Do your parents celebrate your bday
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Anonymous
| We’re local so yep. We do lunch or dinner and they give a card with a gift card. |
Anonymous
| Yes, call/card/check or lunch/dinner together. They are getting older now though and now usually just call/card. |
Anonymous
| Yes. My parents (divorced) have never missed a birthday gift, although they have been late. They also always call. |
Anonymous
| Are you an adult? Do you really need anyone to make a big deal over your birthday? |
Anonymous
| They call or text. I'm 36 |
Anonymous
| Just a text. Usually late in the day. |
Anonymous
| I don't know why I continue to be surprised that so many people on DCUM still get money from their parents. My parents are going to live on social security alone once they limp into retirement, the idea of them sending *me* a check boggles my mind. |
Anonymous
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They live several states away, so generally they call and mail a present.
A couple of years ago, I happened to be visiting them on my birthday, so they took me out for a nice dinner. My sister, husband, 2 of my children, and I all have summer birthdays, so if we or they are visiting in the summer*, we'll have a little "summer birthdays" party with a nice dinner, cake, and presents for all. *most summers, but not all because summer is a miserable time to visit their city, so we try to go in other seasons |
Anonymous
I'm a pp that said my parents send me a check. My parents are not on social security alone and did not limp into retirement. They love to brag about how "rich" they are (All 4 of my grandparents died within the last 10 years, and my parents inherited a lot of money.) They spend about $50,000 year on leisure travel (pre covid, of course.) The $100 they send me is not hurting them. |
Anonymous
| A card, a gift, and a phone call. |
Anonymous
| Yes. Gifts and calls or visits. We have up doing Xmas gifts years ago and just do birthdays instead. It's actually really nice. It spreads it out and makes the holidays low stress |
Anonymous
| I'm surprised some people's parents don't celebrate... Are some functional families? Or are estranged parents? Or dysfunctional families with abuse or such? |
Anonymous
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Yes. And my in-laws.
I am glad but they could stop and I would be fine with it too. |
Anonymous
| Yes, I'm local we always do lunch or dinner, my brother and all the kids join. there is always a card and mom usually gives me some of her (gold) jewelry. |
Anonymous
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My family often forgot my birthday as a child, My dad, in particular, would never remember it. My mom was better but it would still slip her mind every few years. She would sometimes ask me in advance if I wanted a cake or to do something, but as I got older, I had a harder time saying "yes" because I was clearly such an afterthought (I have three siblings, including one whose birthday is three weeks prior to mine, and those birthdays were always acknowledged). I don't know why my family was like this. There is nothing obvious about me that would explain their behavior to me -- I was a good student who never got in trouble and was generally pretty easy to be around. I think that just made it easier for them to forget about me. Perhaps I should have acted out.
As an adult, I live far from them for what should be obvious reasons. I think they now realize how terribly they treated me as a child, because they are always trying to "celebrate" my birthday or other holidays with me now. But that means telling me I should come visit on my birthday so that they can participate. I never do. I don't make a big deal about my birthday now, but it does always make me feel kind of depressed. I don't really care if people celebrate with their adult children, but I hope you are all celebrating with your minor children because it is borderline abusive not to. Children really need to feel valued and this is such an easy way to do it. |