When to tell nanny we are moving?

[Anonymous]

Um, how about now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless you are going to sell your home “as is”, and your children are all non-verbal, your nanny will figure out what’s happening.

Tell her now. Make her an offer she can’t refuse to get her to stay until you move. As in, if she doesn’t quit she’ll get 8-12 weeks severance pay when you move, plus you’ll post that your nanny is looking for work, plus you’ll give her the best possible reference letter based on her job performance.

6 months notice and 3 months severance? Come on.
This place sure makes it hard to take nannies seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless you are going to sell your home “as is”, and your children are all non-verbal, your nanny will figure out what’s happening.

Tell her now. Make her an offer she can’t refuse to get her to stay until you move. As in, if she doesn’t quit she’ll get 8-12 weeks severance pay when you move, plus you’ll post that your nanny is looking for work, plus you’ll give her the best possible reference letter based on her job performance.

6 months notice and 3 months severance? Come on.
This place sure makes it hard to take nannies seriously.

Would it be better to not give extra notice and just hope nanny is oblivious? Or to not give extra notice and hope nanny doesn’t find a new job ASAP and then leave the OP without childcare?

And what about good severance in exchange for waiting to leave is silly? Without a decent amount of reason, nanny might leave ASAP and, again, leave OP without childcare.

[Anonymous]

OP, tell her now. I'm a nanny and I'd want to know more than 2 months in advance. No, unless you want to, severance isn't a must but I'm sure she would be very appreciative for a bonus of your choice if it isn't a financial burden for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her now. With covid, a lot of people are avoiding having help or just don't need it because they're staying home or have been laid off. She's going to need the time. Give her a bonus if she stays with you until a set date.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her now. With covid, a lot of people are avoiding having help or just don't need it because they're staying home or have been laid off. She's going to need the time. Give her a bonus if she stays with you until a set date.

This.

But then people on other threads are arguing it’s a “great” time for nannies and they are all making $30+ an hour.

[Anonymous]

Be a human and tell her now.

[Anonymous]

Think about it this way:

Pre-covid, when the family was going to show the house, I’d get a 30 minute notice from the agent. I had barely enough time to clean up, pack up kids and get out the door.

Now, people want zoom or FaceTime tours, rather than coming in themselves. Kids and their things still shouldn’t be all over. Do you want your nanny to be cooperative and helpful? Or do you want to try to hide the for sale sign in the yard?

[Anonymous]

Unless your nanny is totally oblivious to what is going on, it will be impossible for her not to figure out what you're doing and start looking or a new job and leave you with nothing, which you deserve.