Do your 11/12/13 year old daughters have crushes?

[Anonymous]

I never had crushes as a kid, except for a couple of book characters I really liked. Never saw the point of being obsessed with an unobtainable celebrity and the boys I knew in school were terrible.
I also never really had a bf until college but ended up meeting my husband at 22 right out of college.

[Anonymous]

My 9yo has been telling me her crushes for the last year or two. She thinks kissing is gross though and hates seeing it in TV shows.

[Anonymous]

My 11 year old, yes, for some time. She had her first tiny crush in kindergarten. She’s very pretty and self aware of her looks and fashion, much more so ive noticed than her femsle classmates. My 8 year old not yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes! She vehemently denied it until her sister called her out when she was 11. Then she told me she’d actually had crushes years before. I don’t think you can go around and saying you know if your kid has crushes or not because there’s a lot they’re not telling you. It’s private.

OP here. Yes, of course. I certainly didn’t tell me mother, but I guess she could put two and two together the way I talked dreamily about certain people.

[Anonymous]

My 11 year old definitely does not, and is of the opinion that boys in general are dumb. Her friends all seem the same way.

[Anonymous]

DD has never mentioned anyone famous or that she knows IRL. We will probably find out about her first boyfriend when she’s engaged. She’s very quiet.

But DS? He’s been talking about crushes on girls since elementary school. He was very little when I remember his first crush. I think it’s more their personality than being male or female. He’s more inclined to say every emotion at every minute.

[Anonymous]

Our ten yr old DD has had at least one girl crush (she came out to me when she was eight -- and I believed her and have supported her ever since) and now she's onto another girl crush. I just listen, support and roll with it. Our nine yr old DS, nope, not yet! ; )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 9yo has been telling me her crushes for the last year or two. She thinks kissing is gross though and hates seeing it in TV shows.

I asked my 9yo whether she's had crushes yet, and she said no. I also asked her whether she'd tell me if she had crushes--answer was also no.

[Anonymous]

12 year old DD has two crushes that i know of, not that she's acted on them though (thankfully).

[Anonymous]

I was totally boy crazy at this age and had many celebrity crushes, but my 11 (almost 12) yr old DD doesn't seem to have any interest. I also don't think she would tell me if she had them, but I don't hear any talk of boys or celebrities, other than certain tiktok stars, but not because she thinks they're cute. Unlike me at this age though, she is very into her appearance, her clothes, her looks. I was totally clueless lol but she seems way more into style and appearance than I was at 11/12.

[Anonymous]

My DD had a boyfriend at age 4, in pre-school, and I didn't like him. I couldn't believe that I disliked my daughter's boyfriend and she was only 4 years old. He might have been closer to 5--an older man.
She's always discussed boys she likes in real life, and loves BTS (Korean boy band, Born to Shine).
So, so different from me at her age (especially at age 4). I was very shy, thought boys were jerks, and didn't even date until college. Even then I didn't tell my parents.

[Anonymous]

My 12 year old told me she had a crush on a girl at 10 but I think it was more because she thought she was supposed to have a girl friend than actually wanting one.
At 12 she is still interested in girls but there is no one person she has a crush on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My straight DD did not. She wasn’t interested in boys until 9th grade. Then she was boy crazy a bit before falling for one boy and dating him
All of HS.

My lesbian DD came out at 11 and immediately had crushes she told us about.

Wow! I’m impressed by her confidence and comfort level.

My 9 year old nephew has boy crashes. Social media, mostly Tick Tick has made thing TOO available. He is obsess with Larray and James Charles. If it wasn't for social media he probably would not have come out at his young age.

Ugh, 9 yo kids should not have social media.

Totally irrelevant to him being gay. But KIDS SHOULDNT HAVE SOCIAL MEDIA

(I know this is your nephew, not your own DS. not yelling at you. Just yelling into the void...........)

[Anonymous]

I had my first crush in kindergarten. I think for some kids it's just kind of in the background of their mind. Then again I was in Kinder in 1986 when it was not unusual for kids to watch soap operas in the afternoon hahaha

[Anonymous]

My 8 yo boy does (and has for a while). It baffles me, as his friends don't seem to talk about that kind of thing and he has very limited access to most media, but its who he is.