Supporting a friend after death if a child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just reach out to her and ask her how she's doing. Don't push any agenda and leave it open ended.

+1. A gift basket or subscription might be nice? Salt & Straw for ice cream and something kind of like Daily Harvest for frozen meals? I didn't lose a child but frozen meals are helpful with new babies, injuries, extended illness, surgery, whatever, just to make meals a little easier or have a nice dessert or snack with very little effort.

[Anonymous]

I had a friend in similar situation earlier last year and a group of us chipped in and bought her a gift card for services from Balanced Bellies for a PP doula. To help maintain the house, give her space to shower alone, go for a walk, virtual therapist appts without worrying about the baby. We also did a meal train for 4 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Is she local? There is a wonderful Child Loss support group at JSSA (non-religious open to all) that meets now via zoom. It was our lifeline.

Helping is not negating her forever loss. Her newborn is not a replacement. All marriages suffer under catastrophic stresses be they death, financial, physiological. Covid isolâtes, profound grief even more so. Small gifts of help, caring, understanding will be appreciated. Asking is hard, accepting difficult so do what you can without expecting much.