Want to send birth announcements but I certainly do not want or expect gifts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I sent announcements for all my kids. Announcements aren’t a gift grab...they’re just an announcement.

Do not print anything about gifts on it. That’s actually rude. You should never dictate behavior when it comes to gifts.

Technically, that’s not true. I think officially Miss Manners would say that an announcement requires a gift.

I seriously doubt that.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/miss-manners-baby-announcement-is-not-a-command-to-purchase-supplies/2014/03/18/c138fc16-ab99-11e3-adbc-888c8010c799_story.html

An announcement does not require a gift. An invitation does not require a gift.

[Anonymous]

Send it! A certain demographic loves stuff like that, and for a third kid it’s probably not viewed as gift grabby.

[Anonymous]

I sent out cards for my second and didn't get one gift. They are not gift grabs

[Anonymous]

Maybe I am a bad friend, I’ve never received a birth announcement and thought that I needed to send a gift afterwards 😬.

[Anonymous]

We sent announcements when our first was born (we only have one so far) and I don't think anyone sent a gift. No need to worry, OP!

[Anonymous]

Every baby should be celebrated OP! Send it out and if you get gifts that is fine.

Personally I would send you one. I love sending personalized baby gifts.

[Anonymous]

Send the card. Don’t write anything about gifts. Some will want to send them and will. Some won’t. It’s not a summons to send a gift.

[Anonymous]

Send the card! I would not think it was an ask for gifts. If I did want to send a gift, I would ask if you had a registry. If you said, "That is so nice of you, but we didn't make a registry because we are all set," I would interpret that as "no gifts, please" or I would send something small and cute because I really wanted to not because I felt obligated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We just had our third baby. We didn’t send Christmas cards (I always do!) and I really want to send announcements. I have some friends and family members who I know would love a card, even though we share plenty of photos with them. Plus we got beautiful family photos taken.

I don’t want gifts, of course not! I’d just like to send a card.

What can I write on the card, if anything, to make this clear? “Just sharing our news, no gifts!” some lame.

The only reason to send birth announcements is to ASK FOR A GiFT. ALso, other than immediate family, no one gives a damn about a third child.

Put NO GIFTS on announcement if you really want no gifts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just had our third baby. We didn’t send Christmas cards (I always do!) and I really want to send announcements. I have some friends and family members who I know would love a card, even though we share plenty of photos with them. Plus we got beautiful family photos taken.

I don’t want gifts, of course not! I’d just like to send a card.

What can I write on the card, if anything, to make this clear? “Just sharing our news, no gifts!” some lame.

The only reason to send birth announcements is to ASK FOR A GiFT. ALso, other than immediate family, no one gives a damn about a third child.

Put NO GIFTS on announcement if you really want no gifts?

This is stupid advice. I would be happy to learn of the birth of a third child. But sending a gift would never occur to me - perhaps for a close friend or relative but more often than not, I wouldn’t consider sending a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just had our third baby. We didn’t send Christmas cards (I always do!) and I really want to send announcements. I have some friends and family members who I know would love a card, even though we share plenty of photos with them. Plus we got beautiful family photos taken.

I don’t want gifts, of course not! I’d just like to send a card.

What can I write on the card, if anything, to make this clear? “Just sharing our news, no gifts!” some lame.

The only reason to send birth announcements is to ASK FOR A GiFT. ALso, other than immediate family, no one gives a damn about a third child.

Put NO GIFTS on announcement if you really want no gifts?

This is stupid advice. I would be happy to learn of the birth of a third child. But sending a gift would never occur to me - perhaps for a close friend or relative but more often than not, I wouldn’t consider sending a gift.

I clicked send too soon. Also putting no gifts on the announcement is rude. It’s as if you assumed that other ppl sending birth announcements were doing it for gifts even though they weren’t.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I thought of this thread today because a card with a check arrived in the mail from my aunt.

I sent the announcement, and one elderly aunt sent a gift and the other just sent this check.

I knew they would! No one else sent a gift but I really didn’t send many other cards.

[Anonymous]

Ask for donations to March of Dimes or something

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just had our third baby. We didn’t send Christmas cards (I always do!) and I really want to send announcements. I have some friends and family members who I know would love a card, even though we share plenty of photos with them. Plus we got beautiful family photos taken.

I don’t want gifts, of course not! I’d just like to send a card.

What can I write on the card, if anything, to make this clear? “Just sharing our news, no gifts!” some lame.

The only reason to send birth announcements is to ASK FOR A GiFT. ALso, other than immediate family, no one gives a damn about a third child.

Put NO GIFTS on announcement if you really want no gifts?

Oh give me a break. nobody wants to look at a cute new baby and see the sex, weight, birthdate? C'mon you grouch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask for donations to March of Dimes or something

no