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[quote=Anonymous]My family often forgot my birthday as a child, My dad, in particular, would never remember it. My mom was better but it would still slip her mind every few years. She would sometimes ask me in advance if I wanted a cake or to do something, but as I got older, I had a harder time saying "yes" because I was clearly such an afterthought (I have three siblings, including one whose birthday is three weeks prior to mine, and those birthdays were always acknowledged). I don't know why my family was like this. There is nothing obvious about me that would explain their behavior to me -- I was a good student who never got in trouble and was generally pretty easy to be around. I think that just made it easier for them to forget about me. Perhaps I should have acted out.

As an adult, I live far from them for what should be obvious reasons. I think they now realize how terribly they treated me as a child, because they are always trying to "celebrate" my birthday or other holidays with me now. But that means telling me I should come visit on my birthday so that they can participate. I never do.

I don't make a big deal about my birthday now, but it does always make me feel kind of depressed. I don't really care if people celebrate with their adult children, but I hope you are all celebrating with your minor children because it is borderline abusive not to. Children really need to feel valued and this is such an easy way to do it.[/quote]

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