell him he can’t. But he likes a girl. He was confused & disappointed. Disappointed that she likes someone else. Confused about the bisexual aspect.

And he took his "confusion" to the wrong person given your reaction, which was (1) to dismiss the girl's feelings as coming from someone "too young to know" and (2) condescendingly talking about "respect." It's not a matter of "respect." It's a matter of is. Talking about respect in this context is heterenormative. You really can't see that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How to raise entitled men 101

My husband knew he liked women, my sons know they liked women.

Girls lie all the time about liking other girls to get away from boys they are not interested in (I know I did)

some girls like/enjoy experimenting with other girls and people seem ok with that. Where is the entitlement coming from????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to raise entitled men 101

My husband knew he liked women, my sons know they liked women.

Girls lie all the time about liking other girls to get away from boys they are not interested in (I know I did)

some girls like/enjoy experimenting with other girls and people seem ok with that. Where is the entitlement coming from????

"She's just lying" Yeah, A+ parenting right there. The entitlement comes from:
1. Assuming a girl/woman is lying
2. Not telling your son that rejection is part of life
3. Explaining that not everyone "likes" everyone and that he's will be rejecting others as well, and that's OK!

Stop telling men that women are lying. This causes more problems than it fixes.

[Anonymous]

Also, if girls lie because they aren't interested, why are they lying? Are they lying because boys/men react negatively to rejection? So maybe rather than teaching your sons that girls lie, why don't you teach them how to take rejection with grace?

Every lesbian I know has a story about a man at best thinking he can change her mind or that she's lying. Stop raising these shitty creeps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to raise entitled men 101

My husband knew he liked women, my sons know they liked women.

Girls lie all the time about liking other girls to get away from boys they are not interested in (I know I did)

some girls like/enjoy experimenting with other girls and people seem ok with that. Where is the entitlement coming from????

"She's just lying" Yeah, A+ parenting right there. The entitlement comes from:
1. Assuming a girl/woman is lying
2. Not telling your son that rejection is part of life
3. Explaining that not everyone "likes" everyone and that he's will be rejecting others as well, and that's OK!

OP never said to her son the girl was lying.

How is she raising an entitled man???




Stop telling men that women are lying. This causes more problems than it fixes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to raise entitled men 101

My husband knew he liked women, my sons know they liked women.

Girls lie all the time about liking other girls to get away from boys they are not interested in (I know I did)

some girls like/enjoy experimenting with other girls and people seem ok with that. Where is the entitlement coming from????

"She's just lying" Yeah, A+ parenting right there. The entitlement comes from:
1. Assuming a girl/woman is lying
2. Not telling your son that rejection is part of life
3. Explaining that not everyone "likes" everyone and that he's will be rejecting others as well, and that's OK!

Stop telling men that women are lying. This causes more problems than it fixes.

OP never said to her son the girl was lying.

How is she raising an entitled man???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to raise entitled men 101

My husband knew he liked women, my sons know they liked women.

Girls lie all the time about liking other girls to get away from boys they are not interested in (I know I did)

some girls like/enjoy experimenting with other girls and people seem ok with that. Where is the entitlement coming from????

"She's just lying" Yeah, A+ parenting right there. The entitlement comes from:
1. Assuming a girl/woman is lying
2. Not telling your son that rejection is part of life
3. Explaining that not everyone "likes" everyone and that he's will be rejecting others as well, and that's OK!

Stop telling men that women are lying. This causes more problems than it fixes.

OP never said to her son the girl was lying.

How is she raising an entitled man???

Re-read what I was responding to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, if girls lie because they aren't interested, why are they lying? Are they lying because boys/men react negatively to rejection? So maybe rather than teaching your sons that girls lie, why don't you teach them how to take rejection with grace?

Every lesbian I know has a story about a man at best thinking he can change her mind or that she's lying. Stop raising these shitty creeps.

At 11 years old???? ahaha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, if girls lie because they aren't interested, why are they lying? Are they lying because boys/men react negatively to rejection? So maybe rather than teaching your sons that girls lie, why don't you teach them how to take rejection with grace?

Every lesbian I know has a story about a man at best thinking he can change her mind or that she's lying. Stop raising these shitty creeps.

At 11 years old???? ahaha

Yeah, it's almost like every creep was once an 11 year old and this is why parenting matters. But keep telling your precious boy that all girls are liars and none will ever love him like mommy does.

[Anonymous]

Eh, whatever. This didn't need to be an After School Special moment. "Oh, bummer." would suffice. She being bisexual is a non-issue. The point is she likes someone else. It doesn't matter if it's a girl or a penguin. It's not him. That's life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh, whatever. This didn't need to be an After School Special moment. "Oh, bummer." would suffice. She being bisexual is a non-issue. The point is she likes someone else. It doesn't matter if it's a girl or a penguin. It's not him. That's life.

+1 as a grownup bisexual, I wish everyone could learn this simple life lesson

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if she's too young to know if she likes boys or girls, how does your son know that he wants to date this girl, or girls in general? If you think kids his age shouldn't be or aren't attracted to people, why wouldn't you tell your son that he's too young to date?

He’s not interested in dating. So I don’t need to tell him he can’t. But he likes a girl. He was confused & disappointed. Disappointed that she likes someone else. Confused about the bisexual aspect.

NP. You're missing the point. You said she at 11 was too young to know who she liked, but your son is the same age and he knows who he likes. So, if he gets fluttery feeling in his stomach for someone, she does too. She's just had fluttery feelings for boys and girls. You really diminished her, and maybe gave him the idea that girls are wishy washy.

[Anonymous]

When DS was around that age he told me he was upset because he found out the girl he liked and thought he was dating (which probably meant he said hi to her a couple of times) liked a girl instead of him.

We told him this will be the first of many heartbreaks in his life and it sucks and we are sorry. We also said when he is going through a breakup (yes, we know this wasn’t a breakup but he was so emotional) to never badmouth someone to friends or be mean to them. Ignore and don’t say anything if he can’t talk without being nice.

We didn’t address the bisexual or lesbian part at all because no one is actually dating in elementary school but we wanted to at least acknowledge his feelings.

[Anonymous]

11?

Let kids be kids a little longer.