Inheritance question

[Anonymous]

Show your sibling what your mom wanted. Maybe they will be willing. My grandmother wanted to divide her assets equally between 3 grandchildren but the official will would have divided 1/2, 1/4,1/4. The 1/2 cousin agreed to the actual last wishes and the money was divided equally.

[Anonymous]

So rather than being given a property that is all your own you prefer for you and your sibling to have to share two properties? You sound completely unreasonable. And if it was your other sibling who is given the “lesser” property you wouldn’t be saying a thing. You’re so greedy. Your father probably thinks your sibling would value and appreciate and use the other property more than you. His reasoning really doesn’t matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Show your sibling what your mom wanted. Maybe they will be willing. My grandmother wanted to divide her assets equally between 3 grandchildren but the official will would have divided 1/2, 1/4,1/4. The 1/2 cousin agreed to the actual last wishes and the money was divided equally.

I actually think my sibling and I can work it out rather than argue with our parent about this. I'm more disappointed that our dad is purposely disregarding what our mom wanted. She talked about it when we were growing up what she wanted--this was before she got dementia.

[Anonymous]

It's tough that your mom is gone but you should let this go. Mourning someone is difficult enough without heirs arguing over things left behind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So rather than being given a property that is all your own you prefer for you and your sibling to have to share two properties? You sound completely unreasonable. And if it was your other sibling who is given the “lesser” property you wouldn’t be saying a thing. You’re so greedy. Your father probably thinks your sibling would value and appreciate and use the other property more than you. His reasoning really doesn’t matter.

It's actually less about the size than the sentimental value of both.

[Anonymous]

You want to share and split the properties with your sibling? That is the most insane idea. Do you know how that looks in reality? Constant fighting over who gets to use it, who paid for fixing what, who gets how much if you sell it. Do you use a realtor to sell it?
I understand that you might be upset that your sibling might get the more valuable property, that is a legit reason to be upset, but otherwise, your dad is doing the right thing.
HE doesn't want you to fight. As you wrote your family is already a mess. Honestly, based on your two posts, I think you are the cause of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So rather than being given a property that is all your own you prefer for you and your sibling to have to share two properties? You sound completely unreasonable. And if it was your other sibling who is given the “lesser” property you wouldn’t be saying a thing. You’re so greedy. Your father probably thinks your sibling would value and appreciate and use the other property more than you. His reasoning really doesn’t matter.

It's actually less about the size than the sentimental value of both.

Are you the only one who has these sentimental feelings? SO much so that you would rather have no use of either property?

[Anonymous]

Nothing you can do. Everything goes to spouse and then spouse can do as he wants. You are entitled to nothing.

[Anonymous]

There's really no good way for you to "share" it, except to sell it and divide the proceeds. Then the property will no longer be in the family. If there are two properties, and two kids--then each kid gets a property. That makes the most sense.

You say the property your sister is "larger" but is it "better?" Worth more?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound greedy as hell. You’re being left a property. Count yourself fortunate. My guess is your other sibling is the favorite and your behavior on this thread tells me why. There’s nothing stopping your dad from cutting you out of the will entirely, so go on and keep acting like an entitled brat.

Why greedy?? Why entitled??
The mother wanted to share the assets equally between her children, so the 2 properties should be sold and the money split evenly between the siblings.
It wouldn't be fair if one sibling got a property worth 500K and the other a property worth 1 million.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So rather than being given a property that is all your own you prefer for you and your sibling to have to share two properties? You sound completely unreasonable. And if it was your other sibling who is given the “lesser” property you wouldn’t be saying a thing. You’re so greedy. Your father probably thinks your sibling would value and appreciate and use the other property more than you. His reasoning really doesn’t matter.

It's actually less about the size than the sentimental value of both.

Are you the only one who has these sentimental feelings? SO much so that you would rather have no use of either property?

It's sentimental b/c we spent a lot of time there growing up and also b/c my mom wanted to build house there and retire but never got the chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's really no good way for you to "share" it, except to sell it and divide the proceeds. Then the property will no longer be in the family. If there are two properties, and two kids--then each kid gets a property. That makes the most sense.

You say the property your sister is "larger" but is it "better?" Worth more?

It's been shared for almost 100 years. Neither sibling needs the money. My preference would be to keep in family and pass both down to next generation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound greedy as hell. You’re being left a property. Count yourself fortunate. My guess is your other sibling is the favorite and your behavior on this thread tells me why. There’s nothing stopping your dad from cutting you out of the will entirely, so go on and keep acting like an entitled brat.

OP- people like this are precisely why you challenge the will. Assert your father hid your mother's will or misrepresented her wishes. Even if the ruling doesn't go in your favor you at least get to damage the estate as much as possible. Make them pay.

[Anonymous]

honestly, your father could get remarried and it all could be lost to a new wife and her family. I'd say to my dad, great, why don't we see a lawyer about a trust?

[Anonymous]

I completely understand why you want your mother's original wishes to be upheld but in the absence of a will it's a stretch to think that will happen. Legally all assets belong to your father now and he can do with them what he wishes. Wills are critical in inheritance issues and it always surprises me how many people do not have one. Even a quickie online will template that you fill out AND have notarized is better than nothing.