POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?

[Anonymous]

What kind of compliments do you mean?

I don’t think people go around randomly complimenting people on their looks, no matter what color or race they are. Especially in the work place, where people have learned to be careful to avoid even the appearance of sexual harassment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. As a thin-ish Korean woman who is fairly tall, I feel like I got a lot of unwanted attention when I was younger. Less so now, of course, but still...

Plenty of American men, especially older ones, are fond on Asian women

Older ones? Whatever do you mean? Men of all ages are into Asian women.

+1 I think teens and 20-somethings are finding Asian women (and men) pretty darn attractive. Maybe a consequence of this whole K-Pop, K-Drama, and K-Beauty phenomenon?

[Anonymous]

I feel celebrated only because I've fine tuned my Instagram feed to focus on brands, fashion, art and influencers that focus on women of color. So while the mainstream might not celebrate us there's ways now to find positive and uplifting imagery.

I'm Black and 53 years old.

[Anonymous]

I don't think beauty is universal. I'm white and have never felt attractive to other races. Only white men ever approached me or hit on me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. As a thin-ish Korean woman who is fairly tall, I feel like I got a lot of unwanted attention when I was younger. Less so now, of course, but still...

Plenty of American men, especially older ones, are fond on Asian women

Fond of.

[Anonymous]

I prefer to be celebrated for my worth as a human being than for how I look. This is not something to strive for. Let's just demolish beauty standards altogether.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another Indian American here, but I am the fair, tall variety so have received plenty of attention. I look better than majority white women out there and have been treated very well. So, I guess our experiences are going to be as diverse as our looks.

And modest to boot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like I am fetishized and exoticized. But any celebration of my true beauty me would have to recognize my humanity and personhood, and that largely has not happened within our racist society.

Fetishized often and told how good that I look for my age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a minority, you pretty much have to be model beautiful for people to find you attractive. For a white woman, being not overweight and slightly above average is enough to be beautiful and get advantages for your looks.

This is complete bs. I am AA, and I have received compliments on my looks my entire life. Whomever keeps writing this trash, please stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a minority, you pretty much have to be model beautiful for people to find you attractive. For a white woman, being not overweight and slightly above average is enough to be beautiful and get advantages for your looks.

This is complete bs. I am AA, and I have received compliments on my looks my entire life. Whomever keeps writing this trash, please stop.

+1. I'm not model beautiful at all but just a reasonably attractive middle-aged AA woman who puts effort into my appearance. I regularly get complimented by all types of people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry, OP. I'm Indian, and I will say I think it can range. I have been complimented in both the south and DC, but it was when I looked semi-decent unlike now during the pandemic when I always look a mess and am wearing a mask. I have also always been very smiley. Where do you live?

Yes! The pandemic took away my approachability. Which honestly, sometimes I don't actually want to chat it up at the airport or whatever with strangers but it actually has served me very,very well the vast majority of the time vs. being a nuissance. Now we all look like we have RBF. Which, to be fair, I think we are all tired and we kind of do have RBF and that's not anything to apologize for!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry, OP. I'm Indian, and I will say I think it can range. I have been complimented in both the south and DC, but it was when I looked semi-decent unlike now during the pandemic when I always look a mess and am wearing a mask. I have also always been very smiley. Where do you live?

Yes! The pandemic took away my approachability. Which honestly, sometimes I don't actually want to chat it up at the airport or whatever with strangers but it actually has served me very,very well the vast majority of the time vs. being a nuissance. Now we all look like we have RBF. Which, to be fair, I think we are all tired and we kind of do have RBF and that's not anything to apologize for!

Yep. I would say I'm pretty average looking, but I'm charming. That's what I had going for me, and the pandemic took it away.

[Anonymous]

The only people who need to like the way I look are me and my partner. I literally do not care what anyone else thinks about my looks. I don’t want or need attention and validation from others/strangers about my looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a minority, you pretty much have to be model beautiful for people to find you attractive. For a white woman, being not overweight and slightly above average is enough to be beautiful and get advantages for your looks.

White women of course have white privilege and all that goes along with it. But the idea that white women don’t get harshly judged for our looks is crazy. I am white so I can’t compare it to another experience, but I’m a thin white lady who has never been considered beautiful. And after 40? Forget it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a minority, you pretty much have to be model beautiful for people to find you attractive. For a white woman, being not overweight and slightly above average is enough to be beautiful and get advantages for your looks.

White women of course have white privilege and all that goes along with it.[b] But the idea that white women don’t get harshly judged for our looks is crazy. I am white so I can’t compare it to another experience, but I’m a thin white lady who has never been considered beautiful. And after 40? Forget it.

Yeah, they do. And you coming in here and derailing a thread about your own personal beauty woes is a perfect example of that privilege. This is where you should be listening and letting WOC work through their own thoughts and feelings.

/white woman